i think my freind cuts :/

[tasminsmith]

Last week at a party my friends braclet came undone and she asked me to do it up for her so I rolled up the sleeve of her dress to fit it on her wrist but she pulled away and I saw loads of cuts. she thinks I didn't see and now I don't know if I should say something :/

[Abhorrence]

I don't know whether it's a good idea to mention it outright. Maybe talk about something you saw on a website or something. Tbh, I would let her come to you in her own time or just make sure she knows that you're there for her without mentioning it at all.

[romes3]

I don't know whether it's a good idea to mention it outright. Maybe talk about something you saw on a website or something. Tbh, I would let her come to you in her own time or just make sure she knows that you're there for her without mentioning it at all.

I agree, mentioning might cause problems. If she wants to talk about it, she will.

[Fiction]

Contrary to what other people said, i'd talk to her. Just be careful not to be accusing or aggressive and try to be as understanding as possible. If you leave it you have no chance of helping her, if you talk to her at least there is some chance.

From my experience people are usually relieved that you talk about it an acknowledge it. There is nothing worse than walking on eggshells around it, if you mention it and they decide not to talk about it, then that's there choice. If you don't mention it, you're making it more of a taboo than it needs to be.

[gothy]

that sounds terrifying. I have experienced the same thing. tell her that you saw and dont act confrontational. try to act supportive. this is the hardest part but it is important.

when my mom was more supportive and caring, it helped me, when my dad freaked out it only made me feel worse.

same goes with my friends who reacted differently.

The fact that she didnt want you to see means she knows it was not good what she did.

If you can provide support, comfort and encouragement to get get help to her, then she couldnt ask for a better friend than you.

:)

good luck. message me if you need help with this. Iv'e experienced this situation from both positions.

[VictoriaShadows]

I have some friends who cut, and I learned that even if you do say something, it's ultimately their choice if they keep doing it. All you can really do is just be the best friend that they can have and don't show them any pity or criticize them

[Meh Guy]

This is a very delicate situation. My advice, don't say anything in regards to her cutting. You may bring up the fact that she pulled away and ask about it, but don't refer to the cuts directly. Make sure you offer your support and let her know you care.

[amgb]

I reckon you should say something. I think you should just approach her at an appropriate time and place, in private, and ask her gently if she has any major problems in her life, and ask her whether she wants to talk about it. Let her know that you're there for her, and if she reacts negatively and doesn't want to talk about it, then leave her be and let her come to you in her own time. If she feels like opening up then that's really good, listen and let her know you're worried and you care. I hope everything goes well with her~