Tell me if you think I'm gay or bi.

[taylorht8397]

Well, I was born liking girls. I remember when I was really small, liking getting attention from girls in they're teens. They thought I was adorable (like everyone did). Once I started puberty i started getting turned on by the thought of a cute guy pleasuring me. Thats part of what started my masturbation. Middle school was pretty severe. All day I would think about all the cute guys i saw in the hall or in class and I would get boners. Then high school hit and I started thinking about considering a relationship with a guy. The more I fantasized about it, the more comfortable i got with the thought. Of course, developing a crush for a guy did'nt help. He's just so adorable, and his voice is so soothing. He's a human teddy bear pretty much. He plays on the football team but he doesn't seem egotistical like the others do. In fact, i hear people making fun of his height and forehead and it insults me because I'm the exact same height as him. I think he's gorgeous and idgaf what anyone says. I also never see him talking to and about girls, flirting with them, kissing them in the hallway, never hear about him "hooking up" with anyone either. He pretty much just hangs with the boys. Which is good so I don't get jealous. Anyways, if you guys can give me some insight, i'd really appreciate it! Thanks in advance!

[Dalcourt]

It's hard to say might be thatcyou are bi or bi-curious...I don't think you are gay but it's hard to say.

[mai-rin]

What peanut said.But it's for you to decide, rather than others.At the end of the day it's just a label and you will always know yourself better than anyone ^^

I mean I had a similar experience.I started off liking guys as a kid,but around 10-11 I started thinking girls were attractive and even getting kiddy crushes.It developed further, but I used to ignore it and try to convince myself it was just a phase.Now i've come to terms with how I am, because I couldnt see myself any other way - it's who I am. I only just came out to my parents as bi september (best thing I've ever done by the way) This kind of thing can be hard, especially for teens because we're still in secondary school/ high school so there's a lot of 'closed' minds on the matter.Luckily I attend and all girls academy so no one really cares, considering theres about 18 lbgt in my year.

All I can say is, just a repeat really.And it's true, no one else can decide for you.You'll find out in time, and if you don't then that's fine.Labels aren't necessary anyway.

[Abhorrence]

If you were to label yourself then you'd probably be leaning towards the gay side I'd say. You mention boys a lot and I don't really know the time period between middle school and high school because I'm not American but it seems like quite a while? So that's not really just a bi-curious phase to me. Since you've hit puberty you haven't mentioned girls so that's a pretty good indication that you might be gay.

But hey, don't worry about labelling yourself.

[Zachary G]

dont be so quick to label yourself as gay, for all you know you could be bi - bi curious. its really hard to tell you anything because you never mentioned how you feel when you see a cute girl like when you see a cute guy. from all of the information that you have given, you have just described yourself and being gay when that may not be the case.

[taylorht8397]

Thanks for all the responses guys! It really helped. I'd prefer not to label myself anything.
But you know how society is, always requiring labels. I would just like to call it "i like who I like and that's that". We're all human here. I wish the thick headed gay-haters would get it through they're thick skull.

[Owen727]

hey taylor i am probably too young to really have any good advice but i agree with everyone else - it sounds like you're probably at least bi curious but who cares about the label
good luck dude!

[SethfromMI]

maybe at least bi-curious

[Calliope]

Do you feel any attraction to girls? If not, you're most likely gay.
I'd prefer not to label myself anything.
I would just like to call it "i like who I like and that's that".
Then why did you post this thread?

[taylorht8397]

Do you feel any attraction to girls? If not, you're most likely gay.

Then why did you post this thread?

Because, I wanted an opinion from an outside party. That's all.

[Body odah Man]

Well, I was born liking girls. I remember when I was really small, liking getting attention from girls in they're teens. They thought I was adorable (like everyone did). Once I started puberty i started getting turned on by the thought of a cute guy pleasuring me. Thats part of what started my masturbation. Middle school was pretty severe. All day I would think about all the cute guys i saw in the hall or in class and I would get boners. Then high school hit and I started thinking about considering a relationship with a guy. The more I fantasized about it, the more comfortable i got with the thought. Of course, developing a crush for a guy did'nt help. He's just so adorable, and his voice is so soothing. He's a human teddy bear pretty much. He plays on the football team but he doesn't seem egotistical like the others do. In fact, i hear people making fun of his height and forehead and it insults me because I'm the exact same height as him. I think he's gorgeous and idgaf what anyone says. I also never see him talking to and about girls, flirting with them, kissing them in the hallway, never hear about him "hooking up" with anyone either. He pretty much just hangs with the boys. Which is good so I don't get jealous. Anyways, if you guys can give me some insight, i'd really appreciate it! Thanks in advance!

I honestly don't know. I think it depends on whether people are born gay or can become gay. If it's the latter: ur gay. If the former: you're bi (I think). What's more important, though, is if you are ok with being gay.

[thetransylvanianguy]

I would answer your question with another question : are you compatible to girls in a sexual,or just in a romantic way? It's complicated,although I'd advise you to...not be resentful about the possibility of you being gay/bi. my humble opinion is that...you may be 4-5 on the Kinsey scale. If you have other questions,you can ask me.

[cami]

I think you should decide that.
To me, it sounds like bi.

[Straya]

Well, I was born liking girls. I remember when I was really small, liking getting attention from girls in they're teens. They thought I was adorable (like everyone did). Once I started puberty i started getting turned on by the thought of a cute guy pleasuring me. Thats part of what started my masturbation. Middle school was pretty severe. All day I would think about all the cute guys i saw in the hall or in class and I would get boners. Then high school hit and I started thinking about considering a relationship with a guy. The more I fantasized about it, the more comfortable i got with the thought. Of course, developing a crush for a guy did'nt help. He's just so adorable, and his voice is so soothing. He's a human teddy bear pretty much. He plays on the football team but he doesn't seem egotistical like the others do. In fact, i hear people making fun of his height and forehead and it insults me because I'm the exact same height as him. I think he's gorgeous and idgaf what anyone says. I also never see him talking to and about girls, flirting with them, kissing them in the hallway, never hear about him "hooking up" with anyone either. He pretty much just hangs with the boys. Which is good so I don't get jealous. Anyways, if you guys can give me some insight, i'd really appreciate it! Thanks in advance!

by what youve described id say your atleast bi but id say more gay though

[Wyatt 13]

Dude too soon to label yourself.

[rhysyb]

I would say you are more bi than anything else, but who knows?

[jssixna]

By how you described yourself, I'd say you are more gay than straight. If anything you're bisexual.

[Sardonical]

I would think bisexual, but you didn't mention anything about an attraction towards girls. Additionally the thought of a guy is what started you to pleasure yourself, so I'm thinking you might be leaning a lot towards being gay or at least more attracted to guys that girls.

[Andrew.1]

youre most likely bi.

[DoodleSnap]

Considering everything, it would sound like you are bisexual, with a sexual preference towards guys. Don't get yourself too worked up about it though, because as long as you feel comfortable about your own sexuality, then fitting a certain label really doesn't matter too much.