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miguelc
December 26th, 2014, 10:24 PM
Sorry this post is so long. Thanks to any all who take the time to read it.

We all have that "what if" person. You know, that person that you'll always wonder "what if". What if things were different? What if I did things differently? What if we were together today? Well, I dated my "what if" girl and I messed it up. I wanted to send her a Christmas message telling her how I feel but it's too late it's December 26th. I need your opinions on what I was going to say.

A little background:
We were best friends. She always came to talk to me when she needed someone and I did the same. And slowly but surely we fell for each other. After a camp we broke up with our gf/bf and started dating. Everything was going well until her grandma died. She wanted space but I did nothing but smother her trying to cheer her up. That's how I messed everything up. First day at college we broke up. A week later I found out she went back to her ex bf and I realized he was the one there for her when she needed him while I was stuck 3 hours away. Anyway, every single day I think about her and wonder what if I had done things differently. Now we barely talk and it's nothing more than the occasional pleasantries on the holidays. I know that she's moved on but no matter what I do I can't.



This is what I was going to say...

"You and I were best friends and in hindsight we should've stayed that way. You always came too me when you needed me and I to you. We talked about everything, our problems, our lives, we would stay up half the night talking and that was the best part of my day, talking to you. I'm sorry for how I was when your grandma died, you needed space and all i did was smother you. I'll regret that for the rest of my life because I lost you. I'm not upset because I lost you as my girlfriend, I'm upset because I lost my best friend in the world. I lost you out of my life. And I know that things can never go back to what they used to be.

Things are going well with my girlfriend, and I know things will work out for the best but just let me say, without hope or agenda, just because it's Christmas. I love you...and I will always love you. Despite all your flaws, your stubbornness, and your "complicatedness", to me, you're perfect. I'm happy that you're happy with Dylan, God knows all I've ever wanted is for you to be happy. But dammit, what if? That's the question that will always haunt me.... Merry Christmas Brodi."

What do you think of it? Too sappy? Too forward? General opinions? Should I have sent it?

Thanks everyone.

onewingedangel666
December 26th, 2014, 10:28 PM
It's great.
I'd still send it, actually.
It's nice to know I'm not the only one who writes long heartfelt mesages to girls haha.

highschool
December 27th, 2014, 07:33 AM
This is so cute

Tony_777
December 27th, 2014, 09:43 AM
Miguel, go on. It sounds great. You are a good writter, I guess you read a lot of books, but yeah, It looks very nice, very honest.

You should try it, it won't hurt you if you do.

I relly hope that is get's better between the 2 of you and maybe... i would love to know that you got back

Abhorrence
December 27th, 2014, 10:10 AM
It sounds good, it's a good gesture and it sounds like a good idea but I don't know whether you should send it. I sent a similar message to my ex-best friend and ex-boyfriend saying I still had feelings and I apologised so much for messing things up. It didn't turn out well. We can barely even look at each other anymore. I ended up self-harming again and things just went really downhill because of his response.

I mean you may be in a totally different situation and if it feels necessary then do send it. Because, I suppose, despite the negative response and the life-crushing emotions I felt for two months - I am getting better now. I know that nothing will ever come back and I'm fine with it. I accept it.

JoeDangit
December 27th, 2014, 06:59 PM
Do it by letter and hand-writing.

75% sure women like it when guys do it like that.

SethfromMI
December 27th, 2014, 07:52 PM
Do it by letter and hand-writing.

75% sure women like it when guys do it like that.

I agree, hand write it

miguelc
December 27th, 2014, 08:57 PM
Do you guys think this sounds better or the first one.

"You and I were best friends and in hindsight we should've stayed that way. You always came too me when you needed me and I to you. We talked about everything, our problems, our lives, we would stay up half the night talking and it was worth screwing my sleep schedule because that was the best part of my day. I'm sorry for how I was when your grandma died, you needed space and all i did was smother you. I'll regret that for the rest of my life because I lost you. I'm not upset because I lost my girlfriend, I'm upset because I lost my best friend in the world. I lost you out of my life. Before we dated you made me promise you wouldn't lose me as a friend and I promised that you never will, well that’s as true today as when I said it back then. I miss you. I miss stubborn as hell, "complicated", Brodi. I know we'll never be able to go back to what we were before we dated and that kills me because a friend like you is hard to come by. And I don't want you to start talking to me again because you feel bad. I only want you to talk to me if you want to or if you need to. Anyway, I just thought I should get that off my chest"

Tony_777
December 28th, 2014, 07:38 AM
Everything sounds good, except the chest part... you should mean Heart. right? You are getting that off your heart as you still like her.

The letter does sound nice, but yet again, handwritting it it's way much better.