I don't wanna keep my relationship a secret

[YellowBlur]

Hey, it's been a year since I last posted here, don't know if this is the right forum, but...

About 2 or 3 weeks ago, I started dating another guy for the first time. We've been seeing eachother for a bit longer than that though. All our friends know about our relationship, and we are pretty sure of what we feel and want ourselves, but I've been feeling the need of telling about it to my parents, and possibly the rest of my family as well. I don't like keeping secrets, and having to hide everything from my parents isn't comfortable at all. I always have to make up lies and excuses, which I'm terrible at, and I'm still not sure whether they have accepted or not to a complete extent the fact that I'm gay (they've known it for a year and a half now though). But my boyfriend says telling them is not a good idea, all my friends and my therapist also say my parents shouldn't know about it. I have no idea how they would take it, it could make everything easier, it could make everything a lot harder. What should I do?

[churris]

Well, you know your parents better than anybody, do you think they'd be okay with it? You could always bring up the subject to see their reactions, talk about someone you know dating another guy or celebrities, maybe? Making up lies is hard, and they may suspect after a while. If you know they will take it well or don't care, then tell them.

[SethfromMI]

well how do they feel about those types of relationships? how do they react when they hear things they don't like? hopefully you would not be in a position in which you would have you parents be upset about you. do what churris said and based on that, decide if you should tell them or not

[Bull]

Just live your life with your boyfriend. Don't make excuses, just be natural with bf activities and you will not need to tell anyone, they will see how happy the two of you are as you enjoy life together.

[Tony_777]

I think talking to your parents is always an option, unless (in some cases) your parents are good being parents, you know, like my father drinked a lot of alcohol and stuff, so he was not a good person to talk to.
But, If your parents are good, and you have a good relationship with them and don't want to end it, then just talk to them. Make an appointment.

[maniamsmart]

Considering that your therapist said that you shouldn't and I am no therapist (even though people consider me one), I would have to agree with him then. Unless you can give us more information about your parents and why you are scared to tell them, I'd say keep it a secret.