How do I get a girl to like me?

[averygamerdude]

I'm lonely and single at the moment, but I'm completely lost on what to do. I feel like there's no way I can get a girl to like me, because I have no money, no car, am in emotional grief, and I'm scary looking. I feel like the only way I can get a girl to like me is if I'm good looking and rich. Both will probably never happen. I'm just sick of being the only one in the room without a date. Especially after what happened a month ago at the outdoor mall. I was there, looking for some stuff I could get. It was late at night, and I was sitting on this bench, while I saw a bunch of happy couples having a great time with each other. I felt pretty bad, but what happened next is what nailed the coffin. I saw 3 women in their 20's, wearing minidresses and high heels, and then some guy in a suit driving a frigging amazing glitzy Mitsubishi Lancer with LEDs on the bottom, drove next to them and said "Hey, wanna ride?" Then, they were EXTREMELY elated, and they said that they "won't be needing these anymore", and they pulled down their neon colored thongs and flicked them off their feet onto the sidewalk. They then got in the car, and he drove off. I was crestfallen. How can I compete with THAT?! I'm no match for handsome men in suits driving sports cars that cost more than my mom makes in a year to modify! I'm just sick of being a loser. How can I get a date without being rich?

[Emerald Dream]

Unfortunately, there is too much importance placed on "good looks" (which is incredibly subjective anyways) and owning or having access to expensive or luxurious possessions. However, a lot of people are not looking for these things and just want someone they feel connected to or someone who understands them.

Honestly - I would much rather date someone who is nice to me, actually wants to talk to me, and shares common interests with me - than an egotistical person who is overly vain and cares about showing off their money, car, or anything else they own. I don't care what you drive or what gadgets you own.

If you get caught up in worrying about materialism yourself, then you will see that materialism and what you "don't have" as a problem. Try to concentrate on some things about your personality that you can use to connect with someone else, even it is talking about something simple. A lot of the time that means a great deal when getting to know someone or when starting a relationship. I am a lot more likely to remember someone fondly for giving me a unique compliment or discovering what my goals are in life - than some random dude with a sportscar.

What you describe is an awful stereotype, and not very realistic.

[averygamerdude]

Unfortunately, there is too much importance placed on "good looks" (which is incredibly subjective anyways) and owning or having access to expensive or luxurious possessions. However, a lot of people are not looking for these things and just want someone they feel connected to or someone who understands them.

Honestly - I would much rather date someone who is nice to me, actually wants to talk to me, and shares common interests with me - than an egotistical person who is overly vain and cares about showing off their money, car, or anything else they own. I don't care what you drive or what gadgets you own.

If you get caught up in worrying about materialism yourself, then you will see that materialism and what you "don't have" as a problem. Try to concentrate on some things about your personality that you can use to connect with someone else, even it is talking about something simple. A lot of the time that means a great deal when getting to know someone or when starting a relationship. I am a lot more likely to remember someone fondly for giving me a unique compliment or discovering what my goals are in life - than some random dude with a sportscar.

What you describe is an awful stereotype, and not very realistic.

Thanks. But somehow, I don't think it'll work. Worth a shot, though! Besides, I don't want my special one to wear thongs or g-strings, anyway. But I wouldn't mind the pulling down underwear part. :P

[Saint of Sinners]

Getting laid < falling in love.

Picking girls up in your Buggati Veyron < going on a road trip with the love of your life in a piece of shit car.

Copious amounts of sex in your penthouse < just laying with your SO in a treehouse under the stars.

Money and good looks gets you lust. Only your personality can get you love.

Things will work out in the end, mate:). Trust me.

[averygamerdude]

Getting laid < falling in love.

Picking girls up in your Buggati Veyron < going on a road trip with the love of your life in a piece of shit car.

Copious amounts of sex in your penthouse < just laying with your SO in a treehouse under the stars.

Money and good looks gets you lust. Only your personality can get you love.

Things will work out in the end, mate:). Trust me.

Can't we "make love" too?

Can't I go on a road trip in a Chevrolet Avalanche?

How can I see stars while laying down and looking up in a treehouse? lol

Otherwise, I love everything you said :) I sure hope everything works out...

[Saint of Sinners]

Can't we "make love" too?

Can't I go on a road trip in a Chevrolet Avalanche?

How can I see stars while laying down and looking up in a treehouse? lol

Otherwise, I love everything you said :) I sure hope everything works out...

Shitty cars have character ok?!

Also it's a roofless treehouse

It will:)

[averygamerdude]

Shitty cars have character ok?!

Also it's a roofless treehouse

It will:)

Okay, okay! Chill out, dude! :/

See? You just had to explain it!

Yeah, but I can still only hope. :/

[Uranus]

Getting laid < falling in love.

Picking girls up in your Buggati Veyron < going on a road trip with the love of your life in a piece of shit car.

Copious amounts of sex in your penthouse < just laying with your SO in a treehouse under the stars.

Money and good looks gets you lust. Only your personality can get you love.

Things will work out in the end, mate:). Trust me.

Can't we "make love" too?

Can't I go on a road trip in a Chevrolet Avalanche?

How can I see stars while laying down and looking up in a treehouse? lol

Otherwise, I love everything you said :) I sure hope everything works out...

What Saint Of Sinners said is correct. You don't have to have all the great things in life for a girl to like you. You don't have to have a $10Million home. A $425K car. You don't have to be the attractive guy to find a girl. What really matters is your personality and how you show her your love for her and her the same. And to your other questions, yes you can make love/fuck/have sex. He didn't say you couldn't. And yes you can go on a road trip with a Chevrolet Avalanche.

Love comes before the extras.
If the extras come first, it wont work. Once you find that girl, then you can have the extras, such as a nice car and house.

[averygamerdude]

What Saint Of Sinners said is correct. You don't have to have all the great things in life for a girl to like you. You don't have to have a $10Million home. A $425K car. You don't have to be the attractive guy to find a girl. What really matters is your personality and how you show her your love for her and her the same. And to your other questions, yes you can make love/fuck/have sex. He didn't say you couldn't. And yes you can go on a road trip with a Chevrolet Avalanche.

Love comes before the extras.
If the extras come first, it wont work. Once you find that girl, then you can have the extras, such as a nice car and house.

Okay. :)

[Meh Guy]

Unfortunately, there is too much importance placed on "good looks" (which is incredibly subjective anyways) and owning or having access to expensive or luxurious possessions. However, a lot of people are not looking for these things and just want someone they feel connected to or someone who understands them.

Honestly - I would much rather date someone who is nice to me, actually wants to talk to me, and shares common interests with me - than an egotistical person who is overly vain and cares about showing off their money, car, or anything else they own. I don't care what you drive or what gadgets you own.

If you get caught up in worrying about materialism yourself, then you will see that materialism and what you "don't have" as a problem. Try to concentrate on some things about your personality that you can use to connect with someone else, even it is talking about something simple. A lot of the time that means a great deal when getting to know someone or when starting a relationship. I am a lot more likely to remember someone fondly for giving me a unique compliment or discovering what my goals are in life - than some random dude with a sportscar.

What you describe is an awful stereotype, and not very realistic.

This is pretty sound advice. There are people who care about personality first. Find some of these people, get to know them, and then move forward from there.

[CosmicNoodle]

Can't we "make love" too?

Can't I go on a road trip in a Chevrolet Avalanche?

How can I see stars while laying down and looking up in a treehouse? lol

Otherwise, I love everything you said :) I sure hope everything works out...

You want to much out of life, just be happy with your 2002 1.2L hatchback, girlfriend with greasy hair and caravan in a bad end of town.
Seriously, if you can just figure out to be happy with what you have, and be happy with who you have an who you are, you'll be happier than most people who drive an Aston Martin and live in Hollywood, lesson for life, chill the fuck out and relax.

As for the girl problems, just give it time eventually you find someone you genuonly care about, everyone does in the end.

[averygamerdude]

You want to much out of life, just be happy with your 2002 1.2L hatchback, girlfriend with greasy hair and caravan in a bad end of town.
Seriously, if you can just figure out to be happy with what you have, and be happy with who you have an who you are, you'll be happier than most people who drive an Aston Martin and live in Hollywood, lesson for life, chill the fuck out and relax.

As for the girl problems, just give it time eventually you find someone you genuonly care about, everyone does in the end.

Being happy about that is like being happy about having no limbs. :/

[CosmicNoodle]

Being happy about that is like being happy about having no limbs. :/

Ohh I give the fuck up, do what you want, I give no shits. Be unhappy and bitch about it on the internet all day, do what you want.