so lonely

[gothy]

I'm so lonely. I mean at my age every girl seems pretty settled in a relationship. So , im single. I am so lonely. And i don't want to be alone forever. I don't know how to gwt a girlfriend anymore, even if there was a single girl i liked. And im afraid to ask any girl out because im scared she won't like me back. But my biggest problem is im getting older, and it only gets harder to find a girlfriend. ;(

[dreamofdante]

I'm so lonely. I mean at my age every girl seems pretty settled in a relationship. So , im single. I am so lonely. And i don't want to be alone forever. I don't know how to gwt a girlfriend anymore, even if there was a single girl i liked. And im afraid to ask any girl out because im scared she won't like me back. But my biggest problem is im getting older, and it only gets harder to find a girlfriend. ;(

Me too, pal. Me too.

[KansasNavy]

Dude, you're 18. The average life expectancy in Canada is 81. On average, you have 63 years left to find someone. You're still young, and you have a ton of time left, and guess what? There's an entire world of people out there for you to meet. So you're wrong when you say every girl your age is settled in a relationship. It's in all likelihood quite the opposite.

I get that you're lonely; so am I. But sitting here not doing anything about it isn't helping either. If you want a girlfriend go out and get one! How do you know if she doesn't like you if you don't even try? Quit. Being. Afraid.

Fear doesn't prevent death or failure or rejection; it prevents life.

[BlackParadePixie]

Being scared about rejection or not being liked is only going to ensure that you stay single forever. Failure and disappointment is a part of life, nobody bats 1.000 when it comes to relationships.

[gothy]

Well the thing is. Im the type of guy some girlls want to be friends with. But definitely not date. I don't know why.

[SethfromMI]

you are 18 you still got plenty of time

[Dortmund]

I feel exactly the same and I'm a year older than you. If there's one thing I've learnt, it's never give up.

Giving up doesn't resolve anything, trying gives you a chance. You might get rejected a few times across the way but that's life, if they reject you they aren't the ones for you. But when you find that right girl you'll feel on top of the world and everything you've been through will have been worth it.

[maniamsmart]

Well the thing is. Im the type of guy some girlls want to be friends with. But definitely not date. I don't know why.

Why do you say that though? Do you have any idea why this could be happening? I think you're still young enough to find a girl, and believe that you can sill in fact find a girl. Most people at this age may have a boyfriend as you say, but most relationships at this age also don't last very long since girls and guys are still maturing at this age and exploring their preferences for possible spouses and dates. So I don't think you need to be very worried about not finding a girl.

Why don't you try going out and making some new friends? Do you have a job or go to school? Try to be more social and meet some new people, I am sure you'll find someone who will find you attractive and become fond of you :)

[Meh Guy]

Being scared about rejection or not being liked is only going to ensure that you stay single forever. Failure and disappointment is a part of life, nobody bats 1.000 when it comes to relationships.

The biggest thing for most guys (and some girls) is rejection. You must overcome your fear of it and... "Man" up. I know it might be awkward, but think of it this way, when she says no, you say, okay and move on. It might sting, but you'll get over it. And then one day, you'll get the "yes" you're waiting for.

[Jason The Great]

Rejection is fine. There's nothing to be ashamed of about it. But you should at least give it a try. Maybe things would turn out the way you liked them to be.

Give it a try , buddie. Just once.

[maniamsmart]

Rejection is fine. There's nothing to be ashamed of about it. But you should at least give it a try. Maybe things would turn out the way you liked them to be.

Give it a try , buddie. Just once.

Right, you learn from rejection, everyone goes through it, and no one is going to (or shouldn't) judge you.

[randomuser123]

I think you need to realise that relationships are less important that everyone makes them out to be. I think that having a good solid base of friendships is far more important than finding one person that you can claim to be romantically attached to for a year or so.

Friendships, if they are good ones, can last far longer than relationships at your age and can also be far more fulfilling. While I accept that it is always nice to have someone that loves you and wants to be with you, ask yourself why you are honestly so in need of a relationship?

Loneliness is a big problem - I am lonely most of the time...I haven't spoken to a girl in real life outside of my family since before the Summer! But when you realise that relationships aren't that important, you will be much happier.

I think everyone goes through a phase, at some age, where they feel social and emotional pressure to be in a relationship. This is perfectly natural. There is however a world of 7 billion people out there, and the likelihood is - more than one of them will be compatible with you. The fact that most people seem to find someone compatible by the age of about 30 implies that there are thousands, if not millions of compatible people in this world, also looking for someone just like you.

Good luck in the future and I hope you find happiness, whether in a relationship or out of it!