coming out

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If/when I come out as gay, how will the girls I've hooked up with react?

[James Dean]

That's the whole thing about coming out. You don't know what reaction someone is going to have. I will say that in that type of situation it's best to be honest and don't lead and trick them on like that.

If there are attraction issues, just break up and don't stay together. You don't have to come out if you don't want to. However, just be honest and let them know. Whether it is a positive or negative reaction, understand where they are coming from. Best of luck with you. :)

[Zachary G]

That's the whole thing about coming out. You don't know what reaction someone is going to have. I will say that in that type of situation it's best to be honest and don't lead and trick them on like that.

If there are attraction issues, just break up and don't stay together. You don't have to come out if you don't want to. However, just be honest and let them know. Whether it is a positive or negative reaction, understand where they are coming from. Best of luck with you. :)

Once again, Celt has hit this one out of the park. He is right on point with this advice, just be honest.

[Harley Quinn]

If/when I come out as gay, how will the girls I've hooked up with react?

If the girl reacts differently from what you actually want, is she really someone to hook up with anyway? I mean, I don't see why you need to actually tell anyone you hook up with your sexuality.

[Bull]

I don't get the whole "coming out" thing. If you are hetero, gay, bi, whatever, just live your life and people will know your orientation by the life you live, hence, no need to "come out"; you are out. How other people react is beyond your control. If they drop you as a friend, well they weren't much of a friend to begin with. Real friendship is an unconditional acceptance of people. Be yourself and enjoy life.

[ValentinClarke]

I don't get the whole "coming out" thing. If you are hetero, gay, bi, whatever, just live your life and people will know your orientation by the life you live, hence, no need to "come out"; you are out. How other people react is beyond your control. If they drop you as a friend, well they weren't much of a friend to begin with. Real friendship is an unconditional acceptance of people. Be yourself and enjoy life.
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thanks everyone that helped a lot

[SethfromMI]

depends on the girl, how can we know how they will react?

[Meh Guy]

Depends. It really depends on the person and you really have no idea how or even if they'll react.