Stepdad Too Strict

[mariozplaze]

Let start off by saying that most of this is because of me getting into some trouble when I was fifteen, but it's been TWO YEARS now without me getting so much as a referral in school, so I feel this is unnecessary.

My stepdad hardly ever allows me to do anything, I rarely ever get to be social with my friends (especially my girlfriend) and if I do, he makes it a point to ensure an adult is around. Every time I'm on the Internet (except for Xbox Live) he wants to know what websites I'm on and my Facebook password so he can see who I'm messaging. He won't even allow me to stay home alone, as if he thinks I'm going to host some wild orgy or something! He's made it clear that I'll be able to do whatever I want once I'm eighteen in five months, but I want to have fun while I'm still legally a kid! There's so much I'm missing out on! And I understand that it is my fault partially, but like I said, I've been behaving myself! How do you deal with something like this?

[Dortmund]

You should make the point to him that you'll be 18 next year and also an adult. In the next few years life is going to force you to be independent and if he won't allow it now then simply he is holding you back.

You need to be able to make your own decisions and mistakes because that's what we learn from. That's how we experience life. If he can't accept that his over-protectiveness is only a hindrance.

[CosmicNoodle]

He's not even your real dad, I didn it hard to believe the audacity that man has.

I think after two years I would have flipped my shit, changed my passwords, refused to tell him where I was going, what I was doing who I was seeing etc etc, yuop, definitely would have flipped the fuck out well before now, you clearly have patience, but far took much.

Just because he walked into your life and became a surrogate dad doesn't mean he is allowed to make you miserable

[lilg]

Just because someone isn't your biological dad doesn't mean they're not your "dad." For all you know he's been his step dad since he was a baby. You shouldn't assume so much just because someone is a step dad.

That being said, yeah that's crazy strict, what the heck did you do?? :p

Have you tried talking to him? Tell him how you feel and stuff?

[Zachary G]

My dads been pretty strict with me because of something I did when I was 13, but he hasnt gone as far as asking for my passwords and stuff like that that would invade my privacy; he still lets me hang with my friends and stuff, but he has never gone overboard like that. I think your step-dad has really gone to extremes with invading your privacy and all. I dont know how you havent flipped out on him.

[cami]

Try talking to him. There must be a reason why he's so strict with you.

[Body odah Man]

I agree. Try talking with him and fixing the situation. If that fails, guess you have to wait til your majority; you can't force the guy to change

[NeuroTiger]

Well, I don't think you'll want to share what happened when you were 15 but im pretty sure that there's a reason why he is so strict. Bear with it for 5more months dude.

[mariozplaze]

Thanks for all the great responses guys.

[pascaldesla]

Let start off by saying that most of this is because of me getting into some trouble when I was fifteen, but it's been TWO YEARS now without me getting so much as a referral in school, so I feel this is unnecessary.

My stepdad hardly ever allows me to do anything, I rarely ever get to be social with my friends (especially my girlfriend) and if I do, he makes it a point to ensure an adult is around. Every time I'm on the Internet (except for Xbox Live) he wants to know what websites I'm on and my Facebook password so he can see who I'm messaging. He won't even allow me to stay home alone, as if he thinks I'm going to host some wild orgy or something! He's made it clear that I'll be able to do whatever I want once I'm eighteen in five months, but I want to have fun while I'm still legally a kid! There's so much I'm missing out on! And I understand that it is my fault partially, but like I said, I've been behaving myself! How do you deal with something like this?
How long is he your stepdad?

[Emerald Dream]

How long is he your stepdad?

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