what the fuck man

[Broken Toy]

This might get long but lets see.

My best friend, who i happen to lobe how fucking brilliant, is totally confusing and doesn't care about anyone.

So she was getting with this lad who's my friend, then talking to a lad she used to like, even though she said she doesn't like him, while acting flirty and planning dinner dates with my other friend for his birthday, while avoiding another lad she used to be 'getting in with'.

Now she got with the lad she used to like. I cant fucking deal with it, its unfair on my friend she was talking to, confusing for my other friend planning dates, and doesn't make sense. I think, to use a regional phrase, its sly as fuck but i still happen to love her and i still feel i should be her best friend because no one really likes her (but they wont say it to her face, which is also sly) so i haven't got a clue and i have my own problems.

What the hell?

[Plane And Simple]

It may sound harsh but it's just better to stay away from those kind of girls and guys. If you end up with her in the end she'll mess around with you as she's doing with everyone else, which only will make you feel worse.

[maniamsmart]

Perhaps she is bipolar? I know some people who are like this, and the best thing to do is either to stay away as the user above me posted, or to stay with them and help them. Considering the fact that you have your own problems, I'd say stay away from the drama, but you could still be her friend... not sure, difficult situation if you ask me, since you also don't want to throw a friend away. The question is, is she worth the stress?

[Broken Toy]

Perhaps she is bipolar? I know some people who are like this, and the best thing to do is either to stay away as the user above me posted, or to stay with them and help them. Considering the fact that you have your own problems, I'd say stay away from the drama, but you could still be her friend... not sure, difficult situation if you ask me, since you also don't want to throw a friend away. The question is, is she worth the stress?

thanks for all the advice, i guess she must be cos i love her, but im not sure why anymore, i just do. like she used to be this perfect girl who i just wasnt good enough for and now people saying stuff like "she doesnt deserve you" and im like, what now? we still get on well but she is hurting everyone and im all shes got when it bites her in the ass

[maniamsmart]

thanks for all the advice, i guess she must be cos i love her, but im not sure why anymore, i just do. like she used to be this perfect girl who i just wasnt good enough for and now people saying stuff like "she doesnt deserve you" and im like, what now? we still get on well but she is hurting everyone and im all shes got when it bites her in the ass

You're welcome, and if it's what it's come down to as you described, I think you should just try to talk to her about it when she is stress free, and maybe explain some of the things you don't like. Ask her why she does some of the things she is doing, and try to help each other. If it's the only person you got, I don't think you should throw her away... then you'd have no one. If it comes to a point where it can't be resolved I guess you'd have to find someone else. Don't let anyone tell you what to do or how to live your life, because only you can know how to live it, and only you can know how to feel towards something or someone. So follow your heart, and if you think you deserve her and she deserves you then don't listen to the others that say so differently.

With this being said, don't be oblivious either and refuse to take what others say into consideration, because advice is always helpful, but just try to make things work first.

[Broken Toy]

You're welcome, and if it's what it's come down to as you described, I think you should just try to talk to her about it when she is stress free, and maybe explain some of the things you don't like. Ask her why she does some of the things she is doing, and try to help each other. If it's the only person you got, I don't think you should throw her away... then you'd have no one. If it comes to a point where it can't be resolved I guess you'd have to find someone else. Don't let anyone tell you what to do or how to live your life, because only you can know how to live it, and only you can know how to feel towards something or someone. So follow your heart, and if you think you deserve her and she deserves you then don't listen to the others that say so differently.

With this being said, don't be oblivious either and refuse to take what others say into consideration, because advice is always helpful, but just try to make things work first.

you are seriously good at advice, u cabt believe i missed you joining, where havei been

[maniamsmart]

you are seriously good at advice, u cabt believe i missed you joining, where havei been

I mostly hang out in the Relationship and Dating section, haha :P I just come to the other Help and Advice sections every few days to see if there are any unanswered posts I can pitch in to :)

[SethfromMI]

It may sound harsh but it's just better to stay away from those kind of girls and guys. If you end up with her in the end she'll mess around with you as she's doing with everyone else, which only will make you feel worse.

sad, but true