What to do? Getting tired of things.

[Dortmund]

To start really, I've never had a proper girlfriend.

I've gotten close to girls in the past, but at the end of the day they want nothing more than a friendship. I've got no problem talking to girls and whatnot but I can never make it past that friendship stage and as I begin to get older it's something that's beginning to bug me.

Every girl I've ever fallen for has knocked me back. Whilst I'm a reasonably confident kind of person it is something that begins to play on your mind after a while. I'm concerned I never seem to catch a break.

Admittedly I'm not exactly the best looking of guys and that frustrates me but nobody is perfect are they? I just want to know if there's something I'm missing because as I grow older I seem to be the odd one out. My friends are getting into relationships, serious ones, I'm not talking 6 month things here and yet I'm the guy who has to sit back and watch everyone else being happy. I'm used to being single but I just want to experience actually having someone for a change.

Sorry about the long post. Thanks for any advice in advance.

[maniamsmart]

Before I can give you an accurate and helpful answer I'd need to know what you usually do with girls. I know that they usually friendzone you, but how? How do you go about trying to get close to a girl?

[Dortmund]

Just the usual getting to know them for a bit, being somewhat flirty, going out and doing stuff with them. Then I always get the 'Oh I had a feeling you liked me, sorry for leading you on'. I've had that one a good 3 times now.

Then it's the usual jazz of 'you're a really sweet guy and all, and you'll find someone if you keep trying'. Especially the last girl. Turned me down but then seemed to have no trouble giving a random guy she'd just met a blowjob a few days later. You just kinda get to a point where you think, what an earth do I have to do?

[maniamsmart]

Just the usual getting to know them for a bit, being somewhat flirty, going out and doing stuff with them. Then I always get the 'Oh I had a feeling you liked me, sorry for leading you on'. I've had that one a good 3 times now.

Then it's the usual jazz of 'you're a really sweet guy and all, and you'll find someone if you keep trying'. Especially the last girl. Turned me down but then seemed to have no trouble giving a random guy she'd just met a blowjob a few days later. You just kinda get to a point where you think, what an earth do I have to do?

Wow. That is either some really bad luck, or you're just getting the wrong girls. Hmm... well everything that you do seems like what any other guy would do. Do you think that you may be doing something that could push them away or make them not want to date you? I mean, I don't see a problem with what you are doing, so I don't think it's you that is doing something wrong but rather the girls.

Where do you usually meet these girls?

[Dortmund]

Wow. That is either some really bad luck, or you're just getting the wrong girls. Hmm... well everything that you do seems like what any other guy would do. Do you think that you may be doing something that could push them away or make them not want to date you? I mean, I don't see a problem with what you are doing, so I don't think it's you that is doing something wrong but rather the girls.

Where do you usually meet these girls?

My luck honestly sucks. I'd say I'm quite a nice person and I genuinely make a good effort with girls but it never works. These are girls that I met at college. And since I've moved and started University it's been the same.

[maniamsmart]

My luck honestly sucks. I'd say I'm quite a nice person and I genuinely make a good effort with girls but it never works. These are girls that I met at college. And since I've moved and started University it's been the same.

Maybe not many of the girls that you are talking to are looking for a serious relationship like you are. Perhaps you should not expect to have a girl be your girlfriend but first just be her friend, and expect to stay her friend, get to know her, see what she is looking for in a man, and then see if you can fulfill those expectations. Perhaps you aren't friends with some of them for long enough for them to really see what kind of a good guy you are.

[Saint of Sinners]

Maybe the girls that you approach so far are simply just not into you? You don't sound like you're doing anything wrong, so it might not be your fault, just bad luck? Or maybe the girls you approach just happen to have different definitions of physically attractive?(no offense intended).
Sorry for not giving a straight answer but I really don't see what you're doing wrong.