How to confront my dad about his mastrubating problems?

[Drummer Ben]

My dad is in his mid 40's. It doesn't bother me so much that he does it but how much he does it and how it's affecting our family. The rooms in our house are kind of right on top of each other not that large. At night he has no problem putting porn on our biggest flat screen T.V with the volume up and the dog in the room. I have to awkwardly tip toe past the room at night if I decide to get a drink of water in the kitchen. He clogs up the DVR with porn so whenever I go through it with someone they see all these screwed up things which is embarrassing. I can hear it from my room for like 5 hours at night. He watches it till 4am and gets no sleep.

Just my opinion, once you have a wife and kids you stop watching porn period but that's just bringing morals into the equation. At least do it with the door shut on your phone or laptop not on the loudest biggest T.V. in the house on a couch we all use. I am anonymous on hear so anyone complaining that I shouldn't be talking about my dad like this good luck finding out who he is. Anyways I wouldn't be bringing up this on hear if I wasn't desperate for help.

[Body odah Man]

I'd try talking to him about it. Let him know that it rlly discomforts you and makes you feel very uncomfortable. Don't make it a confrontation but a sort of calm, reasonable discussion. Good luck dude

[Dalcourt]

my dad also watches a lot of porn but it doesn't really bother me. if you feel uncomfortable tell him...I don't think there's another solution.

[Zachary G]

The best thing you can do is to pull him to the side and talk to him son to father and let him know that what he is doing is making you uncomfortable and is very embarrassing for you when you have guests over. If he cant respect you enough to listen and make changes, then he is just showing that he has no respect for his family at all. I wish you the best of luck with your situation, and I strongly recommend that you have that talk with him soon.

[SethfromMI]

The best thing you can do is to pull him to the side and talk to him son to father and let him know that what he is doing is making you uncomfortable and is very embarrassing for you when you have guests over. If he cant respect you enough to listen and make changes, then he is just showing that he has no respect for his family at all. I wish you the best of luck with your situation, and I strongly recommend that you have that talk with him soon.

exactly. do not be condemning of him when you talk, but do be honest. he may not make any changes, or he may not really realize what he is doing is effecting you so negatively. best of luck to you

[James Dean]

I mean I don't know if there are any young kids at your household, but if not I feel as though he believes everyone is old enough in the house to not be shocked or disgusted. I mean in the living room? He records it on the cable box? Smh, I can see how this is embarrassing. You can try to have a man to man talk with him and see where it goes. Sorry this is inconveniencing you. :(

[BlackParadePixie]

I don't think he should have to stop just because he is married or has kids...however, I di agree he should do it in a more private area...and not have it blaring for the whole house to hear...that's kinda awkward.

[Tony_777]

Jummm, Yeah it doesn't sound fun at all. You should really talk to him, either to silence it or well.. to do it in his room.
I might feel a bit akward about it.

[CosmicNoodle]

Orrrrr, you could let him do whatever the fuck he wants with his body and keep your nose out of his business? Just an idea?

[cami]

I don't think he should have to stop just because he is married or has kids...however, I di agree he should do it in a more private area...and not have it blaring for the whole house to hear...that's kinda awkward.

I agree with this.

And btw, 5 hours? That sounds like a lot lol

[Uranus]

I know this isn't much help but..you're screwed. Deal with it

[NeuroTiger]

The best thing you can do is to pull him to the side and talk to him son to father and let him know that what he is doing is making you uncomfortable and is very embarrassing for you when you have guests over. If he cant respect you enough to listen and make changes, then he is just showing that he has no respect for his family at all. I wish you the best of luck with your situation, and I strongly recommend that you have that talk with him soon.

Exactly...plus be cool and don't temper up.

[eli_w]

Don't approach him alone. Your whole family telling him its an issue would be 10x more effective

[SonOfAnarchy]

Just tell him how you feel about it if that doesnt work ask your mom if she can talk to him about it

[marko1707]

Try to talk with him and say him that it disturbs you

[Drummer Ben]

well it's not so much as he blasts it. The house it really quite at night so you can definitely hear it. I'm not concerned about that part. I'm concerned it's taking over his life. Every single night he watches it for 2, 3 hours till four in the morning. He has a job and has to wake up at 6:30 and only gets like 3 hours of sleep. I can't go downstairs at night because I know what he's doing. He distances himself from my and my mom. I wouldn't mind if they did the real thing. I think that's better than watching porn. Do think it's okay to watch porn if your married?

[Straya]

i think its fine to watch porn when your married and the one big problem you have is he owns the house so he can kinda do what he wants. by the sounds of it you can tell him you dont like it but theres no way to force him to change and if its really bothering you theres always the option of moving out

[Drummer Ben]

Right, he pays the bills, he's in charge. I guess this is kind of the same way I feel. I'll get over it and honestly don't feel as bad as the link below but want to share this link.

http://www.faithit.com/an-open-letter-to-the-dad-looking-at-porn/

[jordie]

I hear my dad jerking and cumming in his room at night. I figured since hes in his room its his business and hes divorced so he has to unload somehow. Not a big deal

[robbymas23]

I hear my dad jerking and cumming in his room at night. I figured since hes in his room its his business and hes divorced so he has to unload somehow. Not a big deal

Wow! Does he know you can hear him? Did you ever talk to him about it?

[SethfromMI]

well it's not so much as he blasts it. The house it really quite at night so you can definitely hear it. I'm not concerned about that part. I'm concerned it's taking over his life. Every single night he watches it for 2, 3 hours till four in the morning. He has a job and has to wake up at 6:30 and only gets like 3 hours of sleep. I can't go downstairs at night because I know what he's doing. He distances himself from my and my mom. I wouldn't mind if they did the real thing. I think that's better than watching porn. Do think it's okay to watch porn if your married?

have you tried talking to him? if he is not getting sleep because he is watching porn, that is a problem. as far as should you watch it if you are married...that is a touchy subject. I don't try to watch it when I am dating, but different opinions I guess. when I get married, I do not want porn to be a part of my life

[WanderingHeart]

Well porn isn't allowed in my religion, married or not.
ANYWAY
Your whole family should confront him, if he has a little respect he'd stop this behavior. Especially if his own wife told him to stop.
If he doesn't listen you can always move out (if you're considered an adult in whatever country you live in)
But honestly, your dad needs to be more considerate and respectful -_-.

[Emerald Dream]

Wow! Does he know you can hear him? Did you ever talk to him about it?

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