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Croconaw
December 13th, 2014, 11:35 PM
My apartment was flooded back in June, and I had to stay with my grandma for a month. I would always go to the park because I'm allergic to cats. I didn't want to be around hers. One day when I went to the park, I met this girl who currently goes to my school. She is fourteen and in eighth grade. She came out as bisexual to me the day we met. That's when I thought she trusted me. I was hanging out with her for a bit and then she saw me at school. She called my name a lot and we would always talk to each other in the hall. Unfortunately, there have been several bumps in our friendship. For example, she threatened me with a knife. I just thought she was playing around, but she had a serious look on her face. In my defense, she almost always has a pocket knife with her. I don't really know why. After that incident, she distanced herself from me. The next week, she would talk to me more and the cycle would repeat. Talk to me... distance herself, stop and avoid me. That behavior was confusing me, to say the least. Currently, she is on the 'avoid me unless I say something to her' stage.
I have a feeling that she might like me, because she is aware of my sexual orientation. I know that she likes girls because she came out to me the day we met. We see each other in school and we hug a lot. She always initiates the hugs, though. I saw her in the hall one day, and she hugged me. She then said "Oh, you're going downstairs, too! Walk with me!" and she ran over to me and walked down with me. When she sees me on the bus while walking to her bus, she would occasionally walk over to me and touch my hand. I was over her house once and we were outside throwing sticks (playing around) at each other for over an hour. She kept trying to touch my hair that one time I rode her bus home (We ride different school buses). She asked me last week to hang at the park, but she wasn't there. She actually lives right next to the park... You guys are probably wondering why I didn't just go to her house to see if she was there. Well, I don't know why either. I'm just shy. I guess you could say I like her. Her constant changes are confusing me, though. I thought she liked me at first, but now I'm not sure. At school, I got concerned that she was changing, and I hugged her. She did hug back, and I was quite surprised. It was more of a one-armed hug. I still want to be friends with her, but that knife issue is concerning. Also, a few days ago in school she saw me and she touched my shoulder. I told her I like girls and she seemed to have hesitated, but responded with, "Oh, I didn't know that." (even though I told her already) while smiling a little bit. The reason I told her this is because she indirectly asked me a question about whether I like boys or girls.

I have posted about this girl before I believe, but it was a long time ago. Thanks!

James Dean
December 14th, 2014, 02:20 AM
Just take it as it goes for now. It it was meant to be for the both of you to be friends or in a close bond, then things will follow suit . She could possibly be dealing with sexuality issues herself, so this is her way of coping with it. She finally meets someone who basically shares the same feelings and obstacles that she does, and the way she reacts to it is by giving you unconditional feelings. I can tell that you really care about her, so I don't want you to lose her. However, I will say that don't force anything. Take your time with her and allow her to open up to you. It also has to be a joint thing, be honest with her as well. If she does something that makes you uncomfortable, talk it with her and let her know. Good luck, I know crushes and things of that sort are hard to comprehend, but you'll be just fine. :)

Croconaw
December 15th, 2014, 02:28 AM
Just take it as it goes for now. It it was meant to be for the both of you to be friends or in a close bond, then things will follow suit . She could possibly be dealing with sexuality issues herself, so this is her way of coping with it. She finally meets someone who basically shares the same feelings and obstacles that she does, and the way she reacts to it is by giving you unconditional feelings. I can tell that you really care about her, so I don't want you to lose her. However, I will say that don't force anything. Take your time with her and allow her to open up to you. It also has to be a joint thing, be honest with her as well. If she does something that makes you uncomfortable, talk it with her and let her know. Good luck, I know crushes and things of that sort are hard to comprehend, but you'll be just fine. :)Thanks for your reply. :) It has helped me. I'll take your advice and not force anything. :)