Waiting to have sex

[apiago16]

Hi, I'm an 18, bi, virgin college student who has never really done anything with a guy (or a girl) but really wants to. The thing is, I'd think it'd be really great to wait until marriage to have sex, so that it's more special you know, but I fear never being able to have tried anything with a guy and always wondering what it would be like (planning to marry a woman). Do you guys have any advice? Do you count something like a handjob or a blowjob as sex? Does having sex with a guy count as "losing your virginity"?

[Jaseblader]

For me only penetration counts as sex but it's different for different people

[hockeyfan]

If ur gay I'd say it counts.

[robbymas23]

I am not even thinking about marriage -- but I too am curious, and won't want to have sex with just 1 person for the rest of my life! lol

[canadienudist]

For me sex is penetration,oral or hand job isn't considered sex, well to me anyways

[Grimfever]

Waiting till marriage is cool but you don't want to get married then regret not trying other things.

[Nayef.al]

I think is ok to wait with sex till manage but masturbate with a Friend is ok

[nklarke]

Well, but at what age do you think you will have a marriage? Up to 21 years old could be OK, but 30 years old would be very different. Body need sex, it's natural.

[SethfromMI]

it is def ok to wait if that is what you want and yes, having sex with a guy is still having sex. bj and hj are tricky and is based on the person you are asking

[Pablo]

I'm 19 and also very curious. I've done hj's and bj's with a guy but still consider myself a virgin. I plan on marrying a women one day so I would like to experiment know so I wont always be wondering what if.

[Meh Guy]

In the medical area of concern, any penetration is considered as losing your virginity. However, medical studies usually only refer to girls losing it, with less emphasis on guys. In social terms, most people consider vaginal/anal intercourse as losing it. I would say you could experiment ( tho it's not really experimenting at your age, but you get what I mean) with a guy if you really want to see what it's like. Then, since you seem to not have a problem with no sex before marriage, wait until you find the right girl.

Either way, good luck man.