Bad luck?

[queenofcontrariety]

I am supposed to be out with a guy right now. We dated briefly but the timing had just been off and we reconnected recently and he was going to take me out for lunch so we can talk about everything that had happened.

He picked me up a little over an hour ago, I ran into grab some coffee and then we headed out to where we actually planned on going, as we merged he went 78 in a 55, got pulled over and got his first ever ticket. We pulled over afterwards and he called his parents. He drove me home and we sat in extreme silence for a while. I feel like he may hate me now. I was so excited and now I'm laying in bed just thinking about how I should've comforted him more, and how this should not have gone like this. I finally had a chance to talk to him and it got all fucked up. The first little while was amazing. But now I feel like he'll never text me again because I'm bad luck. What can I do? I mean I don't want to text first because I feel like he's still angry, but when we do talk if we talk, what can I even say?

[Emerald Dream]

It does sound like a dose of bad luck, but I don't see how that has anything to do with you. Chances are after he got the ticket he was pretty embarrassed and/or mad at himself (or the officer) for his time with you being not a good experience. I wouldn't fault myself for lack of comfort. It sounds like it was incredibly awkward.

It could be that he is feeling the same way and afraid to text or call you because he's afraid of what you think about all of it. Hopefully he has sorted his emotions out by now and can separate the bad experience from the good thoughts of your company.

I know I am pretty timid myself sometimes, but I would text him. I would hate for both of you to play the waiting game and miss out on time together (or not even go out again).

[Hudor]

I don't think it could be your fault really except for the fact he got super excited and nervous because of your presence which again is a circumspect way of saying it's not your fault. As Allison said he might be embarassed/mad at himself
Definitely talk to him whenever you feel he will be less angry, reasonable. If you think you can help relieve him and calm down his anger, talk to him now. Personally i would leave him be because I'm not really good at calming people down.

[queenofcontrariety]

Well he did end up texting me asking if I thought he was an idiot, and it was kinda nice to be around someone a little reckless but I think he'll tone it down now. He's grounded so It'll be a while before we hang out again. But thanks guys.

Update: We are now kind of a thing. It's complicated but I'm happy, hopefully everything will end up working out.

[maniamsmart]

It does sound like a dose of bad luck, but I don't see how that has anything to do with you. Chances are after he got the ticket he was pretty embarrassed and/or mad at himself (or the officer) for his time with you being not a good experience. I wouldn't fault myself for lack of comfort. It sounds like it was incredibly awkward.

It could be that he is feeling the same way and afraid to text or call you because he's afraid of what you think about all of it. Hopefully he has sorted his emotions out by now and can separate the bad experience from the good thoughts of your company.

I know I am pretty timid myself sometimes, but I would text him. I would hate for both of you to play the waiting game and miss out on time together (or not even go out again).

This is what I would written right now, so I am just going to say I agree with this post.

As for what you should do next, you should text him and ask him how he's feeling, or just talk to him. I think it'd be pretty silly and kind of childish if he just doesn't want to talk to you because of this one incident.