A question about my friend who wants me to die

[red.astrix]

Its been about 8months since my girl friend broke up with her ex, who is also is good friend of mine. So I started dating the girl literally a week or two ago. My friend is cool with it. THEN he starts freaking out on me sending me crazy messages about how he hates me and I better behave (don't really know what that means). You get the picture. Ive tried talking to him the girl has and our other friends have as well, to no avail. Now im not saying im like super ripped or anything, but I could probably comfortbaly take this friend on in a fight which he seems to want. I don't want any issues with ny friend and I don't wanna hurt him either. ANy ideas how to sort out this issie?:confused:

[maniamsmart]

Seems like he is just jealous, and mad that his ex, the girl, decided to go date you because apparently you were better than him. This is pretty normal, I have been in the same boat, when I dated one of my friends ex-girlfriends and she apparently admitted I was much better than. Is the girl you are dating still texting your friend? Maybe she may be instigating the jealousy a bit and making him mad, and in turn then getting mad at you.

I would just let him be for a bit, and stay away from him for a while until he calms down, and if your gf is texting him, she should stop because it doesn't seem to be helping. Another thing you can do is ask him why he is so mad, and tell him that your friendship with him is important and you'd wish he'd put your relationship behind him. If he has a problem he should tell you, because that's what friends do, so should ask him.

[CosmicNoodle]

I don't want to say slap the bitch, but...

Just ignore the tit if he's going to be an arse about it, let the knob jockey calm himself down and talk to him in person, people are less likely to throw words around in person.

[Melodic]

I'd just ignore him until he treats you like a friend.

[Uranus]

He's probably jealous or upset to see that you and her are enjoying the relationship more than he was. I'm not sure how to really sort it out. If it were me, I would have had it with his shit for not even talking to anyone about it. If it comes to a fight, don't back down. It really seems that's the only option....for now. Maybe he'll eventually think reasonably soon.

[red.astrix]

Seems like he is just jealous, and mad that his ex, the girl, decided to go date you because apparently you were better than him. This is pretty normal, I have been in the same boat, when I dated one of my friends ex-girlfriends and she apparently admitted I was much better than. Is the girl you are dating still texting your friend? Maybe she may be instigating the jealousy a bit and making him mad, and in turn then getting mad at you.

I would just let him be for a bit, and stay away from him for a while until he calms down, and if your gf is texting him, she should stop because it doesn't seem to be helping. Another thing you can do is ask him why he is so mad, and tell him that your friendship with him is important and you'd wish he'd put your relationship behind him. If he has a problem he should tell you, because that's what friends do, so should ask him.
She didnt text him untill he started telling her the same stuff hes been telling me. I asked what wrong and he gave me a bullshit answer saying its beyond my understanding. Avoiding him untill he calms down would probably be best but I have to go to Math tuitions with the dude tomorrow. AnY idea how thats gonna go? Last I heard from him is that he was telling the girl I have done 3 major things to hurt him (which I dont believe I Have) and that theyre reason enough to slit my throat (yikes) and that we are probably gonna break up soon (which atm doesnt look likely) because of these unknown sins I have comitted.
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[red.astrix]

He's probably jealous or upset to see that you and her are enjoying the relationship more than he was. I'm not sure how to really sort it out. If it were me, I would have had it with his shit for not even talking to anyone about it. If it comes to a fight, don't back down. It really seems that's the only option....for now. Maybe he'll eventually think reasonably soon.

Well he said that ive done enough to him to lead hun to say he could slit my throat. NOw that really pussed me off and honestly if he said that when I was around I wouldnt have taken it sitting down. NOw that hes actually threatening me any idea what to do?

[MarsReid]

Seems like he is just jealous, and mad that his ex, the girl, decided to go date you because apparently you were better than him. This is pretty normal, I have been in the same boat, when I dated one of my friends ex-girlfriends and she apparently admitted I was much better than. Is the girl you are dating still texting your friend? Maybe she may be instigating the jealousy a bit and making him mad, and in turn then getting mad at you.

I would just let him be for a bit, and stay away from him for a while until he calms down, and if your gf is texting him, she should stop because it doesn't seem to be helping. Another thing you can do is ask him why he is so mad, and tell him that your friendship with him is important and you'd wish he'd put your relationship behind him. If he has a problem he should tell you, because that's what friends do, so should ask him.
luff Riven

[Lanky]

I think he`s just jealous to you because he still may like your gf. Don`t be scared of it, everything will be ok ;)

[Tony_777]

Wow.. Yeah good advice, just ignore the messages. If your girlfriend is fine with it, then you should be fine as well. I mean, he left her, so he should be calm.
Just don't let him be angrier by answering his messages

[Uranus]

This is a very difficult situation, indeed.

There's really only two ways to handle this.

One ~
Talk with an adult. A trusted one. Maybe a staff member from your school. Definitely talk with your parents. And if you have to, go to the local police, because he is threatening you.

Two ~
My way. You said you can comfortably take him on in a fight, so give him what he wants. Beat his ass. Which is what I would do.

These are my choices

[red.astrix]

This is a very difficult situation, indeed.

There's really only two ways to handle this.

One ~
Talk with an adult. A trusted one. Maybe a staff member from your school. Definitely talk with your parents. And if you have to, go to the local police, because he is threatening you.

Two ~
My way. You said you can comfortably take him on in a fight, so give him what he wants. Beat his ass. Which is what I would do.

These are my choices
Im honestly considering it

[maniamsmart]

This is a very difficult situation, indeed.

There's really only two ways to handle this.

One ~
Talk with an adult. A trusted one. Maybe a staff member from your school. Definitely talk with your parents. And if you have to, go to the local police, because he is threatening you.

Two ~
My way. You said you can comfortably take him on in a fight, so give him what he wants. Beat his ass. Which is what I would do.

These are my choices

Seems like they are the only choices left.

And to the person that said they love Riven, I love her more :P

[Saint of Sinners]

Just saying, beating him up might get you in trouble for bullying or something. Have some way to prove that he started it, which he obviously did, of course.

[Meh Guy]

I don't want to say slap the bitch, but...

Just ignore the tit if he's going to be an arse about it, let the knob jockey calm himself down and talk to him in person, people are less likely to throw words around in person.

This. If he wants to walk the walk, then you know what you must do. Otherwise, don't waste your time throwing spite behind a screen.

[red.astrix]

Thanks for the advice guys. Now I really think kicking his sorry ass might ne the only way to sort this out BUT our school is super strict when it comes to fighting and I dont wanna get expelled and he wint meet me outside out school cuz you know he hates me. Things are going well with the girl he tried to break us up by saying I flirted with another girl but sje didnt belive his lie so it ended fine. So if fightings the only way how do i do it without getting expelled? ANY ideas which end up with me sorting it out peacefully are still welcome. :what:

[hockeyfan]

If he ever threatens u, get help involved immediately

[maniamsmart]

Thanks for the advice guys. Now I really think kicking his sorry ass might ne the only way to sort this out BUT our school is super strict when it comes to fighting and I dont wanna get expelled and he wint meet me outside out school cuz you know he hates me. Things are going well with the girl he tried to break us up by saying I flirted with another girl but sje didnt belive his lie so it ended fine. So if fightings the only way how do i do it without getting expelled? ANY ideas which end up with me sorting it out peacefully are still welcome. :what:

As you stated, he doesn't seem to want to have anything to do with a peace treaty so maybe option one as stated above is the better one then. Other than that though, I am not sure what else can be done.

I am glad your gf believed you though and didn't fall for his lies, shows some trust and loyalty there :)

[red.astrix]

Hes calmed down a bit like I said hopefully he gets over it. He told a bunch of my friend"We will see how far they get before they split. Itl probably be because of me" that kinda pissed me off.

[maniamsmart]

Well if he's calmed down maybe try talking to him again about it, but it really doesn't seem like that will work because he seems so determined to make you break up,

[PinkFloyd]

I don't want to say slap the bitch, but...

Just ignore the tit if he's going to be an arse about it, let the knob jockey calm himself down and talk to him in person, people are less likely to throw words around in person.

This by far. Your "friend" to put it simply, is an ass/arse. If he has problems with you being with his ex-girlfriend, then that's his problem. I know where you're coming from. I try to avoid conflict whenever possible, but there's always that exception you have to make for people like this. My advice: if he throws a punch at you, throw one back at him but twice as hard.

Oh and Joe... I've said it before and I'll say it again. there's a reason you're one of my favorites on here. :)

[CosmicNoodle]

This by far. Your "friend" to put it simply, is an ass/arse. If he has problems with you being with his ex-girlfriend, then that's his problem. I know where you're coming from. I try to avoid conflict whenever possible, but there's always that exception you have to make for people like this. My advice: if he throws a punch at you, throw one back at him but twice as hard.

Oh and Joe... I've said it before and I'll say it again. there's a reason you're one of my favorites on here. :)

I may be one of your favoroites, but they way I say shit often gets me in hot water, because fuck freedom of speech.

Any news on your "friend"? Has he come to terms with the fact its none of his business or is he still acting like a tit?

[red.astrix]

I may be one of your favoroites, but they way I say shit often gets me in hot water, because fuck freedom of speech.

Any news on your "friend"? Has he come to terms with the fact its none of his business or is he still acting like a tit?

Havent talked to him or seen him. School starts in Jan so I guess il see him there. Hasnt talked to anyone recently and noones met up with. Im assuming hes still acting like a 6 year old

[ImCoolBeans]

In my experience most people are all talk, especially in situations like yours. Maybe your friend is different and actually will start a fight, but I would avoid that if possible. Fighting won't help fix anything, and will only build more animosity in the long run. Be the bigger person, ignore him and his drama, or handle it/deal with it in a way that doesn't involve a physical fight.

[SethfromMI]

This is a very difficult situation, indeed.

There's really only two ways to handle this.

One ~
Talk with an adult. A trusted one. Maybe a staff member from your school. Definitely talk with your parents. And if you have to, go to the local police, because he is threatening you.

Two ~
My way. You said you can comfortably take him on in a fight, so give him what he wants. Beat his ass. Which is what I would do.

These are my choices
I concur