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RJx_Writer
December 12th, 2014, 10:13 PM
I think I'm going crazy, but I don't know in what way. Depersonalization? Anxiety?

Basically, I've recently been having trouble coping with life and society in general. I don't have depression, I don't know what it is, is more like dissociation. I used to have social anxiety, or extremely shyness, and so I was an introvert, and that made me extremely depressed. After a year I ended up accepting that I had social anxiety and got used to it, but still I was terribly depressed. I still wanted to be social. But after I started my first year of high-school, the depression immediately vanished, and with it the social anxiety. I became extremely joyful and energetic, to the point of mania. I started talking to a lot of people, and found energy in doing so. I had become an extrovert.

This is how I still am, it's been nearly four months now. I still become depressed occasionally, but my norm is that mania. But now I feel like this is all too much for me. I don't like this change. I almost adore what I've become, social, charismatic, charming, joyful, energetic, outgoing, etc. But for some reason, deep down, I want to be alone in society again, without the stress of a social life and hearing others drama. I want to be a loner again, or what I call an outcast. Gradually I have been watching myself become detached from society and from my own life. I started occasionally walking away from my group of friends at school to walk around or just be alone, and then I started doing it more frequently. And now I've completely left my group during lunch and started hanging out with a completely different one, one consisting of people I hardly know.

I just can't stand the same thing happening over and over again every single day. Routine and strict schedule everyday, it drives be mad. I feel like I'm slowly turning into a different person, with a different life. Or maybe I'm becoming my old self, the shy, lone, outcast me. I became a different person when high-school started, maybe what I've become is the wrong me? I feel like I'm going to break and completely run away from my life and society, leave everything behind, school, home, friends, family, everything. I've had brief moments while riding home from school where I seriously considered turning around and going in a different direction, to some unknown destination. During these moments I practically black out, and am unaware of what I had been doing. I've done some uncharacteristic things is this state. But then my reasoning gets the better of me, and I tell myself that I will ruin my life if I do that. "What life?" I ask myself. "Where is my life headed? Is this even my life?"

MarsReid
December 14th, 2014, 08:47 AM
OK wow um..
no way in hellzies am i reading that
ehem. please breifly elaborate this lengthy anecdote(under statement) :)

Hudor
December 14th, 2014, 10:07 AM
Okay several points.
1. I didn't understand your reference of jihad.
2. I cannot really say a lot about the bipolar disorder. I'm not well educated in that department.
3. Was the transition sudden, were you contemplating the need for becoming an extrovert for a while before?
4. About the girl,i think you should be as you are comfortable being. Be who you are and don't force yourself to be someone or something you think will please/ attract someone else because it will suffocate you eventually adding to your stress. Consider this Throughout your life, it is you who you have to spend the most time with. If you aren't comfortable with who you are, i guess you would understand how tough life could be.
I talk about comfort because you mentioned wanting to be an introvert because of the stress your transition has caused you.

RJx_Writer
December 14th, 2014, 01:15 PM
OK wow um..
no way in hellzies am i reading that
ehem. please breifly elaborate this lengthy anecdote(under statement) :)

Yeah sorry I just happen to be a novelist so it's pretty easy for me to write something this long. I just felt there's no way I can state my situation without starting from the beginning.

I just completely rewrote the post so that its a hundred times shorter now, and it still gets my point across just as well if not better.

Okay several points.
1. I didn't understand your reference of jihad.
2. I cannot really say a lot about the bipolar disorder. I'm not well educated in that department.
3. Was the transition sudden, were you contemplating the need for becoming an extrovert for a while before?
4. About the girl,i think you should be as you are comfortable being. Be who you are and don't force yourself to be someone or something you think will please/ attract someone else because it will suffocate you eventually adding to your stress. Consider this Throughout your life, it is you who you have to spend the most time with. If you aren't comfortable with who you are, i guess you would understand how tough life could be.
I talk about comfort because you mentioned wanting to be an introvert because of the stress your transition has caused you.

First thing I can say is, thank you for taking the time to read all that. Second thing is, what reference of jihad? And yes, the transition was sudden. No, I hadn't been trying to become an extrovert, I just wanted to overcome the social anxiety and be able to talk to others. And I haven't been making myself something I'm not, it's just that I think I'm choosing to keep myself within society because of that girl. She may be keeping me alive, may be the only thing stopping me from running away and becoming a lost soul. Plus my outlook on life changes a lot, sometimes I may enjoy my life and sometimes I wish it could be different. Sometimes I want to talk with everyone and other times I want to be alone and isolated.


-merged double post. -Emerald Dream.

Hudor
December 16th, 2014, 12:01 PM
Yeah sorry I just happen to be a novelist so it's pretty easy for me to write something this long. I just felt there's no way I can state my situation without starting from the beginning.

I just completely rewrote the post so that its a hundred times shorter now, and it still gets my point across just as well if not better.



First thing I can say is, thank you for taking the time to read all that. Second thing is, what reference of jihad? And yes, the transition was sudden. No, I hadn't been trying to become an extrovert, I just wanted to overcome the social anxiety and be able to talk to others. And I haven't been making myself something I'm not, it's just that I think I'm choosing to keep myself within society because of that girl. She may be keeping me alive, may be the only thing stopping me from running away and becoming a lost soul. Plus my outlook on life changes a lot, sometimes I may enjoy my life and sometimes I wish it could be different. Sometimes I want to talk with everyone and other times I want to be alone

I can relate to that mostly. It's good that you realize the distinction. I don't have any tangible solution for this because firstly you yourself haven't decided what you want (which is fine)
and secondly i haven't found a solution yet which i guess i would also need.