Is life always so hard when your gay?

[Inoh]

Well, my first post in this forum, I'm Calebe, I'm gay and out to a few friends. Over the last few days I seriously think that life has something against me. Well, not really, but there's literally problems everywhere I look. To start with, there's this girl at school who has a crush on me, and almost killed herself (literally) when I came out to her. The boy I have a crush on, stopped talking to me when I told him I like him, and then, he started being all friendly again, but my friends say he hates me. My dad took my cellphone while I was sleeping, and somehow got rid of the password, and read all my conversations coming out to some friends, and now he hates me for it. My parents told my psychologist, and the three of them are now trying to "change me" (and that's why no one comes out to their parents :( ). Now I'm really getting depressed over all this, I just feel so lonely and I can't talk about it to anyone, it's weird talking about it to my friends 'cause they're straight, they wouldn't understand. I just feel this emptiness, and it seems that nothing can fill it. I know I have every reason to give up on everything, but for some reason, I just keep moving forward. I know I won't take it forever, I've gotta do something about this, about all this, I can't even keep the thought of suicide out my mind. I just needed to write this and put it somewhere where no one would criticize me, so any reply is more than welcome, thanks.

[Karkat]

Life can be pretty hard when you're gay. Honestly, I've gotten kinda unduly lucky in life that those I've been attracted to who are male have mostly liked me back, but at the same time, I feel largely like it's gonna be difficult for me to form a relationship with anyone female because most people don't think of me as being gay ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I mean, being LGBT has so many different problems- from hate and lack of understanding; to issues of politics, legal issues, sociocultural issues... It is hard. Especially when you're young, and so many people are trying to tell you that you're wrong.

You're not wrong. Don't listen to them.

[Babs]

Being gay can make your life harder, yes, because of how society views the LGBTQIA+ community. There can be a lack of understanding, bullying, or getting fired for your orientation, etc.
However, that doesn't necessarily mean your life automatically sucks and there's nothing you can do to change it. Some people will really suck about it, but what gives me comfort is that I know who I am, and that I'm a good person and my sexual orientation has nothing to do with that.

[TroyH]

Especially with the whole parent situation, I can understand how it can definitely be depressing and frustrating. But keep in mind there are plenty of people out there who would be more than willing to support you. Try reaching out to some of your friends and see if they're willing to help you out at all, it'd be worth it. If not, there are plenty of people on here who would also be willing to lend an ear (myself included). So don't give up, there are a lot of people out there and plenty who are good enough people to support you! You just have to find the right ones, or be fortunate enough where they find you :)

[James Dean]

Once you get out of the dark tunnel, the light will shine.

Everyone who is lgbt, has a different story and experience to tell. However, I can say that I don't want you to feel alone. You are a value to society. There are going to be people to shun and put you down. Love yourself and love the relationships that you have with friends and people close to you. Be careful of yourself, be comfortable and hang in there. The minute you start to appreciate and love yourself, everything else that you have trouble with will fade away.

I am also in a similar situation as to you. Friendships and family relationships are becoming unbearable and I don't know how to deal with it at times. I just love myself and understand that not everything is perfect and I have to go past the obstacles that I have. I know my sexuality isn't normal and not everyone is going to agree with it, however I have to keep on keepin on.

Just keep up with what you are doing, stay in school and achieve the best. :)

[Inoh]

Thanks, to everyone, I guess I was kinda down yesterday, but I'm a lot better now, I guess that, for a moment, I forgot that there will always be hard times, but good times too, hehe :D :D :D Thanks :)

[Saint of Sinners]

Stay strong brother. I'm not gay so I can't say I understand how tough it is, but I've heard my fair share of horror stories. Just know that things will get better eventually, and anybody that isn't ready to accept who you are isn't worth paying attention to.

[AceofSpades97]

Nah dude life isn't always as hard like that. That's just str8 up bullshit that your parents try to change you. My parents took me in with open arms when I told them and they also kinda knew it for like a long time.

[Wyatt 13]

I'm not sure about being gay, I don't need either to come out but I would rather to wait until college.

[Meh Guy]

As much as it may hurt or be especially difficult, you gotta do your own thing. Or seek professional help, help that won't try to "change" you.

[Landbuscus97]

Don't worry about change. Change is always present. There will never be one phase forever, and the only variable in life is how we adapt to these changes. Life is full of ups and downs, and the only one who can experience these is you. Try finding the good out of the bad, maybe a horror story can be laughed about later. If not, perhaps you can learn something out of your or others mistakes. For example:You should learn from your parents' negative reaction to not understanding you, and should strive to never fear or hate somebody you don't understand. Teen years can be the hardest, (Ignoring Mid-life Crises) and adding insecurities and self-identity problems only makes it worse. This is why Gay teens are 3x as likely for suicide. However, not all is bad, because from what I've seen, Gay teens often grow to become strong, moral, and better people overall after overcoming hardship(s). I once saw a quote that said, "The vessels that are our minds must first be broken in order to see the light through the cracks." So to wrap it all up, enjoy life. The good and the bad. Because enjoying life makes it sooooooo much better. :)
Yours Truly,
Landon