What do we do now?

[Semi_IronMan]

Hey guys

So this person and I have known eachother since November of this year. We've never seen eachother face to face but we've spoken everyday since we found eachother and we know eachother really well. We have a lot in common with one another. So I fell in love with the person and I told them how I felt, turns out they feel the same way too. We live far from eachother and have never seen eachother face to face. We don't know what to do but we really like eachother. So I guess what I'm asking is, where do we go from here? Neither of us know what to do with this situation so I thought I'd ask all of u for help. So what do we do now?

Thanks in advance

[SethfromMI]

well for the time being just keep getting to know each other. it is hard to be in a relationship with someone you never met or cant be with. it can work, i know some people who do it and they do it well, but for most people, it often sadly does not work

if you two really like each other, keep doing what you are doing and hopefully you will one day have a chance to be with each other

[audiophile5]

I disapprove of long distance relationship. Not because I think they're not possible. True, there are some that work out. But, sadly, most don't.
And what sucks the most is the fact that, even though you are able to talk, you can never be there for each other. Not only in a sexual/physical love type, but in various different ways as well. There's a movie you both want to see; you can chat about it, but you can't go to the cinema together. You can celebrate together only virtually. And really hurts to see like photos on Facebook or check-ins at different places of your partner with other people. But maybe what hurts the most is the realization that you can't be there, even though you both want to.

I really don't want to seem pessimistic or anything, if you truly care about it each other, it is worth giving it a shot - after all, it won't take that much time till you'll be able to actually meet. But be prepared for the worst case scenario, where you start growing apart, simply because there other people in your life and other people in her life. And this realization hurts like hell, especially because there's nothing you can do about it... trust me, I've been through that, and although I don't think I've ever met a person with whom I was more compatible, the frustration of not being able to be together finally broke us apart...

[maniamsmart]

Despite what the poster before me stated, even though I do agree with some parts from his perspective, I am willing to give you another perspective that may seem more... friendly towards you. Now I am not saying that you should be completely oblivious to some of the things the poster before me stated, because most of it is true.

I would suggest you ahead and date online, make it a long distance relationship. Here's why. You need experience to eventually find a relationship that works for you. If your age that you have under your profile is correct, and if the girl is around the same age at you, I don't see any harm in it that you try it out. Some people don't find relationships online right for them, but are they right for you? You don't know, and she probably doesn't know either.

I have seen many online relationships that fail, because both people in the relationship aren't serious about it, but if both of you are serious about it, it could work. I have a friend who has been in a long distance relationship for 3 years, and they have never broken up, they are going to see each other next year for the first time. So it is possible, and in all honesty, I am a firm believer in the fact that relationships that start online are much better than those that start in real life. Why? Because the whole concept of "dating for looks" is out the window. You date the person online because of their personality, which is why you should be dating in the first place. You aren't dating them to touch them, to have sex with them, or for any of those wrong reasons. While there may still be cases where this applies, and those cases end rather quickly, I'd say that if you've had success at talking to her and being her friend for over a month now, I think you have a chance at starting a relationship.

Even though you can't do thing together in real life, you can over Skype, or ooVoo, which I highly recommend you get. There is still a lot to do for online relationships, and a lot of time that comes with emotional connections, and special things that can make some really good memories.

The final verdict comes down to whether you want to be in an online relationship. If you do, be prepared for the fact that it may fail, but if both of you put the effort into it, it can succeed. And if it does fail, you have the experience for future reference. So either way, I think it's a win-win situation. I would suggest though that you bring this up to her an ask her what she thinks of the idea.

[audiophile5]

Despite what the poster before me stated, even though I do agree with some parts from his perspective, I am willing to give you another perspective that may seem more... friendly towards you. Now I am not saying that you should be completely oblivious to some of the things the poster before me stated, because most of it is true.

I would suggest you ahead and date online, make it a long distance relationship. Here's why. You need experience to eventually find a relationship that works for you. If your age that you have under your profile is correct, and if the girl is around the same age at you, I don't see any harm in it that you try it out. Some people don't find relationships online right for them, but are they right for you? You don't know, and she probably doesn't know either.

I have seen many online relationships that fail, because both people in the relationship aren't serious about it, but if both of you are serious about it, it could work. I have a friend who has been in a long distance relationship for 3 years, and they have never broken up, they are going to see each other next year for the first time. So it is possible, and in all honesty, I am a firm believer in the fact that relationships that start online are much better than those that start in real life. Why? Because the whole concept of "dating for looks" is out the window. You date the person online because of their personality, which is why you should be dating in the first place. You aren't dating them to touch them, to have sex with them, or for any of those wrong reasons. While there may still be cases where this applies, and those cases end rather quickly, I'd say that if you've had success at talking to her and being her friend for over a month now, I think you have a chance at starting a relationship.

Even though you can't do thing together in real life, you can over Skype, or ooVoo, which I highly recommend you get. There is still a lot to do for online relationships, and a lot of time that comes with emotional connections, and special things that can make some really good memories.

The final verdict comes down to whether you want to be in an online relationship. If you do, be prepared for the fact that it may fail, but if both of you put the effort into it, it can succeed. And if it does fail, you have the experience for future reference. So either way, I think it's a win-win situation. I would suggest though that you bring this up to her an ask her what she thinks of the idea.

I agree; also, as stated before, my intention was not to make you choose, or to make a very skeptical point; I wanted to highlight some of the disadvantages of such a relationship. But only because people sometimes tend to think only of the advantages, and neglect that other half of the glass; I wanted you to have a more complete understanding of this, to see the consequences you may or may not have to endure. I didn't mention all the advantages since they're kinda obvious, but I'd say the "moment" when the two partners meet could be something extremely magical, that can't be achieved in a normal relationship - to meet someone you already know well

[Semi_IronMan]

Despite what the poster before me stated, even though I do agree with some parts from his perspective, I am willing to give you another perspective that may seem more... friendly towards you. Now I am not saying that you should be completely oblivious to some of the things the poster before me stated, because most of it is true.

I would suggest you ahead and date online, make it a long distance relationship. Here's why. You need experience to eventually find a relationship that works for you. If your age that you have under your profile is correct, and if the girl is around the same age at you, I don't see any harm in it that you try it out. Some people don't find relationships online right for them, but are they right for you? You don't know, and she probably doesn't know either.

I have seen many online relationships that fail, because both people in the relationship aren't serious about it, but if both of you are serious about it, it could work. I have a friend who has been in a long distance relationship for 3 years, and they have never broken up, they are going to see each other next year for the first time. So it is possible, and in all honesty, I am a firm believer in the fact that relationships that start online are much better than those that start in real life. Why? Because the whole concept of "dating for looks" is out the window. You date the person online because of their personality, which is why you should be dating in the first place. You aren't dating them to touch them, to have sex with them, or for any of those wrong reasons. While there may still be cases where this applies, and those cases end rather quickly, I'd say that if you've had success at talking to her and being her friend for over a month now, I think you have a chance at starting a relationship.

Even though you can't do thing together in real life, you can over Skype, or ooVoo, which I highly recommend you get. There is still a lot to do for online relationships, and a lot of time that comes with emotional connections, and special things that can make some really good memories.

The final verdict comes down to whether you want to be in an online relationship. If you do, be prepared for the fact that it may fail, but if both of you put the effort into it, it can succeed. And if it does fail, you have the experience for future reference. So either way, I think it's a win-win situation. I would suggest though that you bring this up to her an ask her what she thinks of the idea.

I've been waiting for u to reply, your replies are always helpful and well thought out. Thank you. Next time I want to ask something about a relationship I would like to ask for your advise personally through a PM, if that's okay with you

[maniamsmart]

I've been waiting for u to reply, your replies are always helpful and well thought out. Thank you. Next time I want to ask something about a relationship I would like to ask for your advise personally through a PM, if that's okay with you

No problem, I am always here to help. And I am more than glad to answer any further questions you may have through PM if you'd like :)