How to Let Go of the Need for Approval to Start Thriving?

[Hideous]

I always try to impress everyone and make people happy but sometimes the responses are not so pleasant, I just break down and I feel horrible. I know what I'm doing is just dumb and I'm hurting myself day by day and it's emotionally draining.

I just wonder why people do not like me and can't get over the fact that there are some that don't for no reason. I sit here just thinking "what the heck is wrong with me? what did I do? do I need to change my personality or my appearance? I'm willing to do anything..." I would say things that people might find impressive, I would spend my day thinking about what others think about me, and I hold back on what I really want to think. This gives me anxiety.

I guess growing up I was really sensitive and I always thought that when you were nice to everyone, everyone would be nice back but even now that isn't really true and I feel like I give in too much, and it sucks... especially when my relationship with my family is going downhill because they simply don't accept me for who I am and they think I'm just too nice.

I try to be really nice to people and just bring positivity in the room but at the end I either get insults or threats. I just hope I'm not the only one. I feel like I'm dying really quickly and I wish I didn't have the mind to think because I just hate drowning in my thoughts. It kills me.

How do I stop the need of approval and just move on and work on my character?

[ImCoolBeans]

"Do you."
Cliché, but true. You need to be your own biggest fan and treat yourself like gold, because when it all comes down to it, you're the only person who you truly need to spend your whole life with. Do what makes you happy, and what makes you feel good. The rest will come naturally. When you focus on being your best self -- for yourself, not for other people -- good things will come.

Life is really what you make of it, and if you make it a popularity contest (which suck), then you might not have such a good time. But if you make it a life filled with things that you enjoy, and don't compromise that to appear in a certain way, or to please other people, then you will become more comfortable with yourself and with your life as a whole.

Some people happen to be kind by nature, and don't have a mean bone in their body. There is a difference between that and being "too nice" in the sense that you're allowing people to walk all over you, or doing things that aren't really true to yourself to please them. I would call that unwise before I call it "too nice."

You only get one life to live -- or maybe you'll just remember it once -- but no matter what you believe in, at the end of the day you need to be your own biggest fan and treat yourself like you're priceless.

[Hideous]

"Do you."
Cliché, but true. You need to be your own biggest fan and treat yourself like gold, because when it all comes down to it, you're the only person who you truly need to spend your whole life with. Do what makes you happy, and what makes you feel good. The rest will come naturally. When you focus on being your best self -- for yourself, not for other people -- good things will come.

Life is really what you make of it, and if you make it a popularity contest (which suck), then you might not have such a good time. But if you make it a life filled with things that you enjoy, and don't compromise that to appear in a certain way, or to please other people, then you will become more comfortable with yourself and with your life as a whole.

Some people happen to be kind by nature, and don't have a mean bone in their body. There is a difference between that and being "too nice" in the sense that you're allowing people to walk all over you, or doing things that aren't really true to yourself to please them. I would call that unwise before I call it "too nice."

You only get one life to live -- or maybe you'll just remember it once -- but no matter what you believe in, at the end of the day you need to be your own biggest fan and treat yourself like you're priceless.

Thank you for your help, Mike.

After reading this, I just had to self reflect and I can honestly say, this will really help me. So thank you, again, and I will continue to look back on this.