Predicament

[ImCoolBeans]

My friend dated this girl who I was friends with when we were little kids, and had not really seen or spoken from when I was 4 until they started dating. They've been broken up for about a year, and I haven't seen her since. My problem is that we really reconnected and she is so cool and I loved hanging out with her when she was around a lot, but I'm not sure if he'll be ok with me still talking to her/being friends with her. She recently texted me saying that she wants to hang out, but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do. I'm conflicted because while I really want to hangout with her again, she is his "big love" and he's still not really over her. I don't want to hurt my friend but I'm having a hard time not hanging out with her just because he wouldn't like it. I feel guilty about the thought because he is my best friend, and I know how hurt he would be, but we both hangout with ex's of friends of ours and have talked about how it shouldn't matter. I just know that his feelings would be different when he's the one it's happening to.

What do you think about situations like that?

[Horatio Nelson]

That is pretty tough.

In that situation, I would definitely ask my friend. Just lay it out for him and see what he says. Worst he can do is say it would bother him, and then you could decide what to do from there.

Best of luck Mike. I hate dealing with stuff like that.

[Danny Phantom]

That can be rough.

If it was me, I'd straight up tell my friend. I mean, I'm a pretty honest person, and if you guys are best friends as you say so, the communication should be there, and you should be comfortable talking to him about anything.

Mike, you're a very kind, considerate person, the fact that you're thinking about your friend instead of yourself is enough to prove my point, you're gonna make the right decision.

[ImCoolBeans]

That is pretty tough.

In that situation, I would definitely ask my friend. Just lay it out for him and see what he says. Worst he can do is say it would bother him, and then you could decide what to do from there.

Best of luck Mike. I hate dealing with stuff like that.

That can be rough.

If it was me, I'd straight up tell my friend. I mean, I'm a pretty honest person, and if you guys are best friends as you say so, the communication should be there, and you should be comfortable talking to him about anything.

Mike, you're a very kind, considerate person, the fact that you're thinking about your friend instead of yourself is enough to prove my point, you're gonna make the right decision.

Thanks, guys.

The problem is that I really don't even want to have the conversation with him, because he's all heartbroken over it still, and it probably wouldn't go well. I'm probably just going to avoid the situation entirely and just not be her friend.

[CosmicNoodle]

Hang out with her, if he's a good friend he'll be cool with it, at the end of the day it's none of his business any more.

[Stronk Serb]

Why would he be hurt by that? It's not like you're planning on dating her.

[Hudor]

My friend dated this girl who I was friends with when we were little kids, and had not really seen or spoken from when I was 4 until they started dating. They've been broken up for about a year, and I haven't seen her since. My problem is that we really reconnected and she is so cool and I loved hanging out with her when she was around a lot, but I'm not sure if he'll be ok with me still talking to her/being friends with her. She recently texted me saying that she wants to hang out, but I'm not sure if it's the right thing to do. I'm conflicted because while I really want to hangout with her again, she is his "big love" and he's still not really over her. I don't want to hurt my friend but I'm having a hard time not hanging out with her just because he wouldn't like it. I feel guilty about the thought because he is my best friend, and I know how hurt he would be, but we both hangout with ex's of friends of ours and have talked about how it shouldn't matter. I just know that his feelings would be different when he's the one it's happening to.

What do you think about situations like that?



The problem is that I really don't even want to have the conversation with him, because he's all heartbroken over it still, and it probably wouldn't go well. I'm probably just going to avoid the situation entirely and just not be her friend.

That's a tough situation. I would probably do the same as you and avoid the girl for a while because it is my best friend in question while the girl may have her own best friend/friends to hang out with too while this guy would have only me.

However the breakup would have affected both of them and if i felt the girl needed my support more and that my friend was mature enough, i would hang out with her and tell my friend about it.