Me and this girl have been in a very complicated relationship for almost a year now.?

[anotherworld12]

I mean it s extremely complicated. We ve went all the way together so far with one another. You kinda can say we re dating but it s really complicated I admit. Not too long ago, she got drunk and made out with another girl and I found out by someone else. I confronted her and she instantly broke into tears and told me she was sorry and asked for another chance. Of course I ended up giving it a go. Since then I ve felt like i ve been on top of the relationship which is a really stupid thing to say but yeah. We ve never been more happy together. Recently she got on my phone, and found some messages I ve exchanged with a girl. The messages were about her buying panties in VS and the women who helped her picked them out had the same name as me. I gave a comment like my soul was with her. It was honestly innocent and there was no sexual intention. The conversation doesn t even go on for that long. Now she s extremely pissed at me because of it. She doesn t trust me and she won t believe anything I tell her. I ve told her I loved her and that she s the only one for me. I told her the girl and I are merely just friends and that s the truth. But everything I try to say doesn t hit her. I m suppose to pick her up today and I was wondering if anyone had any idea on what I should say to her make her not mad at me? More of a reassurance I suppose.

[maniamsmart]

I will be leaving for work very soon, so I am not sure how much time I will have but I'll be on the site here for another hour. Maybe we can just have the talk here you can just reply and I'll reply back. Anyway, here's what I think you should do.

You two seem to care about each other a lot, and I've seen problems like these happen before, I've been in them too. And the best thing you can do in any situation like this is to apologize, admit your wrongs (even if you don't feel like you did anything wrong), and show her that you do love her. Remind her of how you took her back after she was drunk, remind her of what you have done for her out of love, and show that you care for her feelings. Tell her and show her that you do understand why she is mad, and you understand that it may have hurt her, but that your intention really wasn't for her to get hurt or for you to be flirting with someone else.

I would ask her why she didn't like what you said, and when she explains to you why, then you should agree with her, and say that it wouldn't happen again. Also show that you care for the relationship as a whole, and tell her that you want her to express her feelings, and that you want her to trust you again and ask her if there's anything you could do to regain that trust.

I know it may seem kind of stupid that you have to be the one to apologize and say all of this, but that's what relationships are all about. It's about communication, understanding what your partner likes, doesn't like, and avoiding future problems to ensure that you can continue to be happy.

I hope this shed some light on the situation and on how to help you deal with it. If you need more help feel free to respond I'm always here to help.

[anotherworld12]

I'm going to pick her up in two hours or so but I'm definitely going to tell her all of this. I admit myself that it was wrong and I understand where she's coming from. I don't want her to be sad nor do I want to be. I actually want us to work things out. She's a really complicated girl but I'm really hoping after we talk everything works out. I'll definitely give an update on what happens between us. Thank you so much.

[maniamsmart]

I'm going to pick her up in two hours or so but I'm definitely going to tell her all of this. I admit myself that it was wrong and I understand where she's coming from. I don't want her to be sad nor do I want to be. I actually want us to work things out. She's a really complicated girl but I'm really hoping after we talk everything works out. I'll definitely give an update on what happens between us. Thank you so much.

No problem I am glad you found this helpful.

[anotherworld12]

No problem I am glad you found this helpful. By the way, you may want to delete that last line in your main post, I don't want you getting moderated by the mods :PThanks tho and I'm sorry. This is my first time using this site and it definitely won't be my last. I just have uncertainties myself sometime and that's what messes with me a lot because I overthink a lot of stuff when it comes to her.

[maniamsmart]

Thanks tho and I'm sorry. This is my first time using this site and it definitely won't be my last. I just have uncertainties myself sometime and that's what messes with me a lot because I overthink a lot of stuff when it comes to her.

I know and I completely understand. It's okay though, it shows you care about her, and a lot of guys don't know how to care as much as you do. I love helping people, that's why I am mostly here because I've helped a lot of relationships and I think it's nice when more relationships work out, because we all need love in this world, there's enough hate as it already is.

If you ever need to PM me, you can do so, but making a thread is better because you'll get advice from a lot of people here, and some of them say things that I don't even think of. But welcome to the site :D Hope you enjoy your stay, and good luck with your girlfriend. When you have an update, I'll be here to reply.