Help?

[ABW17]

Ok. So I am a freshman in High school (in a VERY wealthy town. like look up westport ct and I live there just to give you an idea.)


So there is this girl who I met in middle school (well actually in preschool, but I didn't remember her). I was just terrible to her in middle school, but she never did anything to retaliate or anything. I almost felt like she didn't care, but I could tell that she did.

So recently I started to 'like' her in a really intense way. I don't know how to talk to her when she thinks I hate her. She is on my bus going home from school, but it is hard to talk there. I know she thinks I hate her because i am always a last resort for help, if she even bothers with asking me, and today when she asked for something, she was visually surprised that I agreed.

So how do I express my feelings? I am a very incompetent communicator, and I get really nervous (like I could barely present a script in drama class). I mean, I can tell she likes me, and wants me to like her, but I don't know if she 'likes' me.

I have a note I wrote to her explaining everything. should I give her that?

[ABW17]

bump. someone please respond.

[Melodic]

You should give her the note. I'm a really shy person as well but usually when I give them a note, it works for me a lot more then finding the right words to say at the moment.

[ABW17]

You should give her the note. I'm a really shy person as well but usually when I give them a note, it works for me a lot more then finding the right words to say at the moment.

My only problem is I have no idea how she will react. I was horribly rude to her for the past few years. I guess I will do it :)

[Hudor]

Give her the note. It should help i guess. You should also try to build a friendship with her.
Though it may sound strange many relationships start with hate. I've seen two such cases one my own and one of a friend where all we did was fight and say bitter things. But in the end my friend was dating the girl he hated because they had become very good friends. Even i found a good friend in the girl i hated and constantly fought with. Its just inexplicable. We used to fight, say bad things to each other and then suddenly one day we were laughing together, sharing things and subtly became friends.

[maniamsmart]

I agree with everyone else, you should give her the note. Not only will it be better for yourself since you have a hard time communicating, but also it will show that you are a good guy and care about people's feelings because you care about the past and how you treated her before. I don't think anything can go wrong from giving her the note, other than her not "liking" you back the same way, but I think it would be morally right for you to give the note regardless.

[ABW17]

Thanks guys! I will update you how it goes.