Stopping in the middle of a conversation

[queenofcontrariety]

So there's this guy who decided to just pop back into my life and the first couple days we started talking again everything was great. He openly admitted to always being intrested in me and apologized for cutting me out of his life. He went to be Sunday night and I texted him Monday night, he just stopped responding. I kinda figured he fell asleep. He didn't text me Tuesday or Wednesday so I texted him yesterday afternoon and he said he was at work but continued talk to me. Around like 6 he totally stopped responding again, I know he didn't go to sleep, why would someone apparently interested in me just ignore me? Like he cancelled out date due to food poisoning and never tried to reschedule, and like I don't know what's going on with him, any ideas?

[CosmicNoodle]

Perhaps he's just nervous?

[queenofcontrariety]

Perhaps he's just nervous?

Maybe, like it's just so frustrating, I NEVER text people first because I hate feeling like a burden and stuff but like this whole situation makes me feel like an idiot. Like the nervousness would make sense as to why he bailed on me but the way he had spoken to me made it seem like he was pretty confident so I'm really confused. Thanks for the help though

[ABW17]

Maybe he is currently in a relationship that he neglected to tell you about and needs to figure out what to do.

[maniamsmart]

I think he may just be nervous, but that's just one viewpoint to look at it from. I think another very possible answer to this is that he may be talking to another girl too, and may have just had guilty feelings for cutting you out and made an effort to try and put you back in his life.

I have done this myself, and have seen many other people do this where they may seem like they are interested in you, but in reality it's just a mask of them feeling guilty and wanting to do what's right. However, I don't personally know this person, so I can't 100% say what he is truly doing but it does sound a lot like that. If I were you I would talk to him about why he is acting like this and confront him about it. Not confront in the sense that you feel something is wrong, but in the sense that you are just curious why he is acting like this.

If he was in your life before, but just decided to come back again, it does seem kind of strange, and it would make sense for him to have those times where he wants to talk to you and those other times where he doesn't. I think communication is the key here though.

[Plane And Simple]

Let me tell you, try not to overthink all this "hey he didn't reply" text message stuff. It ruins friendships.

With that said, best thing you can do is ask him to meet you somewhere and talk stuff live.

[Hudor]

Maybe he's nervous? Maybe he needs to take some time off and away for whatever reason. Idk it's strange, something i would never do but some of my friends do.
Maybe he's not really good at holding conversations?
Could it be he's not responding because he forgot to? I have one such friend and i told him it feels bad when he ignores me like that by not responding but he said he didn't do that intentionally and that he may not have been in the mood to reply back then and then forgot about it. He may have got caught up in something else and forgot about your convo?

There's a lot that could be possible and i think two instances aren't much to judge him by.

[queenofcontrariety]

I don't know, I mean I guess the thing that catches me up is its the times I reach out and it's already something I hate to do. I mean I know like I'll check my phone at various points in the day and be like "oh wow this didn't send" or "I totally didn't see that" but I always respond even days or hours later. The issue with face to face communication is that we don't go to the same school so the only way to coordinate that is over text, so if I can't get replies I don't know how I'm supposed to do that, and I really don't want to get crazy and confrontational, I've been known to get like that and I just don't feel like losing people in my life. I mean why I got his apology I was sincerely confused and I half thought he was sending it to every girl he knew, and then I remembered that he isn't the cup of tea of most girls so there probably aren't that many. So I mean the insane part of me is always going to say he meant none of it and didn't intend for us to ever get together in person or ever talk extensively unless he started the conversation, which he never would again. I just can't see that being him though.

[Saint of Sinners]

I reckon he's in some sort of dilemma for whatever reason and so is trying to avoid the issue by avoiding you.

[maniamsmart]

I reckon he's in some sort of dilemma for whatever reason and so is trying to avoid the issue by avoiding you.

Great point, basically sums up what some of what I said.