why do girls lose interest in me?

[Jman437]

I'm a 19 year-old guy who's in college. I never had a girlfriend because of the way I am: an introverted loner. I mean, yes I like being myself, I feel special being me, but dammit! It hurts so much seeing girls going for the extroverted ones and ignoring me. It has always been like this. Back in high school, freshman year, I started talking to a girl I had a crush on, things were really going like I wanted, but then she started losing interest in me very quickly, and then we were complete strangers once again. Two years later, the exact same thing happened, but with a different girl.

And now, college! Everything is going to be different, right? Well, that's what I thought. It's kinda easy for me to make friends, since the people I met share lots of interests with me, but it's the same thing: ALL the girls I've met just seem to lose interest in me. First, it was a girl who had some trouble catching up with the material of a class, and well, we started talking and all that, and the next week came a friend of mine, started talking to her, and now she barely even talks to me.

Plus, I noticed that they don't really seem to enjoy me trying to comfort them after something bad goes on. My calculus teacher uploaded the grades to her page last Friday , so we decided to check them out. Although I passed with a good grade, that same girl failed. I tried to comfort her and told her she can do better next time, but she just told me to shut up, and went on to hug that same friend of mine who also failed.

Dammit, and I don't even want to date them, I just want to be someone who they enjoy hanging out with, no dating whatsoever!

I mean, what is wrong with me? Am I that boring and uninteresting? Why do girls lose interest in me? I don't get it, I don't know what else to do...

[maniamsmart]

Well, it's hard to say what could be the problem. You don't really tell us what you say to the girl, and that's kind of what we need to know. Maybe you just aren't putting enough effort into talking to the girls? Maybe you just aren't being open enough with them so that you can have many different types of conversations? You do say that you are a loner, and that you like to be alone; most of the time people like that don't really open up as much as others do.

Do you open up to them when you talk to them? I am going to need a bit more information to give you a helpful and accurate answer. But for now, I think you just need to be more social and get out of your lonesome corner. I have no doubt that your a great guy with good intentions, but maybe you just need to put more effort in, and be a bit more social and actually show people that you care, and show people that you are a great guy with all of these great qualities.

[queenofcontrariety]

It may just be the nature of the girls, some girls lose interest in anyone and everyone quite quickly. Being introverted you may not be emotionally open with them, and girls crave openness. Your overall persona may be why they don't take well to your comforting you you may not be one of those comforting people. If you're ordinarily sarcastic or have very closed body language when you try to comfort someone they aren't going to believe you. It's good that your putting yourself out there, interpersonal relationships are all about trial and error, so keep at and you're bound to find some good ones in the mix

[Saint of Sinners]

I don't think it's your fault. Like girls are individuals, and it just so happens that you found two individuals that don't really get along with you. It's perfectly ok being introverted, just some people don't like that or don't feel as comfortable with them.
Then there are those who do:)