Telling a guy what you like?

[RRay99]

My bf is good at a lot of things, but not everything...don't want to hurt his feelings, but would definitely like him to change a few things, especially when he goes down...Any advice on how to tell him nicely without putting him off? Have only brought things up twice before, and both times it wasn't badly received, but I could tell he wasn't happy...

[Renata_cmp]

Wow, i think you should tell him straightforward, if you don't do anything he'll never improve, you'll stay unpleased and nothing good can come from that situation. If he starts to be pissed off because you told him he didn't do things well, tell him you don't say that to humiliate him but for you to get better in your intimate life. If he don't understand that well...

[Sarah_Ward]

I think that like when your doing it it would be good if you like made out that it feels good even if he's not quite in the right spot, let him keep doing it but tell him to move a little till you guide him to the right spot then you can enjoy him and he will appreciate the guidence i think coz after all its you thats important while he's doing it and he will want you to get the best feeling too... I hope this helps :)

[Juana]

Yeah guide him to the rights spots and when he doesn't want to do that, he really doesn't care for you. When he cares for you, he's willing to give you a good feeling and orgasm!!!!

[Renata_cmp]

i wouldn't go that far, im sure if a girl don't want to give his bf a blowjob its not because she don't care about him, its not just her thing. same goes with the opposite i think. its a pity for both sides but hey, opinions and personal tastes...

[Taryn98]

Tell him as he's doing it, but don't criticize him, Just say specifically what you like or how to do it. My experience tells me that guys like it when we tell them things/talk dirty during it.
Things like "it would feel amazing if you did ______" or "I'd love it if you did ______ to me"
Communication makes everything work better.

[dpriest]

Straightforward communication is best, don't criticize. If you like what is happening say so and if you don't, say as much.

[RRay99]

Thanks everyone!

[Beth]

Communication and being straight forward without beating around the bush is the best policy. I believe in honesty.

[Abbeys]

Communication and being straight forward without beating around the bush is the best policy. I believe in honesty.

beating around the bush



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[rachel_ballet]

I think you should tell him what you like when he goes down on you, just like you would want him to tell you what he likes when you go down on him!!
That's pretty much what my BF and I do! We haven't gone any further than that! But I love it!

[ozteen]

Tell him as he's doing it, but don't criticize him, Just say specifically what you like or how to do it. My experience tells me that guys like it when we tell them things/talk dirty during it.
Things like "it would feel amazing if you did ______" or "I'd love it if you did ______ to me"
Communication makes everything work better.
This, they catch on pretty quick when you tell them what you like.

[CutieHoney]

Just tell him, you know: with your mouth and vocal chords.

[RRay99]

Thanks everyone, especially Taryn :)! We are communicating much better now :)