My Mom always lets me know her opinion on how I look

[Drummer Ben]

I turned 18 a few months ago and it hasn't stopped. I started growing a beard and of coarse my mom like to tell me how awful it looks. I've grown my hair long and my mom likes to tell me how horrible it looks. Everyday I wake up my mom looks at me with a dirty look. Does anybody else experience this its kinda bull crap.

[Drummer Ben]

Found this answer on yahoo answers that completely sums up what I'm going through.

My mother did the same thing to me despite the fact that I know she loved me dearly. I was always pretty confident as you seem to be, as everybody else seemed to find me very attractive. My mother was a very possessive person, and making me feel small and unloved gave her a certain amount of power over me. She also gave me the feeling of not being adequate in other areas, too. In reality I believe it was she who felt inadequate. I also believe she was afraid of losing me, of me growing confident enough to leave and lead my own life, which did eventually happen anyway.

It's difficult to deal with being belittled by a parent and I won't lie and say it didn't have an effect on me. Because you must always remember that this is her problem, not yours. Parents should support their children and give them confidence.

Unfortunately, it was impossible for me to talk to my mother about these issues, but perhaps your mother is different and just doesn't realize how cruel her behavior is. You could just try to explain your feelings. Otherwise: find other sources for the approval you need and have confidence that you are a young, lovely woman.


My mom is very judgmental, controlling, hypocritical, and criticizes others (and thinks she's doing everyone a favor). There's a difference between constructive criticism vs. criticizing to offend someone. On times when I have called her out on the truth, she steps back and becomes "innocent" and acts as if anything she's done in the past isn't bad....very pretentious.

Just one of these mornings I'd like to wake up without a comment on the way I look. Who cares about looks.

[CuteGuy889]

Yeah moms can be quite bitchy about their kids appearence ...mine go into details about me...Since putting on sm weight after being skinny all my life she frequently brings this up in conversations, even infront of me..with freinds/relaitns. She'd go on about how skinny I used to be, how cute I look now, how cute my tummy looks now, how cute my butt looks in a speedo..... and that I'd probably get fat in college like my dad...It is soo embarrassing I get red in face.

[CosmicNoodle]

Why do you even care?

[Uranus]

If you don't want to hear her, just simply ignore her when she tells you....

....you're 18.. Move out and get it done with if you want :/

[James Dean]

Take what she says into consideration as usually mothers do know best, but at your position you should have some and most of the say of your appearance and how you dress. So hopefully the both of you can meet each other halfway and come to an agreement on this.

[Drummer Ben]

Why do you even care?

I try to ignore but she constantly reminds me. She tells me if my grandmother was still here and didn't die of breast cancer she'd be disgusted of the person I've become.

So, I've just accepted this as reality that my mom is going to be a bitch to me for the rest of my life. Why?, cause she can't control me anymore.

[Semi_IronMan]

Just tell your mom to back off. It's your body, it's your life. She should just accept the fact that you're all grown up and you have your own life as well as your own style

[SethfromMI]

tell her what you think of her looks, that will shut her up pretty quick

[Desuetude]

My mum is seemingly fine with how I look/dress. Its my dad that's always wanting to change shit and forces me to wear clothes I'm not comfortable in/have my hair cut a certain length etc. Its kind of pathetic like you're not good enough for them.