Relationships in general

[CreativeUsername]

First, let me tell you that I've been rejected by at least five girls in the past three years, and no girl has ever said yes to me, so this may just me being cynical. But am I the only one who just feels like relationships in high school are mostly pointless. Most of them only end poorly, and very few actually last for more than a month. I was watching an episode of Scrubs. Dr. Cox (one of the main characters) was basically saying exactly what I just said. I just feel like sometimes it's just pointless. Some people just get in relationships because the want to be in a relationship, and other people choose the wrong people, know it, and stay with that person no matter what.

The reason I say that last part is because a girl just brushed me off when I tried to tell her how I feel, and then one of my friends turned around and asked her out. What do you think? Do you feel the same way, or just the opposite? I'm just trying to vent my feelings.

[Dortmund]

Same position as you really. 19 and never had a girlfriend either. Yes the majority of high school/ college relationships don't tend to work down but it's all part of learning about love and sex etc.

As much as I've wanted a relationship I've been careful not to jump into one for the sake of it. I've turned down a few people and even more have turned me down. It's life I guess.

Main thing is just to keep doing your thing and soon enough the right thing will come along, there's never any need to rush things. Some high school relationships do last and that's good for them. At this age love is about a lot of trust, luck and understanding.

[maniamsmart]

Most high school relationships do end poorly, most of the time. But this is only because most of the time they don't keep in contact as much anymore after high school. Most people go to different colleges, and sometimes even move states. However, those relationships that do go past high school sometimes also don't last very long because the maturity level of switching from high school to college to real life is drastic and may value things more important at the moment than relationships.

You are right, most people in high school date because they want a relationship, but those who are serious sometimes do last forever, on rare occasions. In high school you sort of are either forced to be single, or forced to date someone in your school because that's where you spend most of your time. After high school you go into the real world, and your an adult, you have more options. This is another reason why people tend to break off from high school relationships.

Regardless, if you find someone in high school looking for a serious relationship then you'll have to do some planning ahead. But you're right, most relationships do end. If they are pointless? I wouldn't say pointless, because you get relationship experience and gain wisdom. So it isn't completely pointless.

[Babiole]

Most high school relationships do end poorly, most of the time. But this is only because most of the time they don't keep in contact as much anymore after high school. Most people go to different colleges, and sometimes even move states. However, those relationships that do go past high school sometimes also don't last very long because the maturity level of switching from high school to college to real life is drastic and may value things more important at the moment than relationships.

You are right, most people in high school date because they want a relationship, but those who are serious sometimes do last forever, on rare occasions. In high school you sort of are either forced to be single, or forced to date someone in your school because that's where you spend most of your time. After high school you go into the real world, and your an adult, you have more options. This is another reason why people tend to break off from high school relationships.

Regardless, if you find someone in high school looking for a serious relationship then you'll have to do some planning ahead. But you're right, most relationships do end. If they are pointless? I wouldn't say pointless, because you get relationship experience and gain wisdom. So it isn't completely pointless.

My dad actually made the mistake of marrying his high school sweetheart. They got divorced after six years together. His ex-wife now lives in Paris with her second husband and their son. My mom is his second wife. Makes me glad my parents went to different high schools! (Mom's high school was all-female anyway.)