Big Penis?

[Renata_cmp]

Hi everyone.
So i was wondering, since i am a rather naive and 'living in her dreamworld' girl, i never got why women like (or should i say, more accurately, medias and popular opinion stated in the general way of thinking) big penises.
Im sure the majority of us will agree on the 'size don't matter' thing, i guess some of you prefer big ones but it's not what makes you love your bf. (at least i hope:D)
So what exactly started this big dick thing? Why is it commonly accepted (false or not) that big ones are "better", that women likes "huge cocks" and other things like that...
Is this because of porn? Is this a cultural thing? Is this some kind of deep animalistic uncontrollable stuff (same reason why some girls like muscles, because deep down they feel "protected by a strong man" even if this notion is a gazillion years old it's still present in our subconscient apparently (dunno i dont care about muscles)) Well, maybe a pointless topic but im curious, since i never had this kind of expectations or fantaisies, and i wonder what started this...

[purplehaze99]

I think it has mainly to do with porn. Its kind of like why some guys prefer big boobs its just a preference and also how society looks at things i for one am fine with a 5 inch dick

[lillucy]

Not sure what a "big one" is

[purplehaze99]

I would consider 7 inches or more big

[Renata_cmp]

ive heard the big boobs thing was because it reminded then unconsiously the whole 'breastfeed' thing... (yeah its odd and im probably totally wrong on this) so maybe the big dick stuff is based on the same kind of subconcient thing, but yeah porn probably plays a big part on that.

[Jennboh]

ive always preferred smaller ones actually. big cocks kinda scare me. lol

[Juana]

Sometimes you really can get tired of those big penis and boobs topics and it has to do a lot with porn and that everyone expects that men must have big penises and all women must have big breasts!!!

And guys want to compete with the size of their penises; I heard and read that several times. They want to compete about a lot of things in life.

[Karkat]

Eh, I think it's probably just aesthetics.

[Abbeys]

When they hit your cervix it's

:D:D:D

[evgenia]

I think a "big penis" needs to be thick (girth) as well as length. 7" long and 6" girth would be big to me!! But I guess that doesn't really answer Renata's question! Maybe a big dick is a status symbol to guys.

[biancachica]

I think that porn has had a large influence. I also think that as a society we see bigger as better in almost everything. We also love to brag about stuff, so with that said, wanting the best according to society seems important for us. However not everyone is like that. I think a big penis is impressive but never would I go after that. If a future sexual partner happens to have a big penis its ok with me. But my sexual partners have been somewhat average and they were way enough for me.

[rachel_ballet]

I agree with everyone else and I think it's a competition with guys!
To me, size of a penis is not a important thing! To me it's how hard and how long it stays hard! And of course if the guy knows how to work it!

[Renata_cmp]

yeah i wonder where they learn to "work it"... Is there a school of some sort?

[Jennboh]

yeah i wonder where they learn to "work it"... Is there a school of some sort?

Just like how do you learn how to give a blowjob?practice.

[Renata_cmp]

but if they never had sex before dating you they technically don't know how to "work it", so its gonna be disapointing right?

[Juana]

I heard from my mother that its inborn and boys know how they must have sex with a girl. Haha and of course they have to practise a lot!!!

:)

[Renata_cmp]

yeah, like many things its another topic that put big amount of pressure and concern on people's shoulders, the fear of not being good enough. i guess it comes with the fear of not being big enough. funny how the dick and 'muscles' are the only thing "socially" acceptable to be big on a boy.

[Jennboh]

but if they never had sex before dating you they technically don't know how to "work it", so its gonna be disapointing right?

i dont know. thats why u should have good communication i guess.

[Renata_cmp]

ah i remember i read a somehow erotic japanese comic drawn by a woman, and litteraly all the guys had huge penises... so weird.

[metal]

ive always preferred smaller ones actually. big cocks kinda scare me. lol

same here. it really depends on the size of your holes

[Jennboh]

same here. it really depends on the size of your holes

lol and mine are small so yup.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

I don't do penises :P

[pinkgurl16]

I like all size penises and balls.

[Renata_cmp]

On a side note, the amount of guys lying here about their penis size is ridiculous... 8 inches and more are really really rare, so when i see a 14 years old full baby face guy claming he has a 8.3 inches penis make me laugh... Why are they doing this??

[twirlgurl]

On a side note, the amount of guys lying here about their penis size is ridiculous... 8 inches and more are really really rare, so when i see a 14 years old full baby face guy claming he has a 8.3 inches penis make me laugh... Why are they doing this??

Yea, They must mean 8" when folded in half. :)

thats a boy thing i think. Or the "my penis is too large and it's a problem" comment. :rolling eyes:. Yea, um... excuse me? We have BABIES!? Have boys ever seen the size of a babies head???

[Char1999]

In my experience when a boy tells you the size of his penis, half the number he says and then add about 1/1&1/2 inch and you are generally closer to the mark. So for 99% of cases, if a guy says he has an 8 inch penis then its generally somewhere about 5/5 1/2inches.

[Renata_cmp]

i assume they want to impress us and make us horny, but i don't think any girl ever got hot over a guy just because he posted a number on a forum...

[Lisa16]

Guys only want to impress us, that's all!!!!

[juanita]

Yeah not very important to me. Unless I get on top and grind during intercourse, I can only orgasm from oral/manual stimulation.

[twirlgurl]

Guys only want to impress us, that's all!!!!

I dont know about you, but i dont think a penis isnt an accomplishment of anything, regardless of size. Lying about it makes them only liers. But niether one is "impressive".

[Renata_cmp]

I dont know about you, but i dont think a penis isnt an accomplishment of anything, regardless of size. Lying about it makes them only liers. But niether one is "impressive".
I completely agree. XD makes me wanna hug you.

[Jour_Nuit]

i only had sex with 2 guys, i don't really know what a "big one" is, my first bf was 17, 7 inches , i think 7 is ok

[Daniella98]

How can they not think further than to impress us. Are they not trying to impress us to get us into bed?What then when he reveals his MUCH LESS impressive thing. (Now that he has promised us a big one)

Here is something Ive noticed: After proudly advertising them self by their massive penis and it then they only was half, there are NO embarrasment to trace in their attitude. They still look smug like "See I told you so. Its big right"

I therefore only have one conclusion: Boys do not have a clue what inches or centimeters are.

[Beth]

A big penis doesnt impress me they are all good no matter the size. A penis is a penis.

[Pensive]

My brother likes to half brag about having to specially order condoms online because he is too big for all normal ones lol. But I also know it frustrates him, and it can cause problems such as some girls can't really manage to suck his dick.

Guys are insecure about their dicks as much as girls are insecure about their body parts, only at least with ours they don't prevent anything xD. kinda feel like we get lucky in the deal haha!

[lilg]

I therefore only have one conclusion: Boys do not have a clue what inches or centimeters are.

Haven't you heard the joke? Us girls have been told 4 inches is 8 inches for so long we don't know how to tell sizes lol

[Natasha]

A lot of the boys I know are always torturing each other about penis size and it causes a lot of insecurity. It's a great pity because some really great guys lose confidence. It's so annoying when they talk such crap about impossible sizes.
It's funny that they think it might impress me though.

[Daniella98]

Haven't you heard the joke? Us girls have been told 4 inches is 8 inches for so long we don't know how to tell sizes lol

Haha no I havent heard that one.

[Stephanie 15]

I think guys have to be competitive in everything so it's natural to say they have a huge penis. Size to me doesn't matter a penis is a penis. As for size to fit in side my vagina I don't know as I'm still a virgin, probably the only one here.

[Renata_cmp]

How can they not think further than to impress us. Are they not trying to impress us to get us into bed?What then when he reveals his MUCH LESS impressive thing. (Now that he has promised us a big one)

But that's my question, why woud it 'impress' us if it's big or 'disappoint' us to see they are normal sized? Why unreachable and unnatural is considered as something good? It's not different than thoses photoshopped models we see everywhere.

Stephanie, actually no, i am as well and dont feel bad because you're a virgin, sex is not a race and there's no norm or anything like that.

[Saraparker]

I can't even lie I love when a guy is really big, forget sex giving him head drives me crazy

[Stephanie 15]

But that's my question, why woud it 'impress' us if it's big or 'disappoint' us to see they are normal sized? Why unreachable and unnatural is considered as something good? It's not different than thoses photoshopped models we see everywhere.

Stephanie, actually no, i am as well and dont feel bad because you're a virgin, sex is not a race and there's no norm or anything like that.

I don't feel bad at all!

[Daniella98]

But that's my question, why woud it 'impress' us if it's big or 'disappoint' us to see they are normal sized? Why unreachable and unnatural is considered as something good? It's not different than thoses photoshopped models we see everywhere.

Stephanie, actually no, i am as well and dont feel bad because you're a virgin, sex is not a race and there's no norm or anything like that.

Thats not what I meant. What I was trying to say was that its stupid of them to say 8 inches, when they hope to get the chance to reveal 4 inches to us. Dont they think about what that says about them? (Liar, insecurity, and so on)

[Kirina]

You are not being naive. The hype around big penises makes no sense.
It is true that in general a thicker/longer penis has the advantage as it can create more friction per thrust. "Too long" should never really be a problem as the boy is in control over how deep he penetrates and width is commonly thought of as more important than length.

When it hurts due to being too long, the boy is probably hitting the cervix. Those who say they enjoy having their cervix pounded may actually mistake it for the "anterior fornix", but of course some actually do enjoy when it hits the cervix as well.

However despite the advantages, a larger penis should not make a massive difference in pleasure. Not to warrant looking down on the boy because of it.
Some are so narrow-minded that they think sex is all about penile penetration but that is obviously wrong. Especially since bisexual girls who have been with a wide range of different boys, have reported enjoying sex with girls far more. Go figure.

People are so concerned with having the best all the time.
Most who says the sex was bad is lying as they find masturbating alone pleasurable, so with the addition of another person to make pleasure worse than when doing it alone? The boy/girl would basically have to be paralyzed.
To be disappointed is one thing, but I like to compare it with food. Eating frozen pizza compared to the homemade my grandmother makes is a disappointing experience, but frozen pizza is still damn good. So when people have sex they should really just enjoy the moment and not expect too much, pleasure will vary.

The "animalistic uncontrollable" stuff can be true but in that case, feel good about yourself, Renata. You have a superior mind to not be affected by it.

I'm rambling. Media and porn is definitely where the hype around big penises comes from.

yeah i wonder where they learn to "work it"... Is there a school of some sort?

You are right if you think more pressure is put on boys when it comes to how to perform. Ideally both the boy and the girl should move their hips so if a girl thought the boy had a poor technique it may actually be her that didn't know how to "work it". (Just communicate more).

When it comes to oral. I have seen on those tumblr blogs run by people who tries to give sexual advice. Often when you see questions like "How should I give a blowjob", the response is usually "Just blow it lol". While when it comes to cunnilingus, the response gets really in depth. Like it's a form of art.

Of course there is in depth instructions on how to give blowjobs as well but far less (at least on tumblr, but that matters as it is a very popular platform for teens), their less likely to find the less popular sites where real educational stuff is written.

[jenni31]

yes I was after that 22 inch cock lol seriously size does not matter it could be a 4 inch a5 inch or 6 inch cock. its th person behind the cock that matters and if he is kind loving caring and genuine then that cock is very beautiful and I would love to play with it. guys will lie about their size of their cocks because they want to impress us girls and yes like everyone has been saying porn has a lot to do with it and they think the bigger the cock the better and that's not true I have small boobs but I'm not going to tell a guy that I have big boobs because I want to stuff my bra to impress him you like my boobs for the way they are

[Jamie1441]

I like real wide ones and just anything bigger than 4 inch length

[neledisapersonne]

I dont think anyone really likes and looks for 8-9 inch penises. (they'd have a hard time finding it if they did also) it is a common misconception that girls think that the bigger the better, I think there is a perfect size for everyone and I would personally be afraid of a "big" dick as opposed to be turned on by it. It should be a disadvantage for a boy if it is too big in my opinion

[Emerald Dream]

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