Want to go "all the way", but...

[BicMacZach]

My current girlfriend and I have known each other for about 3 years now, 13 months of which we have been together. We are both virgins and planned to keep it like that for a while, but in recent times we've both decided that we are ready to you-know-what. We are both 17 and have very restrictive households, my step-dad and grandparents (my grandparents are fundamentalist Christians BTW) and her parents are both pretty set on keeping us supervised every time we hang out and we rarely get to hang out (we also go to separate schools).
Basically, how do you think we can convince both of our's families that we are responsible enough to be trusted? I don't want to have to wait until I'm 18 to binge on my new-found freedom and mess something up.

P.S. We plan to be responsible and use protection.

Thnx

[Maiden]

ok first off, 13 months together and you haven't had sex? that just amazes me i don't think i could ever do that.

now to your question, to me your parents have no no say in this matter, if you want to and feel ready to have sex go for it. then again i can't really put myself in the same situation as im from a family where it would never be a problem.

if you'r worried about what your parents will think or say i say fuck them, don't seek their aproval do what you think is right.

[maniamsmart]

While I personally think that you should not rebel against your parents and should wait till you are 18 to avoid any trouble or possible break up between your you and your girlfriend I think there are some ways around it.

I am sure your parents can't supervise you 100% of the time, so why not take the chance when they aren't? What do you tend to do with your girlfriend, where do you guys hang out, do you go on dates, private dates? Do you go to the same school together?

One thing that I don't think you should do is go against what your parents say because it could ruin your relationship. You are still under the age of being a legal adult, so you have to listen to them. But if you really want to do it, then you may have to do some lying, make some stories up, and be sneaky with it. Maybe if you answer some of the questions above I could give some ideas.

[Zachary G]

short of lying and betraying the trust of your parents, i really dont think there is much you can do about it right now. if you are adamant on doing this, then you might want to take some of the advice given above and go against everything your parents say by starting to tell lies, sneak around, etc. only you know the real situation, so only you would know the best ways to get around without them knowing. but if i were you, id wait it out, it will be all that more special for you when you do do it.

[maniamsmart]

short of lying and betraying the trust of your parents, i really dont think there is much you can do about it right now. if you are adamant on doing this, then you might want to take some of the advice given above and go against everything your parents say by starting to tell lies, sneak around, etc. only you know the real situation, so only you would know the best ways to get around without them knowing. but if i were you, id wait it out, it will be all that more special for you when you do do it.

Exactly. If you want to go "all the way" you're going to have to go "all the way" down the road of lying and risking not only the trust of your parents but possibly even your whole relationship.

P.S I now see you're in separate schools and don't hang out with her much, so this is really the only option left.

[Luminous]

Please don't fight in threads. It makes for an unwelcoming environment and is not respectful to anyone involved and the OP of the thread. This will be your only warning.

[mariozplaze]

I would like to note that I am sadly in a similar situation, and the only thing I have concluded that I should do is just wait until I'm 18 just like what zack.zack said. It will be more special than waiting and also will be less risky.

[BabyGMarie]

OMG I'm in the same exact position your in, 17 been with my bf for 13 months & we are ready but dont know how to tell our parents