Clutching at straws

[Gumleaf]

So what I want to know is if I'm clutching at straws from desperation, or are the following signs that someone is interested, or just interested in being friends, or further more just being friendly?

About 6 months ago I joined a brand new small group in my church. Basically we pray together and do studies together on Wednesday nights each week. I'm the baby of the group and the only single guy. Also in the group are a married couple, about early-mid 20's, another dating couple about the same age. Then also 3 single women, one in her mid 20's and the other 2 early 20's. I get along with the 2 close to my age, being Mel and Kylie.

So this brings me to the question. I'm wondering if Kylie might be a little interested? Over the last few weeks she has been actively praying specifically for the points I wanted prayer for at group each week. Then last week at church her and Mel came and sat next to me with Mel directly next to me and Kylie next to her. We talked a little after church that night, mostly about how a study I led went the week before when Kylie wasn't at group. Then last night she came and sat next to me in church when she could have sat with some girl friends behind me. Then afterwards she started talking to me and we spoke for a while. This week we have our Christmas dinner instead of regular group to finish the year. I'm wondering how that will go and whether Kylie will talk to me?

Anyways, my question is that based on this, do you think that I'm clutching at straws from being so sick of being single or is Kylie interested to some degree? I know I haven't given you much to work with, but opinions will be welcome. Thanks.

[Paladino]

It seems to me as if there is interest there, maybe flirt with her a bit and see how it goes? I have been split with my gf for nearly 2 weeks and I already want a new girlfriend haha.

[Gumleaf]

It seems to me as if there is interest there, maybe flirt with her a bit and see how it goes? I have been split with my gf for nearly 2 weeks and I already want a new girlfriend haha.

Thanks. I was thinking something similar.

[Horatio Nelson]

I would say so.

Just keep talking to her and see what she likes to do and possibly do some of those things with her. (Run on sentences FTW!)

[maniamsmart]

You'd need more signs. These are some very general signs, and they could easily be taken as being friendly and just wanting to be friends. If you don't see her making any moves on you that show interest then you're going to have to and see how she responds and reacts. I am not saying that these could be signs of dating interest that you mentioned, but they can easily be signs of friendship as well. Report back with more info when you have any, because right now it's pretty hard to tell.

[Gumleaf]

You'd need more signs. These are some very general signs, and they could easily be taken as being friendly and just wanting to be friends. If you don't see her making any moves on you that show interest then you're going to have to and see how she responds and reacts. I am not saying that these could be signs of dating interest that you mentioned, but they can easily be signs of friendship as well. Report back with more info when you have any, because right now it's pretty hard to tell.

Yeah, thanks. You're right. It is hard to tell at this point.

[ImCoolBeans]

My vote is yes. Can't say for sure, but it sounds like there is some sort of interest there. Talk to her, ask her to get a coffee with you :) good luck!

[Gumleaf]

Thanks for all your comments and opinions. Tonight we had our last group night for 2 months. We were at Kylie's house and it was a good night. But idk, I never got any vibe tonight that she might be interested. It's going to be a long summer where I won't see her much so I'm not sure what to do? I guess we can sus things out at church but hmmm. Confusion!!!!

[maniamsmart]

Thanks for all your comments and opinions. Tonight we had our last group night for 2 months. We were at Kylie's house and it was a good night. But idk, I never got any vibe tonight that she might be interested. It's going to be a long summer where I won't see her much so I'm not sure what to do? I guess we can sus things out at church but hmmm. Confusion!!!!

If you didn't get any vibes from her that she may be interested in something more than a friendship, then I am not going to create any vibes for her that will make you think so otherwise. I think she may just want to be friends then :/

[Saint of Sinners]

She might just want to get to know you as a friend. Well if you're not going to see her often get her number or something and keep in touch. Best to leave it as friends for now, since you didn't get any vibes.

[Gumleaf]

So last night was church and probably the last time i'll see Kylie for a while. Her and Mel again came and sat next to me. The interesting thing was that Kylie was 2 seats down next 2 another girl. But when it came for time for talking afterwards, rather than talk to the other girl next to her that she's friends with, she turned and talked to me instead. I'm hoping that's a good sign? Anyways, confusion continues but I'm leaning towards the friend thing right now. But we'll see what happens in the new year when normality returns after summer.

[maniamsmart]

So last night was church and probably the last time i'll see Kylie for a while. Her and Mel again came and sat next to me. The interesting thing was that Kylie was 2 seats down next 2 another girl. But when it came for time for talking afterwards, rather than talk to the other girl next to her that she's friends with, she turned and talked to me instead. I'm hoping that's a good sign? Anyways, confusion continues but I'm leaning towards the friend thing right now. But we'll see what happens in the new year when normality returns after summer.

You're right... it certainly is a good sign. But is it a sign for interest in a relationship? It isn't clear. The same goes for if it's a sign for friendship. It isn't clear. Hopefully you may get some more signs during the summer though.

[WALLE]

she goes out of her way to be with you it seems like so yeah id say shes interested in you