How can I let out my anger?

[Ticagirl]

So I'm the kind of person who gets angry very easily. I'm very hotheaded. So I remember when I was little I would yell back at my parents because, well, I was mad. Now I understand that yelling back at your parents is wrong, because they are the authority. I've learnd that yelling back isnt going to solve anything, so I just suck it up. But I've noticed ever since I've just been sucking it up, I just feel more angry towards my parents....and I think I'm starting to hate them. I don't want to hate them, because they love me a lot, and care for me, but I just can't help but feel angry all the time now. I've figured that I just need an outlet for my anger, but I can't just disrespect them and yell at them, so how can I let out my anger in a better way instead of letting it sit inside me?

[Bmble_B]

Try to experiment and find hobbies which will distract you from your anger. I kinda know what you mean, once in a while there's days where everything gets me ticked off. But I throw on my headphones and listen to music, or start to animate on my computer. Next thing I know I'm as happy as ever.

[ValentinClarke]

I lock my anger up too. But about everything. So, some days, I am close to punching everyone I talk to. I just stop whatever I'm doing, put down my pen or whatever, and just take deep breaths. Try to focus on what got you mad and why. Music helps me a lot. Focusing on work helps me. Pm me if you need some more

[maniamsmart]

I'd say find a way to release your anger in a way that you don't hurt anyone, or put your energy from your anger into something productive. For example, I love making music and singing and rapping, so when I am angry, I put some Eminem on and start recording some songs. Not only does it help release my anger, but it also gets something done that I love doing. Try something like that to ensure that your anger doesn't wrongly affect anyone.

Another method is to talk to a close friend. A friend that can listen to you and that can let you vent. I do this sometimes too, and a lot of my friends do this to me when they are angry and I am always there for them.

[SethfromMI]

write down all your thoughts, sing, vent to someone, punch a pillow (or something soft) , exercise/do something active

[suzzysmith2012]

Try to replace the negative things with positive, replace hate and anger with love and happy thoughts, replace words that cut down and destroy with words that build up and benefit others, picture yourself in their shoes and you on the receiving end of what your giving and ask yourself if that's how you'd like it to be, walk away from the current place and situation if needed when you feel the hate and anger rising,
Storing up you your anger, hate, and rage, and sweeping it under the rug, may work for a while, but you can only keep it built up so long till the dam holding it back breaks loose and all hell runs out.

[nick_1999]

I have the same problem sometimes. What I did was to go on forums such as these and vent about things. Also, practice breathing techniques and removing yourself from the situation helps SO much. Good luck to you!

[Jaseblader]

So I'm the kind of person who gets angry very easily. I'm very hotheaded. So I remember when I was little I would yell back at my parents because, well, I was mad. Now I understand that yelling back at your parents is wrong, because they are the authority. I've learnd that yelling back isnt going to solve anything, so I just suck it up. But I've noticed ever since I've just been sucking it up, I just feel more angry towards my parents....and I think I'm starting to hate them. I don't want to hate them, because they love me a lot, and care for me, but I just can't help but feel angry all the time now. I've figured that I just need an outlet for my anger, but I can't just disrespect them and yell at them, so how can I let out my anger in a better way instead of letting it sit inside me?

Try to find a hobby like writing or sports or even write down a reason you love them when you think you hate them

[randyboy]

Go for a run, it helps!

[maniamsmart]

Go for a run, it helps!

Good idea, something as casual as this could be a really great way to release anger, I have to try that sometime :)

[Freckles]

I'm not really hot headed but I do have trouble staying angry and not forgiving right away. What I've found works is to write like a story where the person I'm mad at is the villain. Then I can silently yell all I want. Once I'm calmed down I write why all of those feelings weren't worth it and try to find something good in it and I usually can.

[the darkness]

When I get angry and frustrated and usually end up crying, but others I'll hit my head with the palms of my hands - I'll usually do this if I'm annoyed with myself.

I know these both sound pathetic, but it's how I react. Some people cry and others don't; I'm ashamed to say I'm a guy that cries more than I'd like.

To deal with anger, I'm not proud of the punching thing, but go for a run/swim/cycle or something - don't punch people, walls or doors because it's just not worth it.

[Freckles]

When I get angry and frustrated and usually end up crying, but others I'll hit my head with the palms of my hands - I'll usually do this if I'm annoyed with myself.

I know these both sound pathetic, but it's how I react. Some people cry and others don't; I'm ashamed to say I'm a guy that cries more than I'd like.

To deal with anger, I'm not proud of the punching thing, but go for a run/swim/cycle or something - don't punch people, walls or doors because it's just not worth it.

There is nothing wrong with crying. You have to let your feelings out somehow. I think people with anger management problems are ones who don't let their feelings out until they explode.

[Snydergate]

Writing it down can help, you don't have to show it to anyone. My personally, I own a sword so I go outside and cut up jugs of water, pretending they are the heads of people I hate, it really helps me out

[amgb]

I am so late to this but anyways. I get angry really easily and used to yell back at my parents a lot as well, but same as you I learnt to hold it in and be the calm one. I know what you mean by how your anger and hatred towards them is just bottling up inside and it makes you feel worse. Bottled anger is a dangerous thing, because that can explode and hurt those around you and I know you love your parents and don't want to disrespect them. I suggest perhaps ripping or scrunching paper up? Or punching a pillow? Oh, and exercise definitely helps : )

[Drummer Ben]

With me I'm the most mellow person you'll meet. It'll take a lot to get me angry but when I do, man it's something. All the music you listen to when your angry sounds awful. Faces look ugly, women seem wicked, streets are uneven when you're down. The only thing that works for me is doing something physical to release my anger. Weather it's go for a bike ride, jam on the drums, go for a run, something physical to let all the excess negative energy out of me. I find that's better than causing destruction.

[Uranus]

What I do is usually punch a pillow. Or listen to some rap music and just relax. However, I don't know what helps you calm down but punching a pillow always helps

[JacobIN]

write down all your thoughts, sing, vent to someone, punch a pillow (or something soft) , exercise/do something active

DO NOT punch a mattress though. Maybe just mine, but I tried that and about twisted my wrist cause of the springs.

Anyway, I like to go target shooting with my rifle, and **sometime** crush bricks and cinder blocks with the butt of it.