Need Advice!!

[roperwilly]

Ok, so here is my situation. Me and my best friend have been friends for abouy a year but we have gotten really close. Nothing sexual at all. He stays the night a lot and we share a bed but I have a really big bed so we aren't that close. We don't really talk about sexual things seriously at all but we are always joking about each other being gay. I feel like there is a lot of sexual tension between us especially when we are alone, like we will make eye contact that seems really sexual. I don't know what to Do. I don't know how to talk to him about this. I really like him as a friend I honestly have come to love him a lot we are together all the time. I. Just don't know where to go from here any advice would be greatly appreciated

[Curious.]

It depends on what you want. What are your wishes for him? For yourself? How old are you? Are you confortable with it?

[LokaChris]

Take the lead. . And tell him what you feel

[Zachary G]

the question is, do you want there to be anything sexual between you? depending on how much you value your friendship with him, making anything sexual between you could jeopardize the all the years you have invested in him. if its really an issue for you and he is as close a friend as you say he is, then you should be able to have a serious talk with him about such things with no fear. -- thats just my 2 cents.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Family and Friends

I think it fits better here. :)

[roperwilly]

Yeah I do want to have a sexual relationship with him. I feel the reason I haven't done anything yet is becAuse I am so scared of losing him. I'm 18btw he's 20.

[kay_jay]

You should just talk to him and how do you think he might react?

[Semi_IronMan]

Be honest and tell him how u feel

[roperwilly]

I don't think I can tell him. I'm so scared to lose him. I am a otherwise straight guy but he has literally made me crazy. I actually thought he was a very unattractive guy when I met him but after spending so much time with him I slowly fell in love. I am so sad when he leaves and I think of him multiple times a day. It's pretty fucked up because I hate feeling like this.

[SethfromMI]

the question is, do you want there to be anything sexual between you? depending on how much you value your friendship with him, making anything sexual between you could jeopardize the all the years you have invested in him. if its really an issue for you and he is as close a friend as you say he is, then you should be able to have a serious talk with him about such things with no fear. -- thats just my 2 cents.

I agree with zack

[DavidNorton]

I've been through this man so if you ever need to talk, PM me. Me and my friend were like this for weeks and finally I took the lead and just told him how I felt and what I wanted to do and in the end, we felt the same way about most things that we were awkward about. Just take the lead and tell him. It will make things so much easier.

[dontfiguremeout]

I'm going to be flat out honest that you guys don't need to talk about that stuff really. Everyone here on VT always talks about doing something sexual with their best friend, but really I find that gross and unnecessary. You don't need to do anything sexual with your best friend to be close. Don't even bother asking if you don't want to. You can have such a close relationship with your friend by doing other stuff, like helping each other out, keep doing your hang outs, and other things. My best friend and I are pretty close and we really don't talk about that stuff. We may joke around about it, but we wouldn't even dare to do anything sexual at all. That would be super gross.

[Horatio Nelson]

I'm going to be flat out honest that you guys don't need to talk about that stuff really. Everyone here on VT always talks about doing something sexual with their best friend, but really I find that gross and unnecessary. You don't need to do anything sexual with your best friend to be close. Don't even bother asking if you don't want to. You can have such a close relationship with your friend by doing other stuff, like helping each other out, keep doing your hang outs, and other things. My best friend and I are pretty close and we really don't talk about that stuff. We may joke around about it, but we wouldn't even dare to do anything sexual at all. That would be super gross.

My thoughts exactly.

[roperwilly]

All great advice any more?