Forgetting Him....

[Contagious]

I dated this guy, and we didn't last as long as we planned, it only lasted about a month, but he told me he loved me and he ment it, I know he did, and I ment it to when I would say it back.

But our relationship was never sexual but we talked about losing our virginitie to each other all the time, the most we did was hug and hold hands.

When we broke up, I wasn't so much sad, I was really mad, like super mad, but then the madness turned into sadness and I felt completely broke.

He told me like a day after he broke up with me was because he didn't trust me when I would hangout with other guy friends(one was my ex bf from like a year ago)

Then last week he told me; I lied, I do trust you, I was just mad.

Then I got really PO and stopped talking to him because he lied to me, but now I'm starting to miss him and can't stop thinking about him...... And I know this may sound weird but I feel like I can always smell him. Bit I don't want to, I want to get over him and completely earse him, but I can't....

Any advice please? And I'm so sorry if this is confusing......

[maniamsmart]

It is very normal for you to miss him and feel like you need him back since you are thinking about him so much. But you also have a good reason not to like him, and if you truly feel like you don't want to feel anything towards him then maybe a couple of things here will help you.

Firstly, he doesn't seem like the best of guys. He apparently loves you so much, but he doesn't trust you. Love requires trust, and if you don't have trust, you don't have much love. So, either he lied about loving you, or he lied about trusting you. Second, he makes some very irrational decisions, like breaking up with you because he was mad. That should not be a reason for someone to break up with the person they love so much because relationships are meant to have problems and things that make you angry, and it's your job to fix them, help each other, and push through, not just give up and break up. Was he really mad? Maybe he just used it as an excuse because he wanted to date another girl, then realized she wasn't as great as you and came back saying he lied? I am not sure, but regardless, it was a very poor decision and showed that he didn't value you very much. Third, him doing this shows that he doesn't respect and value your feelings very much either, since he thinks he can just lie about something as important as a relationship and then later change his mind to just change the way you feel. It's never acceptable to play with someone's emotions. And fourth, and most obviously, if he lied to you once now, in the early stage of the relationship about such an important thing like this, he is capable of lying about other things.

Now if you do still want to get back together with him, I have other advice for that, but you clearly don't so, those are a few things you can focus on to try and get over him. There are much better guys out there who will value their relationship, won't lie, and will reasure your feelings much better then this guy did. If you need anything else I'll be here to help.

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked: