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[dylan20072001]

So i have this girl in my class and i really like her, i guess you could say shes kind off my crush. Now im a very shy person but we're good friends. I want to ask her out but dont know if shes into me. She acts very nice around me and even her friends act really nice to me, i usually sit with all of her friends in lunch breaks but i just dont have the courage to ask her out. So, is there any way to know if shes into me. And if i do ask her out, what is the best way to do it? Thanks in advance :)

Note: I really like the girl as a friend and i really dont want our relationship to end and be really awkward each class :(

[Paladino]

Is there flirting? Look out for signs of flirting, if she compliments you, if you communicate through texts or facebook, does she reply very quickly?

[maniamsmart]

So i have this girl in my class and i really like her, i guess you could say shes kind off my crush. Now im a very shy person but we're good friends. I want to ask her out but dont know if shes into me. She acts very nice around me and even her friends act really nice to me, i usually sit with all of her friends in lunch breaks but i just dont have the courage to ask her out. So, is there any way to know if shes into me. And if i do ask her out, what is the best way to do it? Thanks in advance :)

Note: I really like the girl as a friend and i really dont want our relationship to end and be really awkward each class :(

As Paladino stated, we'd need to know a bit more about how this girl acts around you to give you an accurate answer that can be helpful. Now a days, there are actually some people who just like being really nice (how surprising I know), so it can easily be confused with them liking you. What grade are you in anyway, this can be another determining factor that can help me understand your situation a little better, different age groups show interest in different ways simply because of lack of experience.

However, to get you started on thinking about some ways you can approach this, I would look at how she treats other people, other boys specifically. Does she treat them the same way? Does she talk to you more than others? Has she said anything to you that made you think she is really into you? Maybe you should ask her if she likes anyone? It's hard especially when you are shy, because I would know, I was in your position once, and blatantly admitted I liked this girl, and then she said she just wanted to be my friend.

However, there was also a time when a girl was really nice to me, and she secretly liked me but because I never really stepped up and made a move, we never really got to date, and it wasn't until a few years later we admitted it to each other, but still didn't date. It is okay to be shy, and some girls do adore it, but if you really want something with this girl, you have to step it up a bit and show that you are interested. And if you are afraid of that, because you feel like she will be creeped out and your friendship will be ruined, then you have to find ways of reassuring yourself that she is into you.

But overall, take all of this with a grain of salt, because the advice I can give you is only as general as your question is. Please add more details and maybe give some more examples of how she acts around you and then we can look further into it.

[dylan20072001]

Well, im in 8th grade im pretty sure(Dont use grades here so not completely sure) She treats me nicer and spends more time with me then other guys.
She talks quite alot more to me then others, she's said she likes being around me if that helps. And i have not asked if she likes anyone,

[Jason The Great]

Confidence is the key if youre shy ! that worked for me with girl i liked ! ;)

[Dantrolene]

As Paladino stated, we'd need to know a bit more about how this girl acts around you to give you an accurate answer that can be helpful. Now a days, there are actually some people who just like being really nice (how surprising I know), so it can easily be confused with them liking you. What grade are you in anyway, this can be another determining factor that can help me understand your situation a little better, different age groups show interest in different ways simply because of lack of experience.

However, to get you started on thinking about some ways you can approach this, I would look at how she treats other people, other boys specifically. Does she treat them the same way? Does she talk to you more than others? Has she said anything to you that made you think she is really into you? Maybe you should ask her if she likes anyone? It's hard especially when you are shy, because I would know, I was in your position once, and blatantly admitted I liked this girl, and then she said she just wanted to be my friend.

However, there was also a time when a girl was really nice to me, and she secretly liked me but because I never really stepped up and made a move, we never really got to date, and it wasn't until a few years later we admitted it to each other, but still didn't date. It is okay to be shy, and some girls do adore it, but if you really want something with this girl, you have to step it up a bit and show that you are interested. And if you are afraid of that, because you feel like she will be creeped out and your friendship will be ruined, then you have to find ways of reassuring yourself that she is into you.

But overall, take all of this with a grain of salt, because the advice I can give you is only as general as your question is. Please add more details and maybe give some more examples of how she acts around you and then we can look further into it.



because you feel like she will be creeped out and your friendship will be ruined, then you have to find ways of reassuring yourself that she is into you.

I have a question regarding your aforementioned quote,,please.

To tell or not to tell about my love feelings to my close friend after she recently had a crush ?
I and she are friends and I am her secret keeper. I myself loved her and planned to tell her my feelings when it is time. Now she is discussing with me about her new crush and wants from me to help facilitate the relationship between her and her crush. The question is I don't know if I tell about my feelings toward her now is a good idea ? or its too late ? I feel if i don't I am going to BOOM. What matters to me is not to lose her completely. What to do ? Tell her or not ?

[maniamsmart]

because you feel like she will be creeped out and your friendship will be ruined, then you have to find ways of reassuring yourself that she is into you.

I have a question regarding your aforementioned quote,,please.

To tell or not to tell about my love feelings to my close friend after she recently had a crush ?
I and she are friends and I am her secret keeper. I myself loved her and planned to tell her my feelings when it is time. Now she is discussing with me about her new crush and wants from me to help facilitate the relationship between her and her crush. The question is I don't know if I tell about my feelings toward her now is a good idea ? or its too late ? I feel if i don't I am going to BOOM. What matters to me is not to lose her completely. What to do ? Tell her or not ?

You could make a thread for yourself you know :P I am on this forum section a lot and tend to answer to many of the threads here, but sure.

I don't think you should tell her right now at this very moment. And there are several reasons for this. Firstly, currently she is one of your close friends, and you need to show that you respect and care about her decisions. So for you to just come in and pour your heart out when she is crushing on someone else is kind selfish. She'll appreciate you more if you help her with her current crush. Another reason is because she is interested in someone already, to such an extent that she is even asking her best friend to help her set the relationship up. Piling your feelings on top of that is just going to make it very hard for her and make her stressed.

I am not saying that you telling your feelings to her will cause your friendship to end, but it will cause her to feel stressed and torn between picking. Plus, you don't even know if she likes you back. What I suggest you do, is play a father figure for a little (strange analogy, I know). Be there for her when she needs you, keep her close, and show that you care for her and will always be there for her. Hopefully, (more likely if she is young) her relationship with her crush will end, and then you can tell her. It's better that way, and then she may even realize that having a strong friendship can make relationships even stronger (because they can), rather than going with another person you aren't that close with and are just crushing on. And hey, she'll also see you respected her choice when you really wanted to date her but she was crushing on someone else, that's bonus points there, which you can tell her too.

So play the waiting game, and try to stay the great friend you are. I know it kind of sucks seeing the person you really care about and really like to be dating someone else, but more than likely it will pay off and you'll get your chance.

[dylan20072001]

So this asshole in my class knew i liked her(Not like i told him he just had his thoughts) And called her when she was with me doing homework in lunch break. He told her. She didnt really act suprised and all she was doing was smiling and saying no! no? nooo :D (Especially the smileyface) Sooo does this mean anything? Like i have no idea. Also, she only told me what he said later and i texted her saying, so do you believe him? And she hasn't text me back. And i have no idea what to say/do right now :/

[maniamsmart]

So this asshole in my class knew i liked her(Not like i told him he just had his thoughts) And called her when she was with me doing homework in lunch break. He told her. She didnt really act suprised and all she was doing was smiling and saying no! no? nooo :D (Especially the smileyface) Sooo does this mean anything? Like i have no idea. Also, she only told me what he said later and i texted her saying, so do you believe him? And she hasn't text me back. And i have no idea what to say/do right now :/

I am a bit confused. So someone in your class found out (just on his own), that you liked the girl that you've liked all along, and he calls her and tells her. When you were at lunch, you didn't know what he was saying, but later on she told you that the guy on the phone told her that you liked her. Then you texted her asking if she believes the guy, and no response yet. Is that what happened?

If so, then I am not sure if it means anything. We don't really know what he was saying exactly on the phone for her to make those expressions. Maybe she likes the fact that you like her, but then why hasn't she responded? Maybe she feels awkward now around you because someone else had to tell her that you liked her, and maybe she doesn't like you back, that could explain her not responding.

Overall, it's very hard to go anywhere with this little bit of information especially when we don't know the girl at all, and just know her off of 2 posts you made on here. I'd just wait and see if she replies to you, don't continue to spam her messages just wait for her to respond, if she doesn't respond by the end of the day, you can send another message. If anything, maybe talk to her at school the next time you go. I am a bit confused about what your question is too, so I am not even sure if I gave you a useful answer, so try to explain your question a little better with details.

A lot of things are unknown here.

[dylan20072001]

Well that was a good answer, but basicly this guy told her i liked her and then a little later i texted her saying do you believe him, she's seen the text but no response. She still acted pretty the same today though(Exept she was talking to her best girlfriend and they were looking at me all the time)

[maniamsmart]

Well that was a good answer, but basicly this guy told her i liked her and then a little later i texted her saying do you believe him, she's seen the text but no response. She still acted pretty the same today though(Exept she was talking to her best girlfriend and they were looking at me all the time)

There's three things that could be happening:

1. She is shy and scared to confront you, so she isn't replying to you and she is talking to her friends about it, but she does like you back.

2. She is weirded out, and wants to keep her distance, so she isn't replying to you and she told her friends about it. This would the worst out of the three because your friendship may go away with her. This happened to me before.

3. She doesn't like you back and still wants to be your friend but feels that you'll question her about what you texted her. This is a mixture between 1 and 2, where she still wants to be your friend, but doesn't really want to deal with the situation and is waiting for you to let it go.

I don't know which one is happening, and neither do you, so we'll have to play the waiting game and see what other signs she drops for us to place her in one of the above 3 categories.

[dylan20072001]

Alright, ill wait^^ Thx man

[maniamsmart]

Alright, ill wait^^ Thx man

No problem, if you need any further help just come back and ask, I'm always here.