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Slater
November 23rd, 2014, 05:46 PM
Well I think the title says a lot. I'm a 16 year old boy who happens to be gay. I've known that I've been gay for a while. I'm not trying to get attention or anything I have kinda broke down and need help on what to do. No one knows I'm gay except a few people on the Internet, and I don't know if I ever will tell my family. But nearly everyday I feel like im in a pit of darkness and I can't get out of it. I dream of being with a guy that makes me happy but I'm too shy and ugly for most guys to want to be with me. I'm not an average gay...I wear regular jeans and a tshirt and boots and I love the outdoors. I just don't enjoy anything In life anymore though. I'm honestly thinking about killing myself soon. I feel unwanted. My names Luke by the way. Love you

Zachary G
November 23rd, 2014, 06:18 PM
Hi Luke, my name is Zack. I am sorry that you are having the feelings that you are, no one should feel that way. I can relate with the feelings of being alone and in a pit of darkness, I have been there many times and it lead me to an even darker place. Its no fun having to keep the secret of your sexuality, there is a freedom that comes with coming out, the more you do it, the lighter the burden becomes and the easier things in your life become. There isnt a gay boy around that doesnt have the same dream as you do, to find someone they can love and be loved by unconditionally, so you arent alone in any of that. Given time that special person will come to you, but you have to be patient because things happen in their own time. I could beg and plead with you not to kill yourself, but if you have made up your mind to do it, then that is what you will do, but know there will be people that will miss you greatly. I am sure you are a very beautiful person, if that is you in your avi, I can say that you are really cute. I would give you the time of day any day. Look, if you ever want to talk, I am always available here or my other places. Okay? You are not alone.

phuckphace
November 23rd, 2014, 06:29 PM
I'm not an average gay...I wear regular jeans and a tshirt and boots and I love the outdoors.

th-that's my exactly my type :3 definitely nothing to be ashamed of dude.

I just don't enjoy anything In life anymore though. I'm honestly thinking about killing myself soon. I feel unwanted. My names Luke by the way. Love you
man, feel free to send me a message if you need someone to talk to.

Slater
November 23rd, 2014, 06:34 PM
Thanks guys, it's good to know that there are people out there that can relate.

Uranus
November 23rd, 2014, 08:17 PM
I'm not gay/bi I'll try my best to help.

[QUOTE=Slater;2993954]Well I think the title says a lot. I'm a 16 year old boy who happens to be gay. I've known that I've been gay for a while. I'm not trying to get attention or anything I have kinda broke down and need help on what to do. No one knows I'm gay except a few people on the Internet, and I don't know if I ever will tell my family.

hey. It's ok to be gay. Don't feel bad about it. And, to be honest..your family will find out sooner or later

But nearly everyday I feel like im in a pit of darkness and I can't get out of it. I dream of being with a guy that makes me happy but I'm too shy and ugly for most guys to want to be with me. I'm not an average gay...I wear regular jeans and a tshirt and boots and I love the outdoors.

Im going to stop you right there. Being shy or unattractive is not going to be an issue with a relationship. If someone doesn't accept you for who you are it's not your fault. It's theirs. My former gf was beautiful and...HOT. I never thought she would love me but she did. I'm not the best looking guy but still she accepted me for who I am. A good relationship must start with both participants accepting each other for who they are. If not..it won't last.

I just don't enjoy anything In life anymore though. I'm honestly thinking about killing myself soon. I feel unwanted. My names Luke by the way. Love you

DO NOT even consider killing yourself! It's not the right decision. You're depressed and very stressed. You're not thinking right.(Because I know how you feel).. I have a friend here. And on her profile pic is a very good quote. It goes like this:

"Suicide Does Not End The Chances Of Life Getting Worse..
Suicide ELIMINATES The Possibility Of It Ever Getting Better."

And you have a life waiting for you. You will find someone. I'm not sure when but you will. You just have to try. And try again.

Another quote that I go by is this:

"The Reason Most People Quit,
Is Because They Tend To Look At How Far They Still Have To Go,
Rather,
Than Looking At How Far They Have Come."

You just have to keep trying. Don't quit. You can do it.

Slater
November 23rd, 2014, 08:38 PM
Thanks.

Hudor
November 24th, 2014, 05:12 AM
I think the others have said it all well enough.

All i can say is that i can relate to what all you said and if you ever wish to talk, free to message me.

Semi_IronMan
November 25th, 2014, 06:42 AM
I'm not gay/bi I'll try my best to help.

[QUOTE=Slater;2993954]Well I think the title says a lot. I'm a 16 year old boy who happens to be gay. I've known that I've been gay for a while. I'm not trying to get attention or anything I have kinda broke down and need help on what to do. No one knows I'm gay except a few people on the Internet, and I don't know if I ever will tell my family.

hey. It's ok to be gay. Don't feel bad about it. And, to be honest..your family will find out sooner or later

But nearly everyday I feel like im in a pit of darkness and I can't get out of it. I dream of being with a guy that makes me happy but I'm too shy and ugly for most guys to want to be with me. I'm not an average gay...I wear regular jeans and a tshirt and boots and I love the outdoors.

Im going to stop you right there. Being shy or unattractive is not going to be an issue with a relationship. If someone doesn't accept you for who you are it's not your fault. It's theirs. My former gf was beautiful and...HOT. I never thought she would love me but she did. I'm not the best looking guy but still she accepted me for who I am. A good relationship must start with both participants accepting each other for who they are. If not..it won't last.

I just don't enjoy anything In life anymore though. I'm honestly thinking about killing myself soon. I feel unwanted. My names Luke by the way. Love you

DO NOT even consider killing yourself! It's not the right decision. You're depressed and very stressed. You're not thinking right.(Because I know how you feel).. I have a friend here. And on her profile pic is a very good quote. It goes like this:

"Suicide Does Not End The Chances Of Life Getting Worse..
Suicide ELIMINATES The Possibility Of It Ever Getting Better."

And you have a life waiting for you. You will find someone. I'm not sure when but you will. You just have to try. And try again.

Another quote that I go by is this:

"The Reason Most People Quit,
Is Because They Tend To Look At How Far They Still Have To Go,
Rather,
Than Looking At How Far They Have Come."

You just have to keep trying. Don't quit. You can do it.

that's some really good advice. I agree with u totally.

Bull
November 25th, 2014, 01:06 PM
We are who we are. There is a lot of good advice already here and I just want to say that I agree with Yung Merk. Live life to its fullest and enjoy all the positive aspects and work to remove/overcome the negatives. Good luck and I hope you have a good and long life! I promise to keep you in my thoughts.

Hideous
November 25th, 2014, 11:44 PM
I'm glad you're accepting who you are. Don't change for anyone. Do not kill yourself, someone out there loves you and you have so much to offer to the world. If you would need help and advice on coming out to your family, I say to come out to someone you trust the most first, you may not get the best response but overtime they'll learn to accept it. It is not your fault. We're here for you.

Look at a mirror. I want you to say good things about yourself, stay away from anything negative. That is how you should treat yourself and don't down yourself.

Meh Guy
December 6th, 2014, 05:59 PM
Hey Luke,

You gotta cheer up. I know it's tough when you're in the closet and don't think anyone will accept you. But you gotta look at the good things in life. Just because you're shy doesn't make you automatically undesirable. There are more shy people then extroverts out there and they can find love. And as for your looks, I doubt you're as ugly as you think, most people hate their appearance. As hard as it seems, I think you might just have to put yourself out there. Just let go of the shame and sorrow. You'd be amazed at what it can do for you.

Feel free to talk to me, I'm here for you :)