I want to dress like a girl

[Daracon]

It has been on my mind for a long time. I keep having this yearning to want to dress up and pretend to be girl. I have no idea why. And it feels totally against my character, but it feels like something I really need to do. I am really confused on what to do next. I wouldn't even know where to begin. And I don't think I could pull it off without looking like a gorilla in a dress. Maybe it is the desire to try to escape my reality and live a different one, I don't know. Could anyone give me advice on how to go from here? Thank you so much.

[James Dean]

Don't worry at all, you are not alone and there are many people in the same situation as you right now with gender crisis and identity. As an lgbt person myself, I can give you my take on how to deal with this.

I just want to make sure I'm understanding your identity correctly. You only want to dress in clothes opposite of your biological gender correct? So you don't have any thoughts of wanting to be the opposite gender or feeling you are not male?

I think you should only do what makes you comfortable. Maybe see if your family is open minded about it. If not, I wouldn't publicly let them know about it unless it gets too out of control. If you have to, go talk to a professional or a gender identity therapist to better help you. I'm not saying these are early signs of being transgender, but they could be. The internet is a good place to where you can probably learn more about crossdressing and trans issues and things of that sort. Questioning, transitioning all those questions.

I don't mean to scare you but I just want to make sure you only do that makes you happy. Again, only do what makes you comfortable and are safe with. :)

[Desuetude]

I'm literally feeling the same way but I'm a girl wanting to dress/behave like a boy but I'm still a girl. Honestly my situation is probably a lot easier, I was always a tomboy as a child and I act like a boy which is a lot more socially acceptable than a guy acting/dressing like a girl and that's really unfair. The only advice I can give you is to start off with unisex clothes, I mean dresses aren't the only thing girls wear (and they're disgusting anyway xD). I really wish I could give you more advice but I'm kind of in the same stressful and confusing situation so I guess I'm not really with it myself to be able to think up anything half decent.

[Daracon]

Don't worry at all, you are not alone and there are many people in the same situation as you right now with gender crisis and identity. As an lgbt person myself, I can give you my take on how to deal with this.

I just want to make sure I'm understanding your identity correctly. You only want to dress in clothes opposite of your biological gender correct? So you don't have any thoughts of wanting to be the opposite gender or feeling you are not male?

I think you should only do what makes you comfortable. Maybe see if your family is open minded about it. If not, I wouldn't publicly let them know about it unless it gets too out of control. If you have to, go talk to a professional or a gender identity therapist to better help you. I'm not saying these are early signs of being transgender, but they could be. The internet is a good place to where you can probably learn more about crossdressing and trans issues and things of that sort. Questioning, transitioning all those questions.

I don't mean to scare you but I just want to make sure you only do that makes you happy. Again, only do what makes you comfortable and are safe with. :)

Thanks a bunch for the reply. I don't really want to have an operation to change into a girl. It's long, tedious, and you don't look totally like a girl at the end of it and I don't mind being male. Though if there was a machine that 100% transformed me into a girl, with total accuracy, I would consider it. But for the time being I just want to dress up as one. Who knows? Maybe my opinion will change in the future.

I'm literally feeling the same way but I'm a girl wanting to dress/behave like a boy but I'm still a girl. Honestly my situation is probably a lot easier, I was always a tomboy as a child and I act like a boy which is a lot more socially acceptable than a guy acting/dressing like a girl and that's really unfair. The only advice I can give you is to start off with unisex clothes, I mean dresses aren't the only thing girls wear (and they're disgusting anyway xD). I really wish I could give you more advice but I'm kind of in the same stressful and confusing situation so I guess I'm not really with it myself to be able to think up anything half decent.

Thanks for your response. It's good to know there are people in the same boat as I am. Just for clarification, what would you consider to be "Unisex" clothing? Keep in mind I also weigh 240 pounds lol, so skinny jeans could be out of the question.

[Daracon]

Don't worry at all, you are not alone and there are many people in the same situation as you right now with gender crisis and identity. As an lgbt person myself, I can give you my take on how to deal with this.

I just want to make sure I'm understanding your identity correctly. You only want to dress in clothes opposite of your biological gender correct? So you don't have any thoughts of wanting to be the opposite gender or feeling you are not male?

I think you should only do what makes you comfortable. Maybe see if your family is open minded about it. If not, I wouldn't publicly let them know about it unless it gets too out of control. If you have to, go talk to a professional or a gender identity therapist to better help you. I'm not saying these are early signs of being transgender, but they could be. The internet is a good place to where you can probably learn more about crossdressing and trans issues and things of that sort. Questioning, transitioning all those questions.

I don't mean to scare you but I just want to make sure you only do that makes you happy. Again, only do what makes you comfortable and are safe with. :)

I have given some thought, and the question you gave to me about wanting to change genders has just confused me even more lol. Disregard what I said earlier, but it has been on my mind so much. A lot is going through my head, and all these feelings are just hitting me head on. I am thinking about so many questions, like the social implications, will I even look good as a girl, and so on. And now I am considering telling my mother, I know she is okay with this kind of stuff because we talked about it in general terms before. I am so confused haha. But I appreciate your response, it really gave me some new variables to seriously consider.

[CuteGuy889]

I was "force cross dressed" . .......When I was like 8 or 10 y/o My elder sis with her friends used to strip me to my undies and get me to wear frocks/dresses .....they wanted to see how the dresses looked when worn....I too was really skinny and looked girlish at that time...I remember being taken to a malls few times for shopping sprees in a dress..by them, like their little SISTER!!!!.....Sm of my school mates I saw in the malls did not recognize me. cos i looked really like a cute little girl with longish hair and all......once when I wanted to go to the loo I was taken to the ladies one.....It was terribly embarrasing to be stripped to my tighty-whities in front of few older girls and then to be put on a dress and called a girl and being dragged around....... but secretly I enjoyed it..

[James Dean]

I have given some thought, and the question you gave to me about wanting to change genders has just confused me even more lol. Disregard what I said earlier, but it has been on my mind so much. A lot is going through my head, and all these feelings are just hitting me head on. I am thinking about so many questions, like the social implications, will I even look good as a girl, and so on. And now I am considering telling my mother, I know she is okay with this kind of stuff because we talked about it in general terms before. I am so confused haha. But I appreciate your response, it really gave me some new variables to seriously consider.

No worries. :)

Like I said earlier, don't be afraid to talk to someone about it. There are therapists that specialize in this specifically. Transgender issues are confusing and scary to think about I know. Don't force yourself to be someone you are not. There are many open minded people out there so don't feel excluded or alone. Good luck and take care. :)

[Daracon]

I was "force cross dressed" . .......When I was like 8 or 10 y/o My elder sis with her friends used to strip me to my undies and get me to wear frocks/dresses .....they wanted to see how the dresses looked when worn....I too was really skinny and looked girlish at that time...I remember being taken to a malls few times for shopping sprees in a dress..by them, like their little SISTER!!!!.....Sm of my school mates I saw in the malls did not recognize me. cos i looked really like a cute little girl with longish hair and all......once when I wanted to go to the loo I was taken to the ladies one.....It was terribly embarrasing to be stripped to my tighty-whities in front of few older girls and then to be put on a dress and called a girl and being dragged around....... but secretly I enjoyed it..

Wow, that is a crazy story, and definitely seems like something an older sister would make their younger brother do haha.

[Babs]

Something that's important to remember: Sexuality, assigned sex, gender identity, and your outer representation in terms of femininity or masculinity are entirely separate things.
Dressing in clothing meant for the opposite sex is perfectly normal, and if you want to do it, then you should be able to do so.

[Daracon]

Something that's important to remember: Sexuality, assigned sex, gender identity, and your outer representation in terms of femininity or masculinity are entirely separate things.
Dressing in clothing meant for the opposite sex is perfectly normal, and if you want to do it, then you should be able to do so.

Thanks for your support and reply! :D. It's just such a big transition in my life. I usually get thousands of thoughts rushing through my head, going through all the scenarios, and I usually end up suppressing my feelings, thinking that it would make my life easier if I just ignore it than to embrace it. Usually my feelings/emotions are crazy, and I can't tell if something I like is genuine, so I have to be 100% sure that this is what I want in my life. I am going to talk to my mother about it soon. Hope I can convey my emotions correctly!

[Aajj333]

Go for it!

[Semi_IronMan]

Well that's a little peculiar... I say u should go for it, if it's something u really want to do I think u should go ahead and do it. YOLO