How to kiss???

[BookSmart]

Hey! So this is probably really silly, but I admit it. I am an awkward teenager stuck in my first legit relationship. I love my boyfriend to pieces! And I know he feels similarly about me too. The problem is we're both new to this whole relationship thingy, so we've never actually kissed before....and we're not sure how to kiss :whoops:

We both want to kiss each other really bad though! At least I know he wants to kiss me and I like it when he's happy so I want a kiss too (personally I'm not seeing how smushing face is better then cuddling, but whatever I'll give it a go)!

Last night was homecoming for our school, and we went together. We were at a point where we were getting really close to each other, and I could tell he was going to try something, so I waited for him to move in. But he didn't. So I went in for a kiss on the cheek but then he realized what I was doing and moved, because I guess he wanted a kiss on the lips? But then he never actually kissed me, and so I managed to kiss him sort of. And things were a Liiiitle awkward, but we managed to laugh it off and move on. But then later he asked if we wanted to try again, and at that point I feel like he was over thinking the whole thing and it didn't feel right, so I politely told him no (I mean really politely, and even toughed on my reasoning). And I think he understood, but he still wants to kiss me.

So what should I do? I know nothing about kissing, but over thinking won't help right? I thought it was something that just kind of happened???

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Well, I'm gonna put this briefly because really, things normally come naturally, so you can't really tell people "Okay now after about a minute you do this" because it always changes. So one thing you can do is glance from his eyes to lips, it kinda prompts him "Hey, I want your lips" (Oh but please don't quote me on that).

Maybe he's just being shy, but when one of you leans in, the other probably will too, unless they don't want to, then they'll back off, but you can see it happen, like you said, you were really close; that's a pretty good chance.

When you do, make sure you close your eyes and this is hard to explain but you kinda open and close your mouth in time with theirs. It feels awkward at first, but you will get used to it after the first time. You'll know when to use tongue, but you know, depending on your partner, use a lot or little, it's about making you and your partner happy.

That's all I can really say, you can't really put word for word on how to do it, because it always changes. All the best~ :D c:

[Semi_IronMan]

no body learns how to kiss. Just go in 4 a kiss and u'll know what 2 do, it will come naturally, okay...

[UnknownError]

Honestly, just go for it and it will come naturally. Make sure your mouth isn't too dry or too wet, I've had kisses that have been both and it's not great, especially too wet. Nothing worse than feeling like you're drinking :rolleyes: lmao.

As for tongue, some people like it and some don't. Personally I prefer to not use tongue but if the other person starts then I go along with it. If you do use tongue, just make sure you are both on the same page and you're not attacking his mouth. Also keep it moving, he won't want to feel like he's kissing a corpse.

That's all I can think of really. :)

[RockyRoad]

Best advice anyone can give you is go for it. There's no equation for it! go for the feeling and it'll be great.

[RRay99]

Agree with the other posters - just go for it! :)

[Firestar94]

You will know what to do. I had my first about 10 days ago and I was very surprised at how naturally it came to me. Good luck.

[Starling City]

Personally, I prefer spontaneous gestures. I want pleasant experiences like this to happen unexpectedly, surprisingly, and they are all the more memorable that way. If everything is planned out, analyzed a million times over, it sucks the life out of the moment. Thus, I think you should plan to kiss him when you feel the right moment comes along. It might be tough to identify that moment, but I think you'll get a certain indication of when it "feels right." I don't think there's such a thing as a perfect kiss or a perfect moment, but there is such a thing as a good moment where you're happy to be exactly where you are at in that very moment in time. I'd approach this step in one of those moments. I think you both really want it to happen, but don't ultimately want to make the other person uncomfortable. If you acknowledge that - yeah, it's a confusing step for both of us, wondering how, when, why, where, etc., - and get past that, you can just have the spontaneous experience together and go from there. I'm sure you'll ultimately both appreciate the moment for however it turns out. I'm hoping it works out for you! You'll either have an amazing first kiss or mutually humorous first kiss story to tell at dinner parties. And both are great. :D

[BookSmart]

Thanks for the advice everyone :)