Self Control

[StacyL]

Was just curious about other girls habits.

I know that as women masturbating shoulnd't be taboo and that we all do it from time to time and that we shouldnt be embarrassed to do it when we want to. But latley i've had one of those weeks where i've noticed i have been doing it more ( not much more but like been having the need to act on it more).

I was just wondering about my 'breaking point'(aka-- the urge for an O) compared to others and if its sorta normal --- referring to the point where you decided to go for a rub.

Like what makes or breaks that decision for you?

[becca07]

For me, when i feel like i NEED to go and do it is when i let it get to the point where its the only thing on my mind and when the hornyness wont go away-- (aka really aroused...pulsing...thobs etc) Like you said...its not always convenient when the urge strikes so sometimes i have to wait but even if I am waiting its like as soon as i get a chance... I will go for it ---quick march upstairs...lock door etc.

[Renata_cmp]

never asked myself so much questions lol. if i wanna do it i do it, there's naturally days when i want to do it more often.

[txtwister13]

I think we all have times when we're hornier than other times. Unless i'm in a situation where its convinient to get some 'stress relief' i just have to deal with it until i can, or the 'hornies' go away. In order to really enjoy myself i need to have some privacy, which can be hard to come by sometimes so i've learned to deal with it.

[leahmae]

I try to deal with it as long as I can. Sometimes the urge will go away, and sometimes I just can't get it out of my mind. I always enjoy it a bit more when I'm in comfortable surroundings with a bit of privacy. When I'm having one of those times where, no matter what, I can't get my mind off of it - I'll go find a place to take care of it quick (usually a restroom).

[Ninni]

I masturbate very rarely but am aroused a lot. For me there are some reasons not to do it very often and some i do not want to explain. But in a special way it is a lot about self control. I like beeing horny over a long period and the relief after and i want an O to be something special and not a everyday thing.

[StacyL]

I try to deal with it as long as I can. Sometimes the urge will go away, and sometimes I just can't get it out of my mind. I always enjoy it a bit more when I'm in comfortable surroundings with a bit of privacy. When I'm having one of those times where, no matter what, I can't get my mind off of it - I'll go find a place to take care of it quick (usually a restroom).
You described it pretty well. It sometimes does go away and then will sometimes come back but then i can deal with it at night or w/e. The times when it doesn't go away its like a vicious cycle...cuz its on my mind and i get even more horny thinking about it.

I think we all have times when we're hornier than other times. Unless i'm in a situation where its convinient to get some 'stress relief' i just have to deal with it until i can, or the 'hornies' go away. In order to really enjoy myself i need to have some privacy, which can be hard to come by sometimes so i've learned to deal with it.
I am the same as well, in order to really enjoy it and the relief its always nice to have the privacy and the time to do a really good job. Like Leah mentioned above...there is always the restroom or wherever for those 'quickies'....getting the O is nice for relief but I always feel rushed and basically can't enjoy it as much since Im just sorta racing as fast as i can towards the O so i dont get caught.

[Cangirl]

I know what you mean because I'm getting some days where all I can think about is sex and naked bodies and just feel my girlhood wanting to be touched and everything lol so if I can i like to go home or somewhere where I can feel comfy and be able to have a nice rub and not worry about having to be quiet or get caught. If I can't then I try to go to a washroom and be quiet about it in there because if i don't then its all I'm thinking about at the time and its hard to concentrate on other things lol

[becca07]

I try to deal with it as long as I can. Sometimes the urge will go away, and sometimes I just can't get it out of my mind. I always enjoy it a bit more when I'm in comfortable surroundings with a bit of privacy. When I'm having one of those times where, no matter what, I can't get my mind off of it - I'll go find a place to take care of it quick (usually a restroom).

Pretty much the only time I will use the restroom for that sort of 'activity' is during those urgent times cuz i know it won't take long to take care of the matter. Besides that...the bathroom is obviously not the most desirable place but it works as a last resort it seems for most of us.

[cheergurl]

I guess unless you're in public I don't see the reason for a breaking point. Like, why try to limit it? Most of us say it's ok to do and natural but alot of us also try to limit it or make it sound like it's more ok if we don't do it a lot. It's not harmful in any way, so as long as you can have a little self control in public I don't think there is such a thing as too much lol when I'm home from school and alone or just with my sister I do it most of the day lol it just feels too good lol

[Taryn98]

It just depends on where I am and how much time I have.

[txtwister13]

You described it pretty well. It sometimes does go away and then will sometimes come back but then i can deal with it at night or w/e. The times when it doesn't go away its like a vicious cycle...cuz its on my mind and i get even more horny thinking about it.


I am the same as well, in order to really enjoy it and the relief its always nice to have the privacy and the time to do a really good job. Like Leah mentioned above...there is always the restroom or wherever for those 'quickies'....getting the O is nice for relief but I always feel rushed and basically can't enjoy it as much since Im just sorta racing as fast as i can towards the O so i dont get caught.


I've never been able to masturbate in public restrooms, like at school or wherever, its just not comfortable enough for me, i tried it a few times but the comfort level just wasn't there.... i guess i was worried about getting caught or something. I have to wait until i have a more private setting.

[leahmae]

Pretty much the only time I will use the restroom for that sort of 'activity' is during those urgent times cuz i know it won't take long to take care of the matter. Besides that...the bathroom is obviously not the most desirable place but it works as a last resort it seems for most of us.

The restroom is a last resort place for me too. I would much rather take care of things in a more comfortable private place.

[sweetana]

It just depends on where I am and how much time I have.

I would say this is mostly true for me as well. Although I can certainly relate to times when my overall need for it is significantly greater.

As a general rule, I'd rather fantasize and continue to get worked up until I have some alone time. However if it gets to a point where I can't concentrate, or do anything else... I go for it.

[leahmae]

However if it gets to a point where I can't concentrate, or do anything else... I go for it.

This happens to me a lot

[soccerbeth]

Like Becca said, for me the time I NEED to do it is where it is the only thing I can think about. Most of the time I can redirect my focus to something else, but sometimes its all my mind will go to, and I can also feel the physical ache for it. That's usually when I can't do anything else but go for it.

As far as self control, I've only had a few times where I just didn't/couldn't have self control. Usually I just wait for a time where I can be alone. The times when I just lost it, I found a dressing room in the store, bathroom at a friends house, shower stall in the locker room, or an otherwise private spot.

[StacyL]

I've never been able to masturbate in public restrooms, like at school or wherever, its just not comfortable enough for me, i tried it a few times but the comfort level just wasn't there.... i guess i was worried about getting caught or something. I have to wait until i have a more private setting.

I've only done it a couple times as a last resort (we are talking really desperate) But...like you mentioned its not comfortable. I remember the first time i tried to and thought it would take no time at all due to how turned on i was... but i think the paranoia of making noise during the O got the best of me and i just ended up waiting until home.

[becca07]

Like Becca said, for me the time I NEED to do it is where it is the only thing I can think about. Most of the time I can redirect my focus to something else, but sometimes its all my mind will go to, and I can also feel the physical ache for it. That's usually when I can't do anything else but go for it.

As far as self control, I've only had a few times where I just didn't/couldn't have self control. Usually I just wait for a time where I can be alone. The times when I just lost it, I found a dressing room in the store, bathroom at a friends house, shower stall in the locker room, or an otherwise private spot.

Like you, most of the time i can redirect focus...but i guess my breaking point is when i can't do that. Usually its the physical ache for it that is persistent that does it for me which causes me to then keep thinking about it more and thus feeling frustrated both mentally and physically--hence 'lady boner' wont go away.

Its hard to describe cause its not I lose control of my behaviour... like Its more of a lose of control of my thoughts --everything is focused on sex, my body and wanting to have an O and figuring out how to go about it (i.e like you mentioned about finding that bathroom etc.

[leahmae]

There are just some times you just need an orgasm, it's almost like your body requires one to function.

[sweetana]

There are just some times you just need an orgasm, it's almost like your body requires one to function.

This is very well said.

[soccerbeth]

Like you, most of the time i can redirect focus...but i guess my breaking point is when i can't do that. Usually its the physical ache for it that is persistent that does it for me which causes me to then keep thinking about it more and thus feeling frustrated both mentally and physically--hence 'lady boner' wont go away.

Its hard to describe cause its not I lose control of my behaviour... like Its more of a lose of control of my thoughts --everything is focused on sex, my body and wanting to have an O and figuring out how to go about it (i.e like you mentioned about finding that bathroom etc.

yep, I think this is a good description of what happens with me too.

[RRay99]

If I have privacy (and especially if I'm with someone - watching or helping ;) sometimes I'll willingly hold out (guess I've heard the term edging being used to describe it) till I can't take it any more, but I'm usually not very self controlled when I have the urge to O

[Emerald Dream]

The OP is banned. :locked: