Sticky situation

[That's the Spirit]

So I just started a new school with some of my friends from reception/kindergarten, so i've known them for ages.

I last went to school with them in year 8 but since them they have changed so much. It's not them I have a problem with it's some guy who is in our friend group.

Let me give some background about him, he does (class A) drugs, skips class. He is also being investigated by the police for dealing acid (life imprisonment). My friends take the drugs (I don't) but they are nothing like this guy.

I don't do any drugs since I know it's dumb but I don't condemn my friends since I have known for about 13 years.

This guy has some kind of problem, like he is aggressive, annoying and attention seeking and overall a dick, like I sit next to him in class and he draws on my work after I say stop etc, I got pissed and for the rest of the day he has been a complete dick.

So, I am stuck between hanging out with my old friends and this idiot, or making friends with people I don't really know which is somewhat risky as I may lose these guys.

Any help appreciated.

[mrmee]

Id make it very clear he needs to stop that bullying shit PRONTO or we'd have a serious problemo. If he didn't stop it would just be a matter of how long until he gets out of the hospital.

[HockeyLovesMe]

id go to your close friends.. if you have known them for that long and seriously talk to them about it then they should listen.. if they don't its time sadly for new friends... volunteer or get involved with school activities now to prepare if you need new friends

[JamesSuperBoy]

I guess first thing - avoid sitting beside him in class -

The school will know he is being investigated by police for dealing acid but that does not mean life in prison he may well be expelled or suspended from school anyways so lets hope the situation gets better.

You have just started at this school I know that might be tough but there chances to expand the social scene around.

[James Dean]

If it were me, I would quit while I was ahead and be mindful, and if need be, if it gets that point, I would unfortunately distance myself from him. I would hate until it was too late and I gotten myself in trouble for being associated with him.

I know it's hard because you in a circuit of clique if you say, so he's kinda connected to the friends group. When I say distance yourself, be assertive with him. Make it known that you aren't gonna put up with his shit and we can be cool and all but the minute you cut up, that's it.

You always make new friends and keep in contact with the old. Network and circulate each others friends with each other. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. However, you will never know unless you out there and meet new people and introduce them to your core friends. Good luck with all this and be careful of yourself. :)

[Melodic]

The problems with having a social life is having to deal with people you don't personally agree with or don't get along with. However, that is gonna be the same way your entire life. Whether it's a friend of a friend or a co-worker. The best advice I'll give you is to focus on your friendships with the others and keep their friend at a friendly distance.

[dontfiguremeout]

Overall you need to make the choice for yourself. You don't need to feel like you only have these two options and that's it. You can still hang out with your friends, but maybe not as much. And you should still meet new friends too, so while you're making new friends, you still have your old friends you are hanging out with so you aren't completely by yourself on this.

[That's the Spirit]

Was fine up until about 1pm today, decided to start kicking my bag and attempted to steal a bottle. Long story short, he got his hand stamped on and he shut up after that.

Certain he has an attention disorder.

[SethfromMI]

he probably does. sometimes that is the type of thing you need to do. I am not advocating violence, but I would let no one bully me. try to talk to your friends. if they are your friends they will understand where you are coming form, maybe it will mean you will have to hang out with them less.

it is always ok to make new friends too though and since it is a new school it is a new opportunity to do so.

it is a sucky situation your in though, but def don't let him bully you around

[JamesSuperBoy]

Was fine up until about 1pm today, decided to start kicking my bag and attempted to steal a bottle. Long story short, he got his hand stamped on and he shut up after that.

Certain he has an attention disorder.


Lets hope you peace now - :yes:

[James Dean]

Was fine up until about 1pm today, decided to start kicking my bag and attempted to steal a bottle. Long story short, he got his hand stamped on and he shut up after that.

Certain he has an attention disorder.

Well, you don't know for sure. It would probably make sense because of his unusual behavior. Like I said, you gave him another chance now that's it and he blew it. You are going to have to mind your P's and Q's with him and keep your distance for now.

[leahmae]

sounds like he knows that you mean business

[aaroncool123]

You don't have to put up with all this shit. Seriously, try making new friends with the same interests as you. join a club or sport and meet new people. It's not that hard. Being with this guy will just take a toll on you mentally.