My girlfriend was raped.

[PinkFloyd]

I'm holding back tears as I type this but it is true. Someone I thought I could trust and my girlfriend thought she could trust raped her an hour ago in her own room. The rapist was my ex-friend of 5 years along with 4 of his frineds. They broke into her house, took her laptop and some other things and then it happened.

I don't know how to feel about this at all. I'm a mix of angry, sad, confused, and just overall miserable. As far as them getting charged, it's all underway. My girlfriend is at the hospital now getting any evidence taken from her. Oh, that raises another concern of mine. She could be pregnant. I am very distressed over this... I feel empty and terrible. This is terrible. I'm not a violent person but... Never mind.

[Karkat]

Oh my gosh Rob, I'm so sorry for you and your girlfriend. That is truly awful. :(

I hope everything turns out ok. No one deserves to go through this.

[James Dean]

Oh lord, I'm so sorry. I have you in my prayers. :(

Take some time to calm down. You have every right to be angry and upset. This is a very traumatic event, again I'm praying for you.

[jordanhardy]

That's horrible! I'm sorry to hear that. I hope those responsible get their comeuppance one day. I feel for you and your girlfriend right now. Try and hold it together though dude, She will need you to be strong for her.

[Uranus]

I'm terribly sorry to hear this! I've been in the situation before myself. My previous gf was raped at 13. No one deserves to be treated this way. I know you're hurting, and are probably feeling very angry and violent right now. Whatever happens you will need to think before you act. Especially when you're around the guy if you see him again. You need to be there for your gf. Don't let the anger separate you from her. He will get his punishment.

[Seafood]

That really sucks dude. I can't help you because I'm in shock, just reading this. You're friend, what a fuckface.

I am deeply and truly sorry.

[Renata_cmp]

If i were you (an i hope you're better than me) i would find this guy and break all of his bones, before he goes to jail AND hope he gets raped there.

[Uranus]

If i were you (an i hope you're better than me) i would find this guy and break all of his bones, before he goes to jail AND hope he gets raped there.

That's how I would be myself. I'd break more than bones. But he has to realize he needs to be there for his gf. She needs him more than ever now. The man will pay for the crime he committed.

[Horatio Nelson]

Holy fuck rob. :( I can't even imagine.


I don't know how you are supposed to cope with something like that. I know the automatic reaction would be to have those guys' dicks cut off. But sometimes those things have to wait, you should just stay with your girlfriend. I'm sure she feels worse than you. I'm sorry bro.

You can always PM me if you'd like.

[Luminous]

This is truly awful, Rob, I'm so, so sorry. The best thing right now is to support and be there for your girlfriend as much as you can. Take how you feel and multiply it by 10, that's probably how awful she's feeling. Try and channel your anger the opposite way, into love for your girlfriend. The rapist will get what's coming to him, and you don't have to have anything more to do with that, don't worry about it.
If you need someone to vent to, my PM box is always open :heart:

[Princess Ariel]

That is so devastating to hear.

She will be taking comfort in you and will need you to be there for her. She's going to need the support now more than ever. It was a traumatizing event and she'll be confiding in you. Be strong for her, whatever you're feeling; cannot compare to the victim themselves. If she's unresponsive, let her be. Just make sure you're there for her at all hours and do not, i repeat do not abandon her/break up with her. That's the worst thing you can do.
Make her aware that you're there for her, no matter what.

I wish all the best to you and your girlfriend. Take it easy these next few months, she may not be able to be intimate with you for a while for lack of trust, for anyone really. But take it slow and she'll be back to her usual self.

[PinkFloyd]

Thanks everyone for your support. It really means a lot and I truly appreciate it a lot. The good news is that she is not pregnant. The bad news however, is that today when I was at school, I saw him. I don't know how he was even there and not in custody, but nonetheless, I saw the person who raped my girlfriend. He mocked me and mentioned the actual act in its self. I knocked him out. I regret doing it only because I got in trouble. I hit him with my full strength 3 times. I'm sorry if this is breaking any rules on VT, but the past 24 hours have been incredibly tough for me and I need somewhere to vent...

[rioo]

I'm so sorry that's truly awful. be patient, did u call cops yet ?

[Uranus]

Thanks everyone for your support. It really means a lot and I truly appreciate it a lot. The good news is that she is not pregnant. The bad news however, is that today when I was at school, I saw him. I don't know how he was even there and not in custody, but nonetheless, I saw the person who raped my girlfriend. He mocked me and mentioned the actual act in its self. I knocked him out. I regret doing it only because I got in trouble. I hit him with my full strength 3 times. I'm sorry if this is breaking any rules on VT, but the past 24 hours have been incredibly tough for me and I need somewhere to vent...

Don't feel bad for knocking the shit out of him. You needed to let that anger out...one way or another. If I were you I'd beat his ass more than just 3 hits. He will be in jail, and he will pay.

[wonderland]

I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you and her. I send my dearest condolences to both you and your girlfriend during this devastating time.

[Plane And Simple]

I'm very sorry to hear this. I wish you and your girlfriend the best. Be there for her, and try to look happy so you cheer her up as well.

I'm always up for a chat if you need me, mate. Good luck :)

[Emerald Dream]

I'm sorry that this happened Rob, and I know it's much easier said than done - I hope that she is ok, and that the two of you can get through this. :(

Hopefully this guy and his friends are going to jail really soon, since your girlfriend is able to identify him.

[mrmee]

The same thing happened to one of my friends but by someone i never really talked to. That guy didn't get back up for a while. I hope your ex-friend got the same.
Applause to you for beating the living shit out of him. Im sure it will make your gf feel a little better.

[HUSTLEMAN]

That's horrible man. Its great you knocked the man out but the priority must be on your girl.Stay by her side constantly through this ordeal.

[PinkFloyd]

I'm so sorry that's truly awful. be patient, did u call cops yet ?

There is DNA pulled from her that proves it was him so he is getting charged.

I'm sorry that this happened Rob, and I know it's much easier said than done - I hope that she is ok, and that the two of you can get through this. :(

Hopefully this guy and his friends are going to jail really soon, since your girlfriend is able to identify him.

Thanks, Allison. It really means a lot. She went directly to the hospital and they got evidence of who it was so he will be charged but I'm still a wreck. Again, thanks for the reply.

[Typhlosion]

There is DNA pulled from her that proves it was him so he is getting charged.

What about the other four dudes?

[PinkFloyd]

What about the other four dudes?

I'm not sure about them. I'm sure they'll get caught too.

[chrisawesome]

Good news is she isn't pregnant and they are being dealt with. That is completely sick for someone to do. I can see if she wanted to do something with them to get back at you, but that is TOTALLY not the case. Those guys are freaks who should be treated as such. Shit instead of beating him up I would just call the po-po if he had a warrant or something. It would feel great to have him put in cuffs in from of the school. Sorry may be a little mean, but hell... They deserve it.

[CharlieHorse]

This is horrible. Absolutely fucked up. Unimaginably wrong.
I'm so sorry that this is all happening. I've had a couple friends that have been raped or sexually assaulted, and it was horrible, but they overcame it, and are stronger than ever.
Like Hannah said very well "Try and channel your anger the opposite way, into love for your girlfriend".
That son of a bitch will get what he deserves, and the act of doing that will ruin his whole life. Don't worry, he's screwed, but you and your GF can recover from this.
Take care of her, but don't forget yourself too.

Edit: I see you socked the sucker. Normally I don't condone violence, but I think that that bastard deserved it. Don't do it again though because it may give him some easier treatment from whoever decides his sentence.

[ImCoolBeans]

I'm so sorry that this happened to your girlfriend, Rob. Nobody deserves that and I'm sorry that you have to go through this with her. The worst of it all is over and behind you, but the recovery and coming months may be difficult. She is going to need your support, although it may be difficult.
I hope that the legal system gives them what they deserve. Violence isn't going to help you, and will only cause trouble for you, and the greater situation, in the long run. Let the police and officials handle it, I know it may be difficult to accept but it's in the best interest of both you and your girlfriend. Although I don't know if I would be able to help myself either.
Be strong and good luck to both of you in this unfortunate turn of events.

[SethfromMI]

I am so sorry to hear that man :( that is just awful. I hope your gf will recover form this and the people responsible will be prosecuted to the full extent

[riverboy]

Rob I'm sorry to hear this. be there for your gf. Listen to her if she wants to talk. Sometimes being there is all you need to do. It wasn't her fault. Don't take the law into your own hands even though you want to. It will make things worse. I am sending good thoughts to you and your gf. I hope everyone heals fast over this.

[hatsoff123]

Dude sorry about what happened, you should definitely call the cops. If there were no laws and something like this happened, those fools would never see the sun come up ever again. Real sorry bro

[Zander7]

Fuck them over in any and every possible way you can... but dnt do someting stupid and go to jail... Think of her first man

[omgwuut]

I'm so sorry for what have happened to you and your girlfriend :( because of the attitude of some people, It's really hard to trust anyone in this world but don't lose hope on people who really cares for you.don't worry , karma is a bitch. they will get what they really deserve. I know in this kind of situation it's really hard to move on especially for your girlfriend, but I know that someday you two will surpass this terrible event. Please be there for your girlfriend, she really needs you right now.