How to act more like a boy??

[blakee15]

I am ftm transgender but sometimes I catch myself acting feminine which makes me not be able to pass as male. It frustrates me because my friends say I can pass as male but my body language and the way I talk is feminine so they say it makes me look like a stereotypical gay guy which I'm straight so obviously that's going to bother me. So I know this probably sounds weird but how do boys act? Like how they sit, walk, talk, things girls do that they usually don't do, etc. I catch myself talking like a girl which is one of my main problems I say stuff like "like and anyways" alot like most girls do. I also find it hard to be friends with other guys since I live in the south boys acting feminine is frowned upon so I guess I don't have alot in common with them? I don't know I just see it easier to be friends with girls. I really need to figure out how to break these feminine habits that were probably made when I was younger. You know how parents want their kids to act like the gender they are like "no that's for boys you can't do that" so it just makes it a habit to act like a girl even though I don't feel like a girl on the inside.

[mrmee]

We're loud an obnoxious, like stuff that goes fast, is big, and or is loud. We talk wayyy before we think anything through, and therefore makes very little sense sometimes. Sit with your legs spread, kinda slouching, and be a lazy ass. Standing: dont slouch your hips, or put your hand on your hips. Once again, legs spread open. Thats pretty much as guy-ish as it gets the way i see it.

P.S. dont be someone your not for the sake of others. If they dont like you who you are, their loss.

[HockeyLovesMe]

We're loud an obnoxious, like stuff that goes fast, is big, and or is loud. We talk wayyy before we think anything through, and therefore makes very little sense sometimes. Sit with your legs spread, kinda slouching, and be a lazy ass. Standing: dont slouch your hips, or put your hand on your hips. Once again, legs spread open. Thats pretty much as guy-ish as it gets the way i see it.

P.S. dont be someone your not for the sake of others. If they dont like you who you are, their loss.

agree totally

[Typhlosion]

I guess it's kinda hard considering that you gain those vices growing up. Try getting into a more male society/setting, and start assimilating with their own vices.

Also, that's great that you're getting to where who you really want to be! :)

[Karkat]

As someone who is bigender, I understand that quite a bit. However, I have to agree with mrmee- don't turn yourself into someone you're not for the sake of feeling more comfortable as your gender. It's not worth it for cisgendered people either, it's not worth it for anyone period.

Besides, I personally find that it's easier to make friends when you stop being so concerned about what set of genitalia they have, or what they portray themselves as- common interests don't have to be limited to gender, and there's nothing wrong with having friends of any gender.

[Horatio Nelson]

As someone who is bigender, I understand that quite a bit. However, I have to agree with mrmee- don't turn yourself into someone you're not for the sake of feeling more comfortable as your gender. It's not worth it for cisgendered people either, it's not worth it for anyone period.

Besides, I personally find that it's easier to make friends when you stop being so concerned about what set of genitalia they have, or what they portray themselves as- common interests don't have to be limited to gender, and there's nothing wrong with having friends of any gender.

Cannot agree more.

Relationships are about relating to a person, Not a look, or an appearance. If it is based off of something superficial like that, it's not real. Period.

[James Dean]

Have you ever talked to a gender identity counselor or psychologist about your transition? Just wondering as it could probably help you gain more information in regards to that.