Is it wrong?

[Paladino]

Is it wrong to expect your partner to stay away from someone you don't feel comfortable with them being around, what ever your reasons may be, if it is a good enough reason, is it wrong to expect them to do this or do you have a right to not want them near them, like I said, if it is for a good enough reason.

[HockeyLovesMe]

I think u should talk it out and see why u don't like that person and why he does.. but if its something u feel super strong about then he/she should respect that and support u :)

[Paladino]

She knows why I don't like them and I consider them to be very good reasons because if it was the other way about, she would drill me to a door if it mean I wasn't around them hahaha. I just hope she doesn't fall back on her word and do it, like she did before.

[CosmicNoodle]

Very wrong, your partner is not your property, he/she can see whoever they want for what ever reason. Its wrong yo ask them to limit there social interaction. And there's no such thing as a "good reason", that omplys its your choice. It's up to them, weather you see it in your own eyes as a good reason or not, its up to them.
They are not your property

[Paladino]

Nobody said they were my property lol, but what if you were to think another guy liked your girlfriend and she knew it and he didn't give a fuck that she had a boyfriend, would you still be ok with them being 'best of friends' ? ..

[SethfromMI]

I understand where you are coming from. you can;t stop her though. I guess the real question you have to ask yourself is do you trust her?

[HockeyLovesMe]

I disagree wth cosmicnoodle I think its more of a respect thing and im sure u wld do that for her as well

[Paladino]

I understand where you are coming from. you can;t stop her though. I guess the real question you have to ask yourself is do you trust her?

I do but I don't trust other people that much, if you know what I mean?

I disagree wth cosmicnoodle I think its more of a respect thing and im sure u wld do that for her as well

I would & have, not got a problem with it.

[Elysium]

Very wrong, your partner is not your property, he/she can see whoever they want for what ever reason. Its wrong yo ask them to limit there social interaction. And there's no such thing as a "good reason", that omplys its your choice. It's up to them, weather you see it in your own eyes as a good reason or not, its up to them.
They are not your property
Agreed, but there is one "good reason" that I can think of. If your partner is hanging around someone who could be a danger to them in some way (i.e., someone who's abusive or something), then I think it's perfectly fine to intervene.

I also agree with Seth. It really is a trust thing. If you "don't trust anyone," then perhaps you shouldn't be in a relationship. Relationships are built on trust among other things, y'know. I don't mean to apply that to you, specifically; I mean that in a general way. But, you really need to just trust her and let her live her own life. Trust that she will refuse this guy's advances (if he makes any). If you think she's in danger then by all means speak up, but otherwise, you don't really have any place telling her who she can and can't spend time with for whatever reason.

[CosmicNoodle]

Agreed, but there is one "good reason" that I can think of. If your partner is hanging around someone who could be a danger to them in some way (i.e., someone who's abusive or something), then I think it's perfectly fine to intervene.


Still don't quite agree there, but your logic is good. I'd tell the partner of the danger, and allow them to decide for themselves. But that's just personal preference

[Elysium]

Still don't quite agree there, but your logic is good. I'd tell the partner of the danger, and allow them to decide for themselves. But that's just personal preference
That's true. I was thinking of really extreme situations when I wrote that post, but I guess it also depends on the type of danger. It's all relative, hmm? :P

[CosmicNoodle]

That's true. I was thinking of really extreme situations when I wrote that post, but I guess it also depends on the type of danger. It's all relative, hmm? :P

Ye, all relative. But as far as I'm concerned, in an equal relationship, you shouldn't demand your partner simply not see someone, and if there is a good reason such as you pointed out, just tell them.

But that's just me.

[Elysium]

Ye, all relative. But as far as I'm concerned, in an equal relationship, you shouldn't demand your partner simply not see someone, and if there is a good reason such as you pointed out, just tell them.

But that's just me.
I agree wholeheartedly. Express your concerns and talk them over - communication is key - but don't make demands. You're in no place to do that.

[SethfromMI]

I understand. but at the end of the day she has to decide. you can tell her how you feel. but
she has to be the one to make the final decision for herself

[BookSmart]

I think the most you can do is express to her how that person makes you uncomfortable. You could talk to her, and mention that being around that person upsets you, even lightly ask if she could spend less time around them too. But please remember that it's her choice; make it clear that it's just a request, and whatever choice she makes is okay.