I Think I'm Gay But....

[CrazyPerson101]

I know I've asked this before but things have changed a bit sense the last one ...

Okay, for the past couple years, I've labeled myself has Bi and I've been comfortable with that, but lately, I've had a strong romantic, sexual, physical attraction to guys and it seems like everyday, it gets stronger ( I know it sounds weird but mehhh :p ), but when I look at girls, I see a romantic thing going on but nothing really physical or sexual if that makes any sense anymore. If I had to choose between a guy and a girl, I'd most likely choose a guy. I've only got 1 girl crush in the world but I'm spending so much time with her, she and I are like brother and sister now ( even she thinks the same thing ) so I don't really "crush" on her like I used to.

Now all that being said, I would prefer ( and be happier ) if I where with a guy vs a girl, does that make me gay ? It's kinda mind boggling to me, I do like the female body ( physically ) but on the same token, I really like the male body if that makes any sense. Idk....

[Paladino]

Sounds like just bi to me. I have a friend that is a girl who is bi, and although she has been with boys before & girls, she says at times theres an urge to be with a girl more than a guy and vice versa, so maybe you would just rather a guy right now but as a whole you are still bi? I dunno. Hope it helps.

[CrazyPerson101]

Sounds like just bi to me. I have a friend that is a girl who is bi, and although she has been with boys before & girls, she says at times theres an urge to be with a girl more than a guy and vice versa, so maybe you would just rather a guy right now but as a whole you are still bi? I dunno. Hope it helps.

Ahh.. but Idk, I am a fan of the female body when it comes to parts *ahem* but I prefer guys over girls and what guys have to offer. say im at the store, I look for cute guys, I don't really look for girls and I just.... Idk, I like the female body phsically but emotionally and romantically, I'm not all that ... if that makes any sense

[Paladino]

Well you're still young, plenty of time yet to figure it out, don't worry about it too much or it will drive you insane .. I know its hard to not think about something like that.

[CrazyPerson101]

Well you're still young, plenty of time yet to figure it out, don't worry about it too much or it will drive you insane .. I know its hard to not think about something like that.

True, I know, I'm not like OMG I NEED TO KNOW NOW about it, I still am comfortable labeling myself as bi, I have for 4 years so its not really anything new, I just can't tell if I'm bi but transitioning to gay maybe or just going through a "phase" ( although I doubt it ) or whatever, I just would like to hear other peoples opinions, and thanks for commenting, yours really did help :)

[Paladino]

Not a problem.

[Karkat]

See, I feel you, for different reasons.

-I am rarely physically or sexually attracted to men
-I can be emotionally and possibly even romantically attracted to men, but it's not super common
-Girls are hot, physically attracted to them.
-Rarely sexually attracted to girls
-Almost never emotionally attracted or romantically attracted.

So I'm like a heteromantic homosexual... Except that isn't quite right

But I'm not quite asexual

(╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

Sexuality is complicated, and sometimes your own sexuality genuinely fucks you over.

[James Dean]

I like to think of bisexuality as pansexual sometimes. Which means you are attracted to men, women and people who are not cisgendered. Sometimes, I label myself as bisexual because even though I do like guys and see any long term relationships with guys, I do find some girls attractive and even trans people attractive. So the term for that is pansexual, but I go by bisexual as it's the more well known term for it.

[Hudor]

I know I've asked this before but things have changed a bit sense the last one ...

Okay, for the past couple years, I've labeled myself has Bi and I've been comfortable with that, but lately, I've had a strong romantic, sexual, physical attraction to guys and it seems like everyday, it gets stronger ( I know it sounds weird but mehhh :p ), but when I look at girls, I see a romantic thing going on but nothing really physical or sexual if that makes any sense anymore. If I had to choose between a guy and a girl, I'd most likely choose a guy. I've only got 1 girl crush in the world but I'm spending so much time with her, she and I are like brother and sister now ( even she thinks the same thing ) so I don't really "crush" on her like I used to.

Now all that being said, I would prefer ( and be happier ) if I where with a guy vs a girl, does that make me gay ? It's kinda mind boggling to me, I do like the female body ( physically ) but on the same token, I really like the male body if that makes any sense. Idk....

I can relate to that somewhat. I feel much more sexually attracted to guys than girls. Getting aroused by a guy is much more easier for me than from a girl. I find it easier to spot hot guys around than girls. Guys seem hotter to me so that maybe a reason as well. I can feel romantic and sexual attraction for guys but only romantic attraction towards girls. Over the years i have felt my attraction towards women waning and increasing towards guys.
But i have phases when a relationship with a guy seems anything from weird to gross which is why i,don't label myself as gay.

Add to that the fact I'm,having crushes on a guy as well as a girl right now. But the attraction towards the girl is still more or less romantic only and romantic as well as sexual towards the guy.
Except they're both my friends and for me a good friendship is an emotional relationship
without any sexual/romantic involvement.

I think bisexuality is a very fluid term by itself and you have a lot, lot of time to figure out still Ryan. (Although make haste, you'll be ancient within four years :P )

[Uranus]

I think you still are bisexual. You're not really...gay..yet.
You still have somewhat of an attraction to girls, even if it is stronger, towards guys.
You may like both, but are leaning towards the one you would choose more.

Take me for example. I love meat. I could eat it all day. Bacon, steak, sausage, any meat and ill eat it non stop.

I hate vegetables. They are the most disgusting things I ever ate.

but I do kinda like salads.

I like meat more,(ok in this thread/situation that sounds so wrong but deal with it), but I have a part of me that likes salads. Not all vegetables but just salad. Even if I like meat more, I still like the other a little bit.

Does that make me a carnivore? Or am I still an omnivore?(I like both).

Hope this helps.

[cbm89031]

It does sound like your Bi

[ImCoolBeans]

People label themselves too much, and worry far too much about it. I think coming out in your younger teen years/totally assuming a sexuality label and it's stereotypes is a a mistake because hormones drive all of those feelings, and during puberty they are all over the place. I have had an inclination to be sexual with or have feelings for guys since I was a little kid. At different periods of time I have had feelings for girls too, but so far it's mostly been for guys. I came out to my family and friends a few years ago, and until recently I had only had sexual/romantic feelings for guys. It made me question a lot of things about myself when I started feeling for girls a little bit recently but I realized that all of the labeling and worrying really isn't worth it. At the end of the day you're going to like who you're going to like, and nothing you think, say, or do can change that. Were humans, who love other humans. I'm not a gay male, a bisexual male, a straight male, pansexual, or whatever you want to call me, I'm just a human. I identify as gay, most of the time, some call me bi, I call myself not tied down, free, and don't care what my label is because it doesn't change me either way.

[Remora]

My honest opinion.
Labels are stupid. Everything needs labels in this society, and "i'm only 15 years old going trough puberty, i don't want to pick a sexuality yet" is not one. I'm aware that's not your issue though, so if we're labeling anyways...

I'd simply say "Bi leaning towards guys" if i were you. Actually, i wouldn't say anything, but if i had to say something, that was going to be it.

[CrazyPerson101]

See, I feel you, for different reasons.

-I am rarely physically or sexually attracted to men
-I can be emotionally and possibly even romantically attracted to men, but it's not super common
-Girls are hot, physically attracted to them.
-Rarely sexually attracted to girls
-Almost never emotionally attracted or romantically attracted.

So I'm like a heteromantic homosexual... Except that isn't quite right

But I'm not quite asexual

(╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

Sexuality is complicated, and sometimes your own sexuality genuinely fucks you over.

OMG YES IT DOES and I may sig that.... Hmmmmm

I like to think of bisexuality as pansexual sometimes. Which means you are attracted to men, women and people who are not cisgendered. Sometimes, I label myself as bisexual because even though I do like guys and see any long term relationships with guys, I do find some girls attractive and even trans people attractive. So the term for that is pansexual, but I go by bisexual as it's the more well known term for it.

Not exactly.... If I am reading that right, pansexuals like everyone no matter their gender, that's not what I'm saying at all. I'm saying I like guys or girls. I prefer guys over girls and I only like the 1 girl out of all the world, I am a fan of the female body but I'm not exactly drawn to it like I am a guys body.

I can relate to that somewhat. I feel much more sexually attracted to guys than girls. Getting aroused by a guy is much more easier for me than from a girl. I find it easier to spot hot guys around than girls. Guys seem hotter to me so that maybe a reason as well. I can feel romantic and sexual attraction for guys but only romantic attraction towards girls. Over the years i have felt my attraction towards women waning and increasing towards guys.
But i have phases when a relationship with a guy seems anything from weird to gross which is why i,don't label myself as gay.

Add to that the fact I'm,having crushes on a guy as well as a girl right now. But the attraction towards the girl is still more or less romantic only and romantic as well as sexual towards the guy.
Except they're both my friends and for me a good friendship is an emotional relationship
without any sexual/romantic involvement.

I think bisexuality is a very fluid term by itself and you have a lot, lot of time to figure out still Ryan. (Although make haste, you'll be ancient within four years :P )

Actually, I'll be ancient in 3 :p ( soon to be 2 ) and yeah I see what you mean... Idk its just mind boggling, I don't give it much thought but its still /// Eh...

I think you still are bisexual. You're not really...gay..yet.
You still have somewhat of an attraction to girls, even if it is stronger, towards guys.
You may like both, but are leaning towards the one you would choose more.

Take me for example. I love meat. I could eat it all day. Bacon, steak, sausage, any meat and ill eat it non stop.

I hate vegetables. They are the most disgusting things I ever ate.

but I do kinda like salads.

I like meat more,(ok in this thread/situation that sounds so wrong but deal with it), but I have a part of me that likes salads. Not all vegetables but just salad. Even if I like meat more, I still like the other a little bit.

Does that make me a carnivore? Or am I still an omnivore?(I like both).

Hope this helps.

I see what yo'ure saying and it does help Thomas, thanks :3

It does sound like your Bi

Hmmm.....

People label themselves too much, and worry far too much about it. I think coming out in your younger teen years/totally assuming a sexuality label and it's stereotypes is a a mistake because hormones drive all of those feelings, and during puberty they are all over the place. I have had an inclination to be sexual with or have feelings for guys since I was a little kid. At different periods of time I have had feelings for girls too, but so far it's mostly been for guys. I came out to my family and friends a few years ago, and until recently I had only had sexual/romantic feelings for guys. It made me question a lot of things about myself when I started feeling for girls a little bit recently but I realized that all of the labeling and worrying really isn't worth it. At the end of the day you're going to like who you're going to like, and nothing you think, say, or do can change that. Were humans, who love other humans. I'm not a gay male, a bisexual male, a straight male, pansexual, or whatever you want to call me, I'm just a human. I identify as gay, most of the time, some call me bi, I call myself not tied down, free, and don't care what my label is because it doesn't change me either way.

Yeah... people tend to do that but I'm not exactly like OMG I HAVE TO KNOW AND I AM THIS ! if that makes any sense, I have called myself Bi ( when asked ) for 4 years now and I'm okay with it, it just seems like I'm losing that attraction to girls if that makes anysense.

My honest opinion.
Labels are stupid. Everything needs labels in this society, and "i'm only 15 years old going trough puberty, i don't want to pick a sexuality yet" is not one. I'm aware that's not your issue though, so if we're labeling anyways...

I'd simply say "Bi leaning towards guys" if i were you. Actually, i wouldn't say anything, but if i had to say something, that was going to be it.

Well that's society now adays, I just wanted to know if I still seem Bi or not, It feels... Idk, but I'll just say that IF i'm asked. I don't go around saying : I'm Bi... I'm Bi .... I'm Bi....

Another reason I asked is my friend maddie is a ( QUOTE FROM HER " Die hard lezbian" ) and she says I act so gay I attract her and I don't quite understand that because I'm not all that flamboyant and all, maybe its my personlailty ? My friends Brandon, Miranda, Ethan, David, Kristen and Katie Thoguht I was gay so its like Hmmmmmm

[ksdnfkfr]

I know I've asked this before but things have changed a bit sense the last one ...

Okay, for the past couple years, I've labeled myself has Bi and I've been comfortable with that, but lately, I've had a strong romantic, sexual, physical attraction to guys and it seems like everyday, it gets stronger ( I know it sounds weird but mehhh :p ), but when I look at girls, I see a romantic thing going on but nothing really physical or sexual if that makes any sense anymore. If I had to choose between a guy and a girl, I'd most likely choose a guy. I've only got 1 girl crush in the world but I'm spending so much time with her, she and I are like brother and sister now ( even she thinks the same thing ) so I don't really "crush" on her like I used to.

Now all that being said, I would prefer ( and be happier ) if I where with a guy vs a girl, does that make me gay ? It's kinda mind boggling to me, I do like the female body ( physically ) but on the same token, I really like the male body if that makes any sense. Idk....

Your feelings sound exactly like mine. When I type in a label I bounce back and forth between gay and bi/gay. Bi/gay is probably closest, because while I really prefer boys in all respects, I'm not 100% uninterested in girls.

[Uranus]

I see what yo'ure saying and it does help Thomas, thanks :3





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