Losing your V

[RRay99]

Lost my V a few months ago to the guy who is now my bf, but lots of my gfs are still virgins. It may sound bad, but I like my bf but am not in love with him For me I felt ready, and kinda wanted to get it over with. I know not everyone feels the same way.

I don't have any real regrets, but am wondering if most girls here would have waited to found "someone special"?

Also for those who are no longer virgins, was that experience what you imagined it would be, or no?

Also (sorry :P), do you think a girl is still a V if she does other things, but doesn't have sex?

[ozteen]

Lost mine about a year ago to a guy who's more fwb than a bf. Certainly no regrets. As l understand, ur a virgin till you have sexual intercourse, giving handjobs, blowjobs or being fingered by a guy doesn't mean you've lost it.

[Karkat]

I wouldn't say I was in love with him at the time, but I lost it to my ex.

I'd say that losing your virginity is more symbolic than technical- because otherwise it invalidates literally everyone who isn't straight and didn't have PIV intercourse consensually the first time it happened.

For a lesbian or bisexual girl, she might say she has lost her virginity when she has been eaten out for the first time, or scissored, or whatever she deems "it" is. For a gay or bisexual man, it might be the first time he's given or received a blowjob or anal, or the first time he's frotted with a guy. For a rape victim, it might be the first time they have sex willingly and consensually with a partner.

Virginity is largely a heteronormative word, so.

Virginity isn't, and never should be an indicator for STDs. You can still have oral or genital herpes (if you have genital and you've never had intercourse/any sexual contact, it's likely both) without having ever had sexual contact. In fact, you can get STDs from never having had intercourse anyways.

So virginity is pretty much a technically useless term. The only weight it might carry for someone is symbolism.

The important words and phrases in the real world:

-STD-free
-Sexually active
-Sexually experienced
-"I've never done _____ before (but I've done ______, and so on)"

You can use your words to describe what you need to say without needing the word "virgin".

[Renata_cmp]

i think the 'virginity' is lost when you feels it is, the physical virginity is really not a big deal to me. (im still a v) I think ill definately wait for someone i would really love, not really because i follow some sorts of principle but because i don't have a giant urge to have sex and i don't wanna do it with a certain type of guy.

[nicole97]

I would agree with other's that virginity is more of something determined more by one's self than any sort of single physical action. That being said I consider mine to have been lost with the 'traditional' definition of the first PIV experience. It happened with my BF of about 8-months at the time, when I was still fairly young (13). If you can be 'in love' at that age then I would say I was, and while I acknowledge those feelings probably don't rise to what I would feel as I got older, he was definitely that 'special someone' at the time, and I have no regrets about when or with who it happened. First time itself was a little awkward, but still special and mutually enjoyable.