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Remora
November 12th, 2014, 02:42 PM
Sorry for my absence- although i should really be apologizing for showing myself again rather than taking away a a lot of pain - but this happened today, or probably tonight, and i can't get over it.

Some of you will know about my crush- in case you don't, and you really care enough to help me, there's the following threads. They can get a bit repetitive, so be wary.
http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=215922
http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=215660
http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=214898
http://virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=214891

I haven't made another thread in meanwhile, but me and Ruben have been getting a lot closer (but only at school, as "friends"), for example i'm taking a small detour so i can ride along with him on his way home from school now, i managed to get seated next to him in Dutch, one of three English classes, Physics and Science in addition to art history and pairing up with him in PE. The "let's make games together" kind of died although he still sends a file for me to check out or asks me for ideas occasionally.

Another thing i noticed is that he asked me things without being asked for it. I'm certain that i'm just another overexited 15 year old and i'm making this up, but i think someone trusts you when they ask the kind of questions you wouldn't dare ask in group chats. He asked something rather innocent, but if he'd asked it in "public" some people might have thought bad things of him. He simply asked "what time do we need to be at <lesson>?"

Now, about the thing i can't get over.
It was a dream. It was a very innocent dream- very realistic, very simple. I went to school, learned things, sat next to Ruben in the classes i sit next to him. It was flawless. I did not know it was a dream. All i knew was that he looked a bit different but i wasn't sure why (later i realized this was because he'd told me he was getting his hair cut the day before, my subconscious is clever) and that while we were walking trough the hall before our final lesson, he said the following; "Hey, do you want to do something next Friday?" whilst beeing all blushy. I just responded "Yeah, sure!" and i proceeded to be really really happy for the next lesson and i was looking forward to whatever we were going to do and i waked up and-

i waked up. I had been dreaming.

Even such a simple thing. We didn't have sex, we simply decided we would do "something" next Friday. My brain is mocking me. I don't know why, but it is.

I'm sorry to have to spit this all out as soon as i returned from being idle. I guess i was just ranting and need some advice on what to do next.

Typhlosion
November 12th, 2014, 02:47 PM
Aren't you over-analyizing this?

Maybe your subconscious is also suggesting to do something with him Friday.

Remora
November 12th, 2014, 02:50 PM
Aren't you over-analyizing this?

Maybe your subconscious is also suggesting to do something with him Friday.

I guess i'm over-analyzing everything. I just really want to get closer to him and i want to take every possible chance to do so; yet i don't want to have any chance to "creep him out" or create distance between us in any other way. :c

HockeyLovesMe
November 12th, 2014, 04:36 PM
good luck I hope things work out for you ya seem nice :)

Remora
November 13th, 2014, 12:34 AM
good luck I hope things work out for you ya seem nice :)

Thank you- honestly, so do i...

Remora
November 16th, 2014, 03:11 PM
Aren't you over-analyizing this?

Maybe your subconscious is also suggesting to do something with him Friday.

I tried getting us a haircut together but he kept saying "i'll do it sometime" and now i ended up going by myself :(

Hudor
November 17th, 2014, 10:19 AM
Okay i had read a few of your threads a while ago but didn't have time to respond so this is a response to all of them.

You should stop over-analyzing things. I know when I'm as over-excited as you seem to be every moment the other person doesn't respond seems like hours. You need to be patient and take it slow. A relationship is very delicate. Either the other person falls for you or not. You need to bd careful and carefree both. Ttake care not to creep him out but be yourself, don't change yourself(that's just random advice btw)

Horatio Nelson
November 17th, 2014, 10:36 AM
Aren't you over-analyizing this?

Maybe your subconscious is also suggesting to do something with him Friday.

Gotta agree with Alex here.

Remora
November 18th, 2014, 10:10 AM
Okay i had read a few of your threads a while ago but didn't have time to respond so this is a response to all of them.

You should stop over-analyzing things. I know when I'm as over-excited as you seem to be every moment the other person doesn't respond seems like hours. You need to be patient and take it slow. A relationship is very delicate. Either the other person falls for you or not. You need to bd careful and carefree both. Ttake care not to creep him out but be yourself, don't change yourself(that's just random advice btw)

But "myself" is this mumbling abomination going around claiming to be a cat sitting in everyone's personal spaces and being annoying as fuck just by their presence! :c

Hudor
November 19th, 2014, 05:09 AM
But "myself" is this mumbling abomination going around claiming to be a cat sitting in everyone's personal spaces and being annoying as fuck just by their presence! :c

I cannot say about annoying because i haven't interacted a lot with you nor know you very well but its your choice and your life. If you believe you're a cat, good for you (i thought i was a wolf a few years ago). Don't change yourself. That doesn't mean though that you stop imbibing good things. Add to your personality what all you may find good but preserve your originality.
If you try to change yourself to fit the expectations of people you like, your prospective bf for example, though it may seem okay initially you may slowly start suffocating inside.
Although it would be good if you kept a little distance, gave the other person his space because everyone requires some privacy. If you really do invade everybody's personal space that is. It may also be possible that you're over-critical of yourself as well like you seem to be of a lot many things.