Friends with Benefits?

[RRay99]

Hi :) Wondering how many of you have friends with benefits or would have friends with benefits? If you have FWBs, how long have you had them and why did you choose to be FWBs rather than something more serious?

[honeybear]

I have 3 two guys and a girl...I just enjoy being with them and doing friend things with them but they do not appeal to me to have any kind of serious relationship

[biancachica]

I had one and he was my ex bf.we didnt workout as a couple but we were horny teenagers so yeah..

[Laraa.01]

I have one at the moment and it's just neither of us are interested in a relationship but we help each other out in certain ways ;)

[Renata_cmp]

nope, i don't like this concept. I don't feel associating sex with just hormonal urges needed to be fullfilled with someone you don't care about. Plus i feel like it would be an insult to the people who can't get "friends with benefits".

[Karkat]

I sort of have two, I guess. I don't want a relationship with the one, and I might have to cut it off altogether, and the other I'm madly in love with, but he doesn't know if he wants more or not.

I've never done anything physical with them, so not exactly FWB, but I will with the one once I go visit him.

[txtwister13]

I'd be open to doing the fwb thing.....i'm pretty busy with school so i'm not really up for a serious relationship right now, but it would be nice to have someone for regular hook-ups.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Puberty for Girls :arrow: Relationships and Dating

It fits better here.
Also, I tried to have a fwb with someone before, but we kinda just went head first into it and it totally didn't work out. It's just too much of a commitment for me and I'm really not prepared for that, especially now.

[Paladino]

I'm not like other guys, I get very deep feelings for girls and shit so I couldn't do that I don't think, but after my split with my ex we done it a few times after it but it felt weird.

[jordanhardy]

I've had a few before. One was a previous girlfriend, but that complicated things. The other two were friends from school. Neither of us had any feelings for each other, just sexual attraction and that worked well for us. I wouldn't recomend it if you fall easily for people.

[SethfromMI]

well right now I am in a more serious relationship. but i have had some friends with benefits. we get along great and everything, when we wanted to have sex, it was sex for the sex. it is not for everyone though

[leahmae]

I've had friends with benefits in the past. I have a bf right now, but I still have a couple girl fwb's.

[Zachary G]

me and my ex bf went to fwb thing because our relationship just wasnt working out, but the sex was great, so we didnt want to lose that aspect of our friendship since it seemed to work so well for us.

[Melodic]

I'm sorta in that situation now. But it's more of waiting until he finishes up his school.

[Nescio]

I almost had one (we were texting and planning to do stuff), but then I got a boyfriend before we did anything we were going to do and I couldn't go through with it because it's like cheating. Now we're just friends and it's not really awkward at all except when he hangs around my boyfriend and me.

[voodoo doughnut]

it looks like i just got one.

[Luminous]

I would probably do it in theory, but it depends. I have somebody I might kind of be or going to be FWB with, we just live kinda far apart so it depends. We hooked up once in a really weird situation and talked about doing it again and just recently got into contact again.

[maniamsmart]

This is an interesting concept actually and a very contradictory one at that. Now it really depends on what one may see as a "friends with benefits" relationship. And if we're talking about the most popular definition, which is basically a nice way of referring to the phrase "sex buddies", then I think I can give you a pretty good overview of why it may be good, bad, and why for some people it may not be the best thing to do.

I am not going to sit here and judge the people who have FWB relationships and say that they don't value sex, because that's the argument here that many people are going to have. Because you have FWB, you don't value sex as an emotional connection with your partner that is supposed to be special. And if you believe in that, that's all fine and dandy, and you may want to hold off and not do the whole FWB thing. But for some people it's just a release of stress, an escape from their real life, and some people really need that. Instead of going around being a slut, they have 1-3 FWB and keep it that way. I think that's pretty healthy to ensure that you don't turn into a slut, whether it be male or female. However, for other people they just can't risk doing something like that because they get attached to the person far too quickly and start to develop real emotional feelings that he/she or the other person may not want.

It really just depends on what type of person you. If you feel like you can control your feelings, find sex with FWB as an escape and a stress relief, then I think it's fine as long as you aren't in a serious relationship with someone else, and both of you in the FWB relationship are okay with what you are doing. But if you are the type of person who values sex to such a level where it actually means something more than a stress reliever, or you feel like you don't want to use someone like that, even if it is mutual, or feel like you develop feelings too quickly then it's best to stay away from it.

There isn't really a right or wrong answer here on whether it's okay or the right thing to have FWB, it all really depends on a personal level.

[Semi_IronMan]

I don't have any, I did have one be4