I'm a little worried

[Babs]

So, I haven't come out yet. My sisters came out to my parents, and my mom didn't care, but my dad said things along the lines of, "I'm disappointed, it's just a phase, etc." but generally still okay with them despite disappointed.
I wasn't too worried about it at first. But I suspect now that my dad was only tolerant because my mom said he had to. Now they're getting a divorce, and my dad is already changing even though they're still living together. Like, he's becoming more harsh and I'm afraid that when my parents are living in separate houses and he's playing by his own rules exclusively, he'll be a lot more intolerant which will be awful.
I don't know what to do. :/

[Horatio Nelson]

Will you have to live with your dad a few days out of the week? Can't you have your say on who you want to live with?

[Babs]

Will you have to live with your dad a few days out of the week? Can't you have your say on who you want to live with?

Probably, yes. But I was planning on staying with both of them equally if possible, because I don't want to choose between them.
I dunno. Details haven't been ironed out yet.

[CosmicNoodle]

Just saying,if my dad didn't accept me because of my sexuality I wouldn't consider him part of my life.

[Babs]

Just saying,if my dad didn't accept me because of my sexuality I wouldn't consider him part of my life.

Well, I'm still living in his house. I can't do anything about it until I move out, so until then I just sort of have to wait it out and put off any decision making regarding my relationship with my dad.

[CosmicNoodle]

Well, I'm still living in his house. I can't do anything about it until I move out, so until then I just sort of have to wait it out and put off any decision making regarding my relationship with my dad.

Maybe stay in the closet till you move out? That way you don't have to deal with his bullshit

[Babs]

Maybe stay in the closet till you move out? That way you don't have to deal with his bullshit

That was the plan.
It just sucks for it to come to that, and I'm also worried about my sister, who is already out.

[Jaseblader]

So, I haven't come out yet. My sisters came out to my parents, and my mom didn't care, but my dad said things along the lines of, "I'm disappointed, it's just a phase, etc." but generally still okay with them despite disappointed.
I wasn't too worried about it at first. But I suspect now that my dad was only tolerant because my mom said he had to. Now they're getting a divorce, and my dad is already changing even though they're still living together. Like, he's becoming more harsh and I'm afraid that when my parents are living in separate houses and he's playing by his own rules exclusively, he'll be a lot more intolerant which will be awful.
I don't know what to do. :/

see what their going to do, maybe youll be at his house some days and hers the rest, if he is more harsh or you are worried he will be tell the judge that

[James Dean]

Come out when you are ready. Your family seems to be pressed with other issues right now so maybe I would wait a bit longer. I'm not out to my family myself, just will do it when I'm ready and at the right moment.

[SethfromMI]

well come out when you are ready, but in your position, I would possibly wait a little longer unless I was sure everything was going to be ok

[CrazyPerson101]

Oh no Berea ! I'm sorry that your parents are getting a divorce :( and It really sucks, come out when you're comfortable and you think the time is right. Your dad maybe upset because of your mother and is harsh because he's always having to deal with her ( not trying to make her sound like a bad mom or anything but going by what you said ) so he's just mad atm, but he maybe more accepting in the future.

[Throwaway24]

Just do it.
1. If he don't like it then that's his problem
2. If they are getting a divorce (which i'm sorry about i know how hard that can be without problems like this making it worse) then he won't always be around to try and give u a hard time about it
3. He might only be a bit more harsh at the moment being the divorce
At the end of the day its ur life and this is who u are and anyone how dont like it aint worth it

[Uranus]

Just saying,if my dad didn't accept me because of my sexuality I wouldn't consider him part of my life.

Exactly!
If he's not going to accept you for who you are, then you're father would be a complete asshole.
I'm straight, and always will be, bit if my daughter or son was gay/bi/lesbian, I would accept them for that, and would be in no way disappointed.
I think it's probably best to be with your mom.
Even if you want to be with them equally.