So there's a girl

[CreativeUsername]

I'm a freshman in high school and there's girl that I met on the first day of school and we've been friends ever since. I really like her, and I tried to tell her, but she kept brushing me off and I barely got any words out. I'm pretty sure that she knows I like her, but I don't know how to tell her.

Apparently my other friend that I confided in told her the he likes her right after she brushed me off. They went to homecoming together, but I don't know if she likes him. They were good friends and could have just gone to homecoming as good friends (best case scenario). I don't know how to find out if they're going out, and if they aren't, how to tell her how I feel.

[Kate]

Ask your friend or mutual friends if they're a thing. If they are, then just wait and see how things go between. Don't try butting into their relationship, that's not going to help with anything. However, if they aren't, then try to become closer to her or just ask her out! I know that it's nerve-wracking and awkward, but if you don't try anything, then chances are that nothing is going to happen between you two. Be confident and don't think negatively of yourself or what the results may be. However, if you do get rejected, then there are a few reasons as to why. It may be because she likes someone else, she's not ready for a relationship, she's not attracted to you, or she doesn't like your personality. If it's the first three reasons, then it's not your fault and you couldn't have done anything about it. Especially if it's the first two - it's probably nothing personal. If it's the third, then it would be hard to change your looks anyways and waiting for a relationship would most likely result in nothing but false hope. Also, it's not embarrassing for you not to reach someone's standards; people can just be picky and you can't help that. If it's the fourth reason, well... if you're a nice person, then that probably shouldn't be why. The point of me stating these possible rejection scenarios is not to discourage you or make you feel bad, but just to show that you asking her out would be better than waiting even though there's that risk of rejection. Being rejected is not horrible or the end of the world, so take the chance and just ask! Anyways, if you do end up asking her out, be confident and don't sweat it. You can do it!

[NiceGuyDave]

best bet is to be totally open and honest with her. if she's brushing you off, then it means maybe she feels awkward about the situation with you. if you have been friends for a while, maybe you've been friend zoned. regardless, if you tell her openly how you feel, she might reject you at first, but she'll love the honesty. alot of girls are flattered when a guy tells them they are infatuated by them.
there is no harm in trying.... if you dont address it straight up, you'll always be wondering.. and the moment might pass.

[RRay99]

Sounds like a messy situation. If this guy's really your friend he's a bit of a jerk I think. Girls talk, people talk. She knows you like her. Don't "fall on a sword" for her. Whatever she has with your "friend" is between them. Best thing you can do for yourself is ask another girl out and move on. Don't want to be a bitch, but trust me, girls will treat you like a door mat if you let them. My mom dates jerks so I know a nice guy when I see one and appreciate him for it, but unfortunately in high school most girls aren't like that.

[SethfromMI]

cant you ask your friend if they are dating or not?

[CreativeUsername]

Sounds like a messy situation. If this guy's really your friend he's a bit of a jerk I think. Girls talk, people talk. She knows you like her. Don't "fall on a sword" for her. Whatever she has with your "friend" is between them. Best thing you can do for yourself is ask another girl out and move on. Don't want to be a bitch, but trust me, girls will treat you like a door mat if you let them. My mom dates jerks so I know a nice guy when I see one and appreciate him for it, but unfortunately in high school most girls aren't like that.

That's another thing, how do I tell the guy that he was a jerk?

[RRay99]

Just be honest. If this guy was ever your friend at any point, then he'll appreciate what you have to say, but if he doesn't he wasn't a true friend to begin with