Can't Ejaculate?

[shotsboy123]

Hi there

I recently lost my virginity to my girlfriend at the age of 17 (please don't laugh. And I'm having difficulties coming inside her? We've had sex quite often and not once have I been able to come inside her without having to pull myself out, have a few tugs and then put myself in when ready.

Can anyone tell me what this is and how to deal with it please?

Thanks

Christopher

[Zachary G]

are you guys using condoms or are you going bare? could be your nerves -- its really hard to say what it could be, but good luck all the same. be safe.

[Uranus]

are you guys using condoms or are you going bare? could be your nerves -- its really hard to say what it could be, but good luck all the same. be safe.

I agree. Best of luck to you man. At least you can still ejac one way

[nklarke]

Maybe you need just more time ... when do you eyaculate?
I've read that if you masturbate a lot then when having sex could have these kind of problems.

[BDOG]

Just enjoy it, this is a good thing; it means you last long. Just do it until you ejaculate, also try to not go slow af (if it doesn't bother her) you have to go a decent speed to ejaculate...

[Second Chance]

Hi there

I recently lost my virginity to my girlfriend at the age of 17 (please don't laugh. And I'm having difficulties coming inside her? We've had sex quite often and not once have I been able to come inside her without having to pull myself out, have a few tugs and then put myself in when ready.

Can anyone tell me what this is and how to deal with it please?

Thanks

Christopher

I wouldn't worry about not being able to cum in your girlfriend because your problem is a lot more common than you think. I think the best thing you can do is to make sure both you and your girlfriend are totally relaxed when you're having sex. The basic problem you're having is that you might be nervous or under pressure to perform when in reality you just not going to have fun or cum when you are trying to impress your girlfriend. The next time you have sex calm down and do your best not to think about cumming but instead about enjoying the feelings. Having open communication with your girlfriend is real important especially letting each other know what feels good and what does not. Honestly, since you just lost your virginity it might take you a little while to get used to a vagina and cumming inside of it. As long as you and your girlfriend are supportive with one another and don't freak out if sex doesn't work out as planned, then you'll get the confidence to be able to cum in her. Don't worry if you can't cum in her right now, and just work on communication which will help you with your issue.

[jeans_kid]

It sounds like you are too nervous. How did you feel when you were inside her? If you felt better jacking off yourself than having sex with her, you definitely were too nervous. You probably were too eager to cum inside her and were not enjoying the process. To me, a vagina is the most comfortable place a guy can be in. You should ask yourself whether you got that feeling.

If you still can't cum inside her, having a foreplay would help. Ask her to message or kiss your sensitive regions before you two do the real thing. And don't keep thinking that you need to cum during the process. If you can be as relaxed as if you were jacking off, you will eventually ejaculate inside her.

[Your Captain]

What's so bad, she should be p!eased that you last an unlimited time

[hockeyfan]

What's so bad, she should be p!eased that you last an unlimited time

That's so true. Hats of to u!!!

[jordanhardy]

Sounds like nerves and anxiety to me. The same happened to me with a previous girlfriend, I was so worried about performing well that I struggled to cum. Just chill, enjoy the moment and it'll be fine.

[EddieHoward96]

Have to relax man, the nerves can take over and it makes it almost impossible to ejaculate.

[MattPainter]

I just relax and feel the moment. Do the same and don't rush it! If you are using a condom of course it may take longer since you have an extra layer.

[shotsboy123]

Problem solved!

I started thinking less about coming inside her and more about the fun and passion it contained, it happened!

Thanks guys

[kay_jay]

Problem solved!

I started thinking less about coming inside her and more about the fun and passion it contained, it happened!

Thanks guys

Good for you :)