Tesserax
November 3rd, 2014, 07:21 AM
Alright so I had suspicions for awhile, but it was recently confirmed that my crush is in a long-distance-relationship. I didn't expect it to, but the revelation hit me had and it's really eating away at me. I asked her best friend about it and all she could really say is to accept the fact that it's been going on for awhile and hasn't ended, and to try to get over it. I know I need to do this, but I just can't for some reason.
Every time I think of the situation I just feel a knot in my chest, and it's really tearing me up.
A little bit of info just to give the situation a little bit of context:
We go to the same school
We're good friends
Found out on Halloween when we played a little truth or dare and both "secrets" were revealed
Her crush/boyfriend (it's complicated, I'm still not entirely sure what the relationship actually is) has been away for about a year and came back once, and they were apparently "really good [with each other]" in that short period, and I'm not sure what that means (original quote: "we were pretty/really good", something like that, gosh darn memory -.-)
It'd be great if I could get any advice/help from anybody, thanks in advance if anybody can help :/
Note: I've hear advice from all places saying stuff like:
Let her go!*
Keep her out of your life!*
Love yourself!
Surround yourself with friends!
Remind yourself of all the bad things she did to you!*
The the stars show the ones that I can't really do, because one I've never been in a relationship with her (or anybody else for that matter), two we go to the same school and we're good friends and I'm not letting this petty crush ruin that, and three she has done nothing wrong or bad to me, she is basically an angel, I have searched my memory for everything bad about her and I can basically find nothing lol
The other two I am already doing/trying to do, but it's not exactly the most effective
Again, good help and advice is much appreciated, thanks guys :/
Edit: I'm hanging onto the lose hope that it will end, and I can't let go for some reason. It's like I'm on the end of the rope, and below me it's really dark and I feel like if I fall i'm going to die, but I know that right below me is water but I don't want to, just in case there isn't
Every time I think of the situation I just feel a knot in my chest, and it's really tearing me up.
A little bit of info just to give the situation a little bit of context:
We go to the same school
We're good friends
Found out on Halloween when we played a little truth or dare and both "secrets" were revealed
Her crush/boyfriend (it's complicated, I'm still not entirely sure what the relationship actually is) has been away for about a year and came back once, and they were apparently "really good [with each other]" in that short period, and I'm not sure what that means (original quote: "we were pretty/really good", something like that, gosh darn memory -.-)
It'd be great if I could get any advice/help from anybody, thanks in advance if anybody can help :/
Note: I've hear advice from all places saying stuff like:
Let her go!*
Keep her out of your life!*
Love yourself!
Surround yourself with friends!
Remind yourself of all the bad things she did to you!*
The the stars show the ones that I can't really do, because one I've never been in a relationship with her (or anybody else for that matter), two we go to the same school and we're good friends and I'm not letting this petty crush ruin that, and three she has done nothing wrong or bad to me, she is basically an angel, I have searched my memory for everything bad about her and I can basically find nothing lol
The other two I am already doing/trying to do, but it's not exactly the most effective
Again, good help and advice is much appreciated, thanks guys :/
Edit: I'm hanging onto the lose hope that it will end, and I can't let go for some reason. It's like I'm on the end of the rope, and below me it's really dark and I feel like if I fall i'm going to die, but I know that right below me is water but I don't want to, just in case there isn't